IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE HARD - Inspirational Speech

get up you son of a [ __ ] cuz Mickey loves you it's supposed to be hard if it wasn't hard everyone would do it the hard is what makes it great you need to just keep living listen to the pain it's both history teacher and fortune tell pain teaches us who we are we sometimes it's so bad we feel like we're dying but we can't really live till we died a little C people don't get it there's there's great joy in The Grind Great Joy in the suffer it's it totally cleanses your body out

man if any kind of hate makes you grow up there really are only two macro level motivators that we have in life and that's Pleasure and Pain I want people to understand is okay so if nature only gave you two things to motivate you Pleasure and Pain why would you eliminate half of them and so most people think that life is about avoiding the pain I'm here to tell you right now in a very controlled fashion it is about really experiencing the pain learning from it pain plus reflection equals progress what I want to invite

you to do what I want you to consider is that every single time you go and do something hard that's the story you've told yourself that it's easier said than done you know it's it's kind of hard to do that well it's supposed to be hard look if growing stronger if growing stronger and building muscle wereing easy you'd have no reason to go to the gym you'd have no there would be no growth if there was no Challenge and I'm answering your questions every question I'm answering it I'm with you but in the back of

my mind all I'm thinking about is all the times I could have won those matches that I lost by not bringing my best mindset you're haunted by all the opportunities that you missed by not bringing your best at that time when you could have won but you didn't win because you allowed life to interfere with that one shot when you're sitting there getting ready to serve for the match and your mind is not thinking about where that bald place needs to be but thinking about your family this or this at work or that at work

that's greatness greatness is your recall on every single shot that you missed throughout a 20 some year career every shot you can go back and say I was here this person was in the red shirt there greatness is being so aware of the time of life in the second that went by and you can recall like it was yesterday greatness is being able to go back there not making that same mistake again and being haunted by it failure has been achieved Thank God now the only place to go from failure is to win you have

to achieve failure you have to take it that far nobody wants to go that far it's too scary but you know something I got news for you that's where winning is it always has been the one thing I would tell them is and I would tell them to get tattooed on your arm like and they would say it's supposed to be [ __ ] hard I think finding uncomfortable moments and embracing uncomfortable moments are one of the most important things a person can do in terms of understanding themselves and understanding how they think and if

you don't do it if you just didn't avoid it you have that uncomfortable moment you just start boozing or you know you take some pills or something and you just avoid it you're you're never going to figure out what was going on in the first place that led you down that weird Road where now you find yourself crying in a fetal position on your bathroom floor like what how'd you get there like are you looking at it or are you just going to take the scream to me the other night hey Will I want to

be an actor man I want to be an actor just like you you know usually people say stuff to me like that I'm like yeah man you know you do give him an encouraging word but I was just sitting here thinking and it dawned on me 99% of people that say stuff like that are not willing to do what it takes to make their dreams come true the Marines have a saying everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die and that's just real at the center of bringing any dream into fruition is

self disipline you know some something as simple as food and eating it it's not about your your body as much as it is about your mind it's getting command of your mind to be able to choose actions that are in your own best interest every day we are choosing that's not in our own best interest right so if the world is attacking you and the world wants to fight you and the world's trying to hold you down so you going to kick yourself in the balls you will stop yourself from getting what you dream self

disipline is the center of all material success you cannot win the war against the world if you can't win the war against your own mind do you think discipline in and of itself is the root or do you think discipline within the framework of a direction because you you had the business you had the vision for who you wanted to be you were point towards that and disciplin got you there if somebody's not pointed anywhere would you give them different advice yeah I think I would I think that if if someone has zero plan zero

future land out and ahead of them they don't need to just Implement discipline into their life they don't need to go out and learn 10K a day for 70 days or train twice and drink this much water and do this I think they need to take the first little step whether that's trying to figure out what it is that you want to do what are you actually good at everyone's good at something right if you can leverage that one thing and make it become your life eventually it will lead to success and I'm sure like

you can I'm sure everyone can be successful in in a field of what they do I don't know what the timelines are on that it could be 50 years it could be 10 years it could be one year you see like singers blow up after 6 months of singing but you'll see a business person like me blow up after 12 years or you'll see a a businessman that sells cars and it'll take him 35 years there's no timeline for it it's just about taking that first step whether that first step is reading a book mental

health going for a room like whatever that thing is just just give it a go just try it see if you can stack it up and if you enjoy it keep going at and needs motivation for breakfast you don't need motivation it's great if it arrives it's some extra fuel on the fire but discipline is the thing that you need what would you tomorrow want you today to do you tomorrow would want you to keep that promise there has to be something this is this is what I'm talking about now because this isn't a hack

this has to be in you something in you has to wake up and usually the only person that can wake it up is you sometimes you can read a David goin's book because I was all this and then a lot more of [ __ ] up but if you don't have a little flame you know just that just barely you're done I can't I can't lie it for you and that's the harsh reality of this life that I want to get across soing bad you can watch me you can watch you you can watch Rogan

and Cameron haes all these mother you can go to Tony Robinson bull all this do all this if you you could keep going back and keep spending money and spending money and spending money with no results you're going wonder wow maybe let me go try out David Doggins he ain't going toing help you you have to explore examine the insides of yourself and what do you really want out of life your friend a lot of people out here just don't want it so guess what have fun with your life it's a lot easier to sit

around and make a list of what you're going to do in the future what's easier it's easier to take out a pen and a piece of paper and write things down and so people will substitute that action for the action that will actually change them and make them better and move them closer to that version of who they know they can become so let's just be careful just be careful be careful of getting caught in that planning phase of who you can become be careful of that planning phase cuz the planning phase should be about

3 seconds long and there's time to go get after it make your move before you're ready I'll tell you where Big Dreams go to die they go to the planning Place preparing myself and it's the biggest con job we work on ourselves there are so many bones of Big Dreams in that CR yard where people there's always going to be a set of reasons to wait when you want to achieve the highest goal of all time you are going to have to learn how to get your ass kicked all the way up that damn M

if I want to be way up here it's going to take a bunch of small micro failures along the way but you have to understand that that is part of the [Music] process the reality is when you do things that are easy in life you don't value them as much when you do things that are difficult and that require you to dig really deep then you value them more it's easy to quit it's easier to try something that's already been done before it's harder when you don't know what the end result will be it's harder

when you face the uphill Challenge and you deal with it you face it head on it's where you build confidence in yourself that's where you you build your own self-esteem you know if things are given to you you never have a sense of how difficult it is to actually earn it regret hurts more than discipline because when you're disciplined and you act on the things that you're supposed to do you won't ever have to look back and say dang would have could have should have so do it now so you don't have to do it

later the most powerful voice you'll ever hear is the one inside your own head because that voice is often fueled by fear and insecurity your mind can remind you of the past it can criticize you and make you question yourself worth but you can change that don't be afraid to question the stories you create in your head focus on what you want and you'll start to see opportunities or obstacles once were you get up in theor what are you going to do I'm going to win today well just by saying that you're going to win

today you ain't going to win today it's a jungle out there see most of us we come out to compete every single day the jungle comes to win cuz the jungle is always prepare you know the things that you think about all the time that you don't tell anybody right you can do that thing you actually can achieve it and you should believe in yourself you should believe in those things because they're there for a reason they're not in your mind they're not in your heart just to be there ever you feel negative or unhappy

about anything you say wait a minute I'm responsible I'm responsible for my life I'm responsible for what happens I can't change the past so I'm not going to spend a second worrying about the past your time is limited so don't waste it living someone else's life don't be trapped by Dogma which is living with the results of other people's thinking don't let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice and most important have the courage to follow your heart and intuition they somehow already know what you truly want to become everything else

is secondary your biggest enemy is you people don't understand is you against you the only person that gets in your way is you nobody else and stuck is a signal that you've stopped growing and when most people feel stuck they don't understand that it's tied to a fundamental need for growth we believe it's an existential crisis and we blow up our lives for most human beings what actually will get you feeling like you're not stuck is having something in the future that you're looking forward to learning anything gets you back in touch with a fundamental

need it makes you start to feel like things are moving and from that place of feeling a little bit more empowered you'll be able to make better decisions about what big things need to change in your life your current situation is not your final destination there's more to your life and I know right now it's hard for you to believe that but but I need you to believe it like everything you're currently facing is building you for something greater you're more than your struggles you're more than your pain I know you feel like nobody understands

you nobody gets you I know you feel alone and isolated so I want to tell you I'm proud of you for not giving up when it's so easy too I know what Darkness looks like I know what it feels like to be alone with no motivation no drive no passion and what has to come out of youring soul in the darkest of times but if you are able to get up every morning have no passion no drive no motivation and still get up with that kind of fire you will be successful in life I guarantee

you that the darkest Place someone can be is standing still the dark Place someone can be is when they are alive but they are not living the darkest Place someone can be is when they are no longer making progress everyone talks about the destination but very few people talk about the journey that's where the iron is forged in the monotony of doing the right thing day in and day out your part of the deal is to keep showing up for yourself to stick around and see what happens when you really go all in don't just

settle for me mediocrity just hold up your end of the bargain and watch how life will turn in your favor you can't avoid the Peaks and valys in life they say you can't avoid the Peaks and valys in life life will always have the ups and downs so make peace with it how hard are you really working I don't know about you but I I don't encounter many people who are completely committed to their craft in our society where it is very unpopular to have a sickening completely committed dedicated work ethic it's not the norm

I believe people who think this way don't know what it's like to push yourself to the limits don't know what it's like to work your absolute best give everything you have sacrifice commit work hard and that feeling of growth of progress of even reaching a milestone in your journey how amazing that feels consistency is even rarer than Talent OR enthusiasm every January 1st in the gym Rock open and everyone's Keen to do something they've got these new New Year's resolutions they're all enthusiastic and some of those people will be talented but how many of those

people end up being consistent long [Music] term death is not waiting behind that door right now every second you are between life and death one day it just stays with this then this is going to happen so in the moment where you realize it could be my last action right now that I do having this type of s on the mind it could be your last hopefully makes you wake up to really focus on the things that are important for you because many things are starting to fall away when somebody tell you look you only

have one more week to live many problems that at the moment people are caring about they will just disappear then they wake up and realize this shortness of Life how precious it actually is that we are able to be here live your life the way that you want to leave your life ladies and gentlemen as I speak to you right now if you had 90 days to live how many of you will make some radical changes in your life if you look at Nelson Mandel if you look at mother Trace if you look at mahat

mandhi who died with under 10 possessions these people were World Changers these people were Radical optimists these people suffered because the root of the word passion means to suffer they suffered for their dream they suffered for their values they suffered for their cause they suffered for their followers they suffered for their greatness Game of Life are people are going to to hit you they're going to claw you they're going to scratch you they're going to bite you it's just the part of life and instead of taking everything personally you have to see that it's like

a gladiator battle and that some people are bad some people are good some people are not are in between but stop taking everything personally and try to learn from it so if you make a mistake what you want to do if you have failure in life something didn't go right you want to have the the ability to look it Inward and say what did I do wrong and a lot of people don't have that inner strength but if if you want to be successful if you want to get ahead in this world you have to

develop this skill you have to be able to look at yourself as if you were somebody else as from the outside and say Here's how I could improve here's what I did wrong the last time I did it great life is in front of you it's not behind you what you did back there was learn the lessons to get you to where you are at this particular moment right here do you know man that you can actually mess your life completely up you can jack it all the way up and you can turn around and

get it right what type of reality are you even living what type of reality are you living are you living a proactive reality where you're continually problem solving and looking at all the different ways that you could manipulate guide or push your reality that you want in your favor or are you living a reactive reality where you just continually uh allow what is going to happen happen well I can tell you right now if you live in a reactive reality you need to stop because if you really want to live the life of your dreams

you have got to start living a proactive reality so if you're in the woods and you don't know where to go start walking you got to start walking cuz the perspective is not going to change you have to start moving forward you have to start start taking steps in order to improve your vision improve your perspective change your perspective make some kind of progress and worst case scenario you figure out that you walked the wrong direction okay now you can walk in the other direction and that's that's going to be fine but standing there lost

and not doing anything is just waiting to die waiting to starve to death don't let that happen everything that you are everything that you're becoming is a resilient pad of growth on that pad is a launch that's where you take off that's where you find out what you really made of it's not about waiting until the end and one day you'll go after it make today day one today is the day that I decided I wanted to be great so I'm going to do it I decided I want to go after my goals after my

dreams dreams that's the mindset that you have to have because today is the day you were given breath I'm here with a purpose and live on purpose not off of your resume of where you've been but on the DI Direction and understanding of where you're going there's a call on you it's time for you to answer [Music] it taking responsibility doesn't mean you blame yourself it means you become accountable for everything that happened because it's the only way to improve it's the only way to see real progress if you're constantly blaming something else for your

circumstances it means you're giving up the opportunity to be in control it might not be your fault but it's your job to make the most of every situation and do the best with what you have so do it take responsibility for all of it because that's when things start to get good you know there comes a day man everyone's going to have this day there comes a day where being average being mediocre is just sickening to you it's just sickening it makes you want to throw up because you've seen people with far less Talent than

you as you growing up with them they childhood buddies whever else they didn't have what you had yet now they're become something that you haven't there comes that day it's either when you're young you know and and it strikes you on the baseball field cuz you're sick of striking out or it's it's when you get fired from your fifth job you know when your wife and kids are on your ass cuz they don't know how to support them anymore there comes a day where push comes to shove where being mediocre being like average and just

burns it sucks so much you can't deal with it one more day and you get off your ass and you create something it's always been there it's always been inside of you trying to come out but you've never wanted to unwrap because it's too much pain and commitment you were scared you're going to fail you were scared if you started you never finish it you didn't want to tell anyone about it you knew it was there but you never wanted to embark on it until something hits you get fired or somebody else get success remind

you what you could have been and then theing spark is born and no matter what happens I'm never going to be in this boat again and you get up and you go even gets knocked down you keep going keep going you're a wild man and life is never been so sweet it's time to unwrap the potential you can be it's within you it's within every single one of us and the people that had risen to that level were no different than any one of us it say they believed it and they were willing to work

their ass off to get it it wasn't about the potential it wasn't about the genetics it was about the perseverance and it was about being the hardest worker in the room that's what got him there and it didn't happen overnight I'm not talented it was life and death either you live or you die which one do you want Tom that was the decision in the corporate life and in the gym but if you want something bad enough if you want something bad enough you can't let anybody tell you you can't do something I'll repeat that

if you want something bad enough you can't let anybody tell you you can't do something not even yourself a lot of days I'm like oh you can't do this Tom [ __ ] let me show you I mean I I would have arguments with myself I could do it people doubted me I doubted myself sometimes too you know what I watched Arnold fall down nobody remembers when he fell down Arnold wasn't the glorified winner as he was in the first 70375 he got up I'm become a famous film star he became Governor he kept getting

up and getting up I saw Trump do the same thing I saw a lot of these guys I admired in business do it and that's what it takes to do anything successfully in life you've got to want it as bad as you want to breathe and if you want it that bad if you're willing to give it that much you get a big piece of what you want and life and dreams do come true anything you want can happen become a reality I believe that sincerely and I'll die on that thought yeah you must hope

and believe in yourself if you ever want to see what that hope can turn into that that belief can turn into by doing this every day repetitively those are the measures that lead to the big moments of success that everyone sees in life no one sees a struggle in here no one sees a hardship the early mornings you get up no one sees any of that they see if your hands raised or not and if it is oh what a great guy I wish I could be that guy I wish I could be that guy

but they're not capping wishing they could beat you at 5: in the morning when you get out bed when it's pissing rain outside to come and train for that hand TB race they don't want to be that guy they just want the glory and that's the differential of a champion you know in adversity guys is where you find [Music] character cor for I love this game I live this game and there's a thousand other guys waiting in the wings who are obsessed with this game obsession is going to be Talent every time you got all

the talent in the world but are you obsessed when you walk on that Court you have to think I am the best guy out there the hardest thing in life is figuring out who you are and what you want to do for the rest of your life and once you figure that out you wake up every day and you work toward it it's impossible for you to fail if you know who you are what you want to do and you wake up every day and work toward it when I seen that Bentley at the boxing

gym and I seen that diamond Rolex I said I want that and I knew what it took so I know when my opponent isleep I'm out there at 4:00 or 5 in the morning chopping trees working to this day cuz I can retire today I'm well off very comfortable but I got the will to win take yourself out your comfort zone do not live in your bubble put some more air in your bubble if you stay in your comfort zone that's where you will fail you will fail in your comfort zone success is not a

comfortable procedure what if we have that kind of attitude the cars repossessed nobody believes in you you've lost again and again and again the lights are cut off but you're still looking at your dream R viewing it every day and say to yourself it's not over until I win the heaviest things in life aren't iron and gold but unmade decisions the reason you are stressed is that you have decisions to make and you're not making them embrace the process then by the time you get up in years you can be a man that you're proud

of okay so this is just an encouragement to just chill out just chill out embrace the process you said Dwayne want process life be the guy who Embraces the ugly the miserable um be the guy who Embraces hard work the grind don't be afraid of being hurt don't be afraid of a sa price in some blood you cannot change your life unless you change something if you always do what you always did you'll always get what you always got he believed in himself and you can too you can do anything that that you want you

can get singing lessons get a better job make more money you could be even like Rich you could live in a White House someday you could be president do what you want to do it's not up to other people it's up to you he always afraid to take the first step because all you see is every negative thing 10 Mi down the road but you can do anything you want you are bound by nothing what are you passionate about some of y'all don't want it that's why you ain't got it excuses sound best to the

person that's making them up there's pretty much nothing that you can say that you went through that I haven't went through and I'm still here stop feeling sorry for yourself get off the pity potty wake your ass up