How To Radiate a Cool, Attractive Energy

Matthew McConaughey gives off an almost effortless feeling of being cool so today we'll break down some of the habits that make him so charismatic and how you can incorporate them into your own life it's worth noting while Matthew McConaughey is very handsome his confidence and Charisma can apply to you no matter what you look like the first habit you can learn from Matthew is to set the mood at the start of every interaction Matthew moves slowly and is never rushed when speaking this gives off a relaxed feeling no matter the situation just watch how he

enters The Colbert Show [Music] leave me you'll notice he walks in slow and his pace is very relaxed as he looks around smiling this conveys a Carefree attitude that sets the tone from the start and Frames the rest of your conversation imagine the difference it would make if he entered quickly and walked straight to the host with tight body language now relaxed isn't the only mood you can set you can set playful flirty high energy whatever you want determine the mood you want for an interaction and spend the first 10 to 20 seconds bringing that

energy you'll also see Matthew greets everyone around him he takes the time to intentionally acknowledge the band and the audience many people make the mistake of only greeting the people they think can benefit them so you see them only try to talk to the most attractive or coolest person in a group or at an interview they'll blow off whoever's at the front desk only being kind to the person they think has the power to give them the job this type of focused Charisma makes people feel like you're trying to get something from them which is

off-putting so the next time you're walking into an interview a workplace meeting or social group take three to five seconds to greet each person for a stronger first impression combine this with some form of touch whether it's a hug or just a handshake now it's clear that that trademark energy that Matthew creates is one of comfort and relaxation so much so that other actors joke they inherit those vibes just from spending time with him I've been around him a few times that everybody just kind of does what he's up to absolutely totally like all of

a sudden you're with him and all of a sudden you find yourself kind of like leaning him back oh you lean bag you talk you know you maybe don't enunciate one reason for this is that He makes himself comfortable in every environment just look at his body language in this clip from Craig Ferguson he's nice Michael isn't he yeah he's really he's funny Rocky yeah he's no he's not fair all right um I'll tell you something Matthew you know what he told me well Matthew lounges back in his chair with his arms raped over the

side this exudes that informal I don't give a care attitude that is one of the main ingredients of his charm to try this in your own life next time you want to look relaxed Under Pressure try the simple Act of taking up slightly more space than you usually would and opening your body language a nice bonus to this your physical Comfort will translate to mental Comfort putting you more at ease so not only will you appear confident and relaxed you'll also feel it Beyond just the body language itself what makes Matthew seem so cool is

that he stays anchored to himself watch this next clip from The Graham Norton Show everyone else on the couch is sitting straight up but Matthew doesn't try to blend in I would kick your ass at the fairgrounds he even puts his drink on the ground instead of the table so he can Lounge back even more many people would feel social pressure to sit up straight to try to fit in especially around a dominant personality like John Cena but Matthew does the opposite he stays in his own frame instead of joining theirs staying true to yourself

even when it makes you stand out can show tremendous confidence this isn't to say you should never try to change your habits or grow as a person it's about choosing what kind of person you want to be again whether that's relaxed high energy playful kind choose who you want to be and don't stop just to blend in with the other people around you now no matter who you are there is one more habit you can steal from Matthew to instantly become more charismatic in conversation become a magnetic Storyteller storytelling is a conversational superpower if you

can tell good stories people will love being around you and everyone has a fantastic Story to Tell in the rest of this video you'll see that you can turn anything into a fun story even something as mundane as changing a flight or sending an email all you have to do is know how to tell it one key to a magnetic story is using a good pre-frame this hooks people to listen to what you're saying listen to this next clip for a quick example oh yeah it's fun this is a really fun one just one pre-frame

sentence can be enough to hook people here's another funny story you can also do this simply by hinting that there's a good story to be told for instance listen to how Matthew answers George Lopez in this next clip George just asked him about growing up in an area where being white made him a minority notice how he's purposely vague with a smirk and a smile in his eyes that gets George to ask for more detail you know there was there was times where he'll probably went some places it wouldn't have been recommended and pulled off

some pulled off some some some cultural exchanges at late nights restaurants I wouldn't necessarily call this place a restaurant once you have people hooked there's several tricks to telling a good story the first is to recognize that people are wired to love emotional Journeys so don't just describe what happened share your emotional experience during the story for example listen to Matthew talk about later that same night when a group of guys approach him and his friend outside the bar you look just like the white my little brother my little brother my heart rate starts beating

I'm going I don't know where this is going another trick you saw there to make your stories interesting is to act out your characters here's another example from a second later my buddy who's lit right the buck 25 guy who he's lit he goes 16. how do you have time to count right and at this moment let's watch one more quick example this could have been a complete non-story but pay attention to how Matthew tells it he starts with his emotional journey and he ends by acting out his past self for context this is about

sending his director his vision for the character Dallas and Magic Mike all right and I send it to our director Steven soderber and then anticipate I can't wait to see what he says I'm kind of nervous you know what's he gonna say oh I'm on the right track with you he's happy with where I'm going one day nothing two days nothing three days nothing four days later it comes up his email I'm like oh there it is I clear the room sending an email and waiting four days to hear back doesn't seem like much of

a story but if you play your characters and take people on the emotional Journey that makes it story worthy to you you'll have people captivated now you may feel intimidated to play the characters in your story after all most of us aren't professional actors like Matthew but you don't need a spot on impression to Captivate people any change to your speaking Cadence and posture will make your stories more engaging listen to the crowd laugh in this next clip when Matthew switches to playing his mom when she's upset to hear they're extending their stay in Greece

hang on a minute hang on a minute Mom hey everyone we got another week you would have thought you'd say thank you she's selfish and she's like I have to get back to my pilates class on Tuesday and I need to go to my salon to get my nails done when there aren't characters to play there's another trick you can use to keep people captivated tell the story with your hands they're playing cards looking around my dad sees this old BMX bike and we couldn't afford a BMX bike now my middle brother had been wanting

a BMX motorcycle but we couldn't afford it there's this old CRX 80 over there and by now you've probably noticed the last trick for magnetic storytelling if you want to hook people tell your stories in the present tense put them right in your story experiencing it as it happened listen to this quick example where Matthew talks about getting his part in Angels in the Outfield he pre-frames speaks in the present tells it with his hands and acts out his character all in less than 30 seconds I walk in the door there's a bunch of funny

peculiaries how the hell I got to be standing here today I walk in the door of his backlit I remember I had a American cap on that was on Warner Brothers lot I open up the doors backlit in the afternoon producers sitting on the couch he looks up he goes hey look at you the All-American good does he ever played baseball I said 12 years because she got the job now there's a lot going on in this video and you may be wondering how do you actually remember all this when you're around other people especially

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