7 Signs That Someone Dislikes You and is Hiding it | STOIC PHILOSOPHY

let's get real most people are too afraid to tell you to your face that they don't like you instead they hide behind fake Smiles Hollow compliments and forced politeness I've been there too thinking someone was a friend only to find out they were secretly hoping for my downfall it's brutal but here's the truth if you don't recognize the signs you'll end up wasting your time and energy on people who deep down can't understand you so let's cut through the BS and talk about the signs that someone dislikes you but is hiding it you might not

like what you hear but it's better to face the truth than live in denial one they're always joking about your flaws we all know that one person who loves to joke especially when The Joke is on You they'll pick at your quirks your mistakes your little Perfections and they do it with a smile saying I'm just messing with you it seems harmless at first but let's not kid ourselves these jokes are often more than just playful banter their calculated digs cleverly disguised as humor meant to chip away at your self-esteem bit by bit I remember

a time when I was close to someone who seemed to always have something to say about me how I dressed the way I spoke even the projects I was working on at first I laughed it off thinking it was all in good fun but as time went on I noticed a pattern the jokes were always aimed at my perceived weaknesses never at my strengths it wasn't long before I started second guessing myself wondering if maybe I was the problem if maybe these flaws were as glaring as they made them out to be here's where the

controversy kicks in people who consistently joke about your flaws aren't doing it out of affection they're testing the waters to see how much disrespect you'll take it's a subtle form of manipulation a way for them to assert dominance while keeping you in your place they're telling you in no uncertain terms that you're beneath them and the most Insidious part they get away with it because we've been conditioned to believe that if we can't take a joke we're the ones with the problem but let's flip that script I'm here to tell you that there's nothing wrong

with standing up for yourself when a joke crosses the line in fact it's essential you deserve to be around people who lift you up not those who knock you down just to get a cheap laugh true friends don't need to point out your flaws to feel better about themselves they celebrate your strengths and help you work through your weaknesses without making you the butt of the joke I've seen it happen time and again people who let these kinds of jokes slide thinking it's easier to keep the peace than to make waves but here's the Deep

truth allowing others to disrespect you even in justest is a slippery slope it starts with small comments but over time those jokes can wear you down making you question your worth and the more you allow it the more they'll push until you're left doubting yourself all because you didn't want want to seem too sensitive I had to learn this the hard way I realized that by laughing along I was giving them permission to keep going I was complicit in my own disrespect it wasn't until I started pushing back setting boundaries that I noticed a shift

not just in how they treated me but in how I saw myself I stopped letting their words Define me and started owning my narrative so here's my advice the next time someone makes a joke at your expense don't just laugh it off ask yourself is this really funny or is there something more going on here and if the answer is the latter don't be afraid to call them out it might be uncomfortable it might even end the Friendship but your self-respect is worth far more than someone's misguided sense of humor in the end Life's too

short to surround yourself with people who can't see your value if their idea of friendship is constantly pointing out your flaws then it's time to find new friends the ones who truly care about you will never need to put you down to feel good about themselves so Stand Tall speak up and don't let anyone reduce you to a punchline two they give compliments that sting like insults we've all been there someone gives you a compliment but instead of feeling good you're left with a bitter aftertaste like you've just been slapped with a velvet glove it's

the kind of compliment that makes you pause and think wait was that a compliment or an insult and here's the harsh reality often it's a bit of both these back-handed Compliments are a subtle almost sneaky way for people to undermine you while pretending to be kind I remember a time when I was working on a big project that I was incredibly proud of after putting in countless hours of hard work I finally shared it with a group of colleagues one of them someone I thought was a supporter said with a smile wow this is actually

pretty good for someone like you I stood there stunned on the surface it seemed like a compliment but those last few words for someone like you hit me like a ton of bricks what did that even mean was I not supposed to be capable of doing good work and that's the controversy here these so-called Compliments are laced with a hidden agenda they're not meant to uplift you they're designed to keep you in your place it's a power play a way for the person giving the compliment to assert their superiority while making you doubt your own

abilities they're saying I see you trying but you'll never be as good as me it's toxic but it's wrapped up in such a pretty package that you almost miss the poison inside let's be real people who give back-handed Compliments are often insecure themselves they see your potential your strengths and it scares them so they use these sly little digs to keep you second and guessing yourself to make sure you don't rise too high it's like they're patting you on the back while holding you down with the other hand and here's where it gets even more

controversial we've all done it at some point maybe not intentionally but we've all let our insecurities slip out in the form of a compliment that's meant to remind someone else of their place but here's the Deep message you don't have to accept this disguised hostility you have the power to reject it to see it for what it really is a reflection of their own insecurities not a measure of your worth when someone says you're smarter than you look or this is good considering you're new at this you don't have to swallow it whole call it

out for what it is even if it makes things awkward because if you don't you're allowing them to dictate how you see yourself and that's a power you should never hand over to anyone I've learned to recognize these compliments for what they are a mirror reflecting someone else's insecurities and when you see it that way it loses its sting instead of internalizing it you can almost laugh it off because at the end of the day their words say more about them than they ever will about you so here's what I do now when I receive

a backhanded compliment I don't let it slide I'll respond with something like thanks but what do you mean by that it forces them to confront the insult hidden in their words and more often than not it puts them on the spot they're suddenly aware that you're not playing their game and it's amazing how quickly their tune changes the takeaway don't let anyone's veiled negativity Define you whether it's a well-meaning friend a jealous colleague or even a family member remember this your worth isn't Up For Debate compliments should lift you up not tear you down if

someone's words leave you questioning yourself it's time to question their intentions instead life is too short to waste on people who can't genuinely celebrate your successes surround yourself with those who see your value and aren't afraid to let you know it without any strings attached three they subtly exclude you from plans it's the little things that Sting the most like realizing that your so-called friends accidentally forgot to invite you to that dinner that party or that weekend getaway they'll swear it was an oversight that it was a last minute thing or Worse they'll assume you

were too busy anyway but let's be real these aren't accidents this is social exclusion in its sneakiest form and it's a clear sign that you're not as valued as you think I've been on the receiving end of this too many times I remember checking my phone one weekend and seeing pictures of a group of friends having a great time at an event I would have loved to attend the kicker not a single person mentioned it to me beforehand when I casually brought it up later they were full of excuses oh we thought you were busy

or it was such a last minute plan but deep down I knew the truth if they wanted me there they would have made sure I knew about it and here's where the controversy comes in the this kind of exclusion isn't just thoughtlessness it's deliberate it's a way of sending a message without saying a word they don't want you there but they don't have the guts to tell you to your face instead they hope you'll just fade out of the group quietly without causing a scene it's passive aggressive and it's cowardly but it's also incredibly common

people don't talk about this much because it's easier to pretend it's not happening it's easier to swallow the excuses to convince yourself that it really was just a mistake rather than face the painful truth that you're being pushed out but here's the thing if you keep accepting those excuses you're giving them permission to keep excluding you you're letting them decide your place in their lives rather than taking control of your own narrative I had to learn this the hard way for a while I kept quiet letting those accidental exclusions SL hoping that maybe next time

I'd be included but then I realized that by staying silent I was allowing myself to be treated as an afterthought so I did something controversial I started calling them out on it I'd say hey I saw you guys went out last weekend why didn't anyone invite me it wasn't easy and it definitely made things awkward but it also forced them to confront their behavior and guess what the Dynamics changed some people got defensive others tried to make up for it but the bottom line was clear I wasn't going to let them exclude me without a

fight here's the Deep message if people want you in their lives they'll make the effort to include you no matter how last minute the plan is and if they don't then it's time to rethink the value of those relationships you deserve to be a around people who don't make you feel like you're constantly chasing after their approval or their attention true friends don't forget to invite you they make sure you're there because they genuinely enjoy your company so if you find yourself being subtly excluded from plans don't just brush it off confront it ask the

hard questions and be prepared for the answers even if they're not what you want to hear because at the end of the day it's better to know where you truly stand than to be left wondering why you were left out again and remember you're not a backup option you're a priority surround yourself with people who treat you like one four they're busy only when it comes to you we've all heard it before I'm so busy these days sorry I can't hang out it's the perfect excuse after all who isn't busy but what happens when you

start noticing a pattern they're always available for others posting pictures of their outings catching up with mutual friends but when it comes to you suddenly they're swamped here's the cold hard truth they're not too busy they're just too busy for you I've been in that frustrating situation more times than I care to admit I remember reaching out to a friend I used to be close with trying to set up a time to catch up every time I suggested something they'd have an excuse I'm working late I've got a lot on my plate maybe next week

meanwhile I'd see them hanging out with other people having a great time somehow always finding a way to make time for everyone except me it took me longer than I'd like to admit to see the pattern the message they were sending was loud and clear I wasn't a priority in their life anymore here's where the controversy comes in we've been condition to accept busy as a valid reason to be pushed aside but let's be honest people make time for what and who they care about if they're constantly busy when it comes to you it's not

about their schedule it's about their priorities and that's a hard pill to swallow because it forces you to confront the reality that you might not be as important to them as they are to you the harsh reality is that busy is of often a polite way of saying I don't want to spend time with you it's easier for them to blame it on their schedule than to admit that they're choosing not to include you in their life it's a passive aggressive way of keeping you at arms length without having to deal with the confrontation that

would come with telling you the truth they want to keep you on the hook just in case without actually investing in the relationship I've been on both sides of this there were times when I was the one making excuses because I didn't know how to tell someone that I'd outgrown the Friendship but being on the receiving end taught me a valuable lesson it's better to be honest even if it's uncomfortable than to string someone along with excuses when I finally called out my friend on always being busy the conversation was awkward but it was necessary

it gave me the clarity I needed to move on and invest my time and energy in relationships where I was valued and here's the Deep message your time is precious and so is your energy don't waste it on people who can't be bothered to make time for you if someone is constantly too busy for you it's time to reassess the relationship you deserve to be around people who are excited to see you who make an effort to include you in their lives not just when it's convenient for them but because they genuinely enjoy your company

it's important to recognize that people change and so do relationships sometimes we hold on to people out of habit Nostalgia or fear of being alone even when they've clearly moved on but there's strength in letting go in acknowledging that you deserve more than someone's leftover time it's not about being needy or demanding it's about valuing yourself enough to walk away from those who don't value you five they avoid physical contact like the plague let's talk about the elephant in the room physical contact or rather the lack of it we're not just talking about romantic relationships

here physical contact is a basic human interaction a way of connecting and building trust so what does it mean when someone goes out of their way to avoid even the most casual touch the answer isn't pretty there sending a clear signal that they're uncomfortable around you and it's time to pay attention I once had a colleague who seemed to recoil every time I reached out for a handshake or a friendly pat on the back at first I thought I was imagining things but then I noticed it wasn't just me they were warm and tactile with

everyone else but when it came to me it was like I had the plague it wasn't long before I realized that their avoidance of physical contact was more than just a quirk it was a deliberate effort to keep me at a distance here's the controversial part physical contact is a natural part of human interaction and when someone consistently avoids it they're communicating a lack of comfort or connection sure some people just aren't touchy feely and that's okay but when it's selective when they're fine hugging others but stiffen up around you it's a red flag that

something's off they might not dislike you enough to say it outright but their body language is doing all the talking and let's be honest we've all been there on both sides of the equation maybe you've avoided a handshake or leaned back when someone got too close because you just weren't feeling the vibe or maybe you've been on the receiving end wondering why someone always seems to Flinch when you're around it's uncomfortable it's awkward and it's often a sign that the relationship isn't as strong as you'd like to think but here's the deeper truth physical contact

is a fundamental part of human connection it's how we show trust warmth and empathy when someone avoids it with you they're not just avoiding touch they're avoiding closeness intimacy and vulnerability they're keeping you at arms length literally and figuratively and that's a clear indication that there's an underlying issue in the relationship I I've learned to pay attention to these cues even when it's hard to admit what they mean there was a time when I ignored the signs convincing myself that someone's reluctance to get close was just a personality trait but the more I reflected on

it the more I realized that it was about me and our relationship when I finally confronted the situation it led to some tough conversations and in some cases the end of the relationship but it also freed me from the frustration of wondering why things felt off so here's the Deep message don't ignore the signs when someone avoids physical contact with you it's more than just a preference it's a statement about their level of comfort and connection with you if you notice this pattern don't be afraid to address it it might lead to a deeper understanding

or it might reveal that the relationship isn't as solid as you thought either way it's better to confront the truth than to live in denial and remember you deserve relationships where physical contact isn't something to be avoided but something that happens naturally and comfortably whether it's a friendly hug a handshake or just sitting close without feeling awkward these small gestures build trust and connection if someone consistently avoids them it's a sign that something's not right don't be afraid to ask the tough questions and and if necessary make the tough decisions Life's too short to be

surrounded by people who keep you at a distance literally and figuratively six they disappear when you need support let's get real nothing reveals the true nature of a relationship like a crisis when the going gets tough you find out who your real friends are so what does it say about someone when they vanish the moment you need the most it's not just a sign of flakiness it's a neon warning that they're not as invested in you as you might have thought and let's face it when someone pulls a disappearing act during Your Darkest Hours it's

not just hurtful it's a betrayal I learned this the hard way during a particularly rough patch in my life I was dealing with a major personal issue something that really shook me to my core naturally I turned to the people I considered close friends expecting some level of support even if it was just a text or a quick call but guess what crickets the people I thought would be there for me suddenly had every excuse in the book I'm so swamped at work sorry I'm just really busy right now I'll check in with you later

spoiler alert they never did here's where it gets controversial people love to talk about how they'll always be there for you but when push comes to shove many of them are only around for the good times they'll party with you laugh with you and enjoy the high points of your life but the minute things get real they're nowhere to be found it's easier for them to ghost you than to deal with your pain or discomfort they don't want to be dragged into your problems because deep down they don't care enough to be there when it

counts and let's be brutally honest true support isn't about convenience it's about being there when it's hard when it's uncomfortable and when it's the last thing you want to do the people who disappear when you need them most aren't just being inconsiderate they're showing you exactly where you stand in their life they're saying without words your problems aren't worth my time I remember feeling absolutely gutted when I realized that the people I'd been there for in the past during their breakup their family dramas their career setbacks couldn't be bothered to return the favor it was

a wakeup call and not a pleasant one but it was also a lesson I needed to learn not everyone who Smiles in your face is truly in your corner here's the Deep message support is the foundation of any meaningful relationship it's easy to be around when everything's going well but the real test of a relationship is how people respond When Things Fall Apart if someone disappears the moment you need them they're not just failing you they're showing you that they were never really there in the first place but don't let their absence make you bitter

let it make you better use it as a filter to sift out the people who don't deserve a place in your life the ones who stick around who check in who show up even when it's inconvenient those are the people who truly matter and those are the relation relationships you should nurture and cherish in the end life is too short to invest in Fairweather friends surround yourself with people who will stand by you in the storm not just bask in the sunshine because when you find those rare individuals who stick around when the chips are

down you've found something worth holding on to and as for those who disappear let them go they've already shown you their true colors seven they gossip about you behind your back gossip it's the social poison that spreads faster than wildfire and can burn down relationships in an instant the thing about gossip is that it's never as innocent as people make it out to be when someone you consider a friend talks behind your back they're not just sharing a harmless story they're actively sabotaging your trust your reputation and your relationship and let's be real when they

gossip about about you it's a clear sign that they don't respect you no matter how friendly they act to your face I've been the subject of Gossip before and let me tell you it's one of the most gut-wrenching experiences there was a time when I confided in someone I thought was a close friend about a personal issue I needed to vent to unload some of the weight I was carrying and I trusted this person to keep it between us but within days details of that conversation started circulating twisted and exaggerated it was like a game

of telephone except the message wasn't just getting lost it was being weaponized against me the person I trusted had turned my vulnerability into entertainment for others here's the controversial truth people who gossip about you aren't just venting or sharing concerns they're playing a power game gossip is a way for them to elevate themselves while putting you down all without having to confront you directly it's cowardly it's manipulative and it's toxic they're not just damaging your reputation they're damaging the very Foundation of trust that any real relationship is built on and let's get one thing straight

people who gossip about others to you will gossip about you to others it's a pattern not a one-time thing I've seen it happen too many times to count someone who loves to Spill the tea on everyone else suddenly goes quiet when they're around you guess what they're probably spilling your tea when you're not around it's a betrayal of the worst kind because it's done in the shadows without giving you a chance to defend yourself or even know what's being said now here's where it gets really personal I remember confronting the friend who gossiped about me

expecting some sort of apology or at least an explanation instead they acted like it was no big deal brushing it off as just a bit of harmless talk but here's the thing gossip is never harmless it's a betrayal plain and simple and it says far more about the person spreading it than it does about the person it's about