Relationships Won't Fulfill You

we have this delusion in our culture that relationships are going to fulfill us and this is really deeply buried in our Collective Consciousness and even if you understand on a very logical level that no one is ever going to fulfill me it's still very deeply ingrained into you because you're a part of culture you're a part of our Collective Consciousness and this has still impacted you just as a byproduct of existing within this culture this is still something that deep down still has found its way into you and in this video I want to help

you to carve a path forward so that you don't actually experience this problem of looking for happiness outside of yourself of expecting something to bring you lasting fulfillment only to find out that it was a delusion only to find out that it didn't actually work and then I want to save you a lot of that pain that comes from of course having to realize that you're wrong having to realize how much time you've wasted and energy you've spent having to realize that you don't even know where to move forward now you don't know what direction

to go into so this video is of immense value to you especially if you're young you need that kind of vision for your life and this this video is going to require you to actually take action this video is going to require you to actually Implement these ideas and principles and practices into your life in order to see any kind of meaningful results you can't just watch a YouTube video and expect any kind of very very deep and Lasting change so we got this delusion that relationships are supposed to fulfill us and even if many

understand that logically emotionally and very instinctively right deep down inside of us we don't so really the counter to this delusion is simply realizing that there's nothing that will ever happen in the external world that is actually going to lead to that lasting fulfillment and I want to actually give you a whole bunch of points on this and then I want to actually explain each and every single one of them so the only person who's going to lead you to Lasting fulfillment is going to be yourself it's not going to be me it's not going

to be that pretty girl over there it's not going to be that funny Charming handsome guy over there none of these people will it's going to be you it's going to be your own skills and your own knowledge it's going to be your own Consciousness it's going to be the quality of your own mind it's going to be the quality of your inner world this is primary in your own ful fulfillment the external world is uh secondary to this still very important right your environment and the people you surround yourself with the quality of the

food you eat the work you do matters a lot but without doing this inner work you're not really going to know how to craft a life that's going to actually lead you to Lasting fulfillment and you can expect to fall into traps like expecting relationships to fulfill you and give you lasting happiness and then when you actually experience them they create quite a lot of pain so no relationship of any kind will actually fulfill you forever relationships are more so meant for growth with another person not for Everlasting satisfaction nothing in the world is meant

for Everlasting satisfaction that's simply not how life is actually designed or works so relationships are meant for growth they're meant for the union of opposites masculine energy feminine energy typically here on planet Earth that's how most relationships are and Awakening to the one Spirit or the one Consciousness through the apparent to of Flesh and now I want to actually examine each and every one of these points in some more depth so your mind is Never Satisfied you've actually trained your mind to not Embrace Life as it is to not be okay with the present moment

you've trained your mind through so much repetition through the years to actually reject the present moment over and over and over and over again to actually fight against life so that no matter what actually enters your life you're going to be dissatisfied and essentially mankind nowadays has a lot of Minds that are always chasing the next thing chasing the next thing it's been like this for a very long time and we're always just Desiring something else we're craving something else so a mind like this cannot actually settle and rest into a relationship it can't actually

accept the experience of being in a relationship because it can't accept any experience whatsoever it can never accept the present under any condition unless it's just getting the very Niche thing that it wants like sex or money or that tasty food but all those in between moments it really can't settle into it's agitated it's Restless it's frustrated it's sad it's craving it's always wanting something that isn't in the present it's this illusion that our minds keep spinning so how long will it be let's say you get that relationship how long will it be until that

dissatisfaction starts to creep into the relationship a day two days a week so how long will it be until what was once buried simply comes out because that's kind of how life works you can't actually repress these energies they're going to manifest and flly out in some kind of way moving on is the entire principle of impermanence everything in this existence is completely impermanent it's going to leave you and clinging to the impermanent and trying to make it permanent is the best way to remain on this sort of hamster wheel of suffering trying to make

the impermanent permanent is essentially going to lead you to a lifetime of suffering and I want to keep this point short because it goes very well into my next one which is the fear of losing it the fear of actually losing the relationship once you actually get it now you got to always be maintaining it now you're going to be afraid to lose it you're going to be acting out of fear again is that fulfillment or is that suffering I'll let you be the judge of that one so this fear of losing is going to

permeate your psyche your emotions your behaviors and if you're completely dependent upon something or someone for happiness first realize of course that this isn't happiness suffering and then second realize that it's eventually going to leave you and you're going to have to face that fear of it leaving you head on right this continuous impulse to find something in the external world that's going to lead you to happiness is suffering this continuous chasing itself is suffering this continuous seeking for the next thing and the next and the next and the next new thing to finally put

me at ease this is suffering this is the bulk of the suffering that you actually experience in your life maybe though I'll let you be the judge of that like I said you can figure it out I'm sure you're smart enough to figure it out for yourself really just take you know try it out test it see if it's true and uh when it comes to it eventually leaving you this is just another fact of life because life is impermanent they're going to die it's going to end and this is something that you're just going

to have to learn to accept that fear of it exists inside of you you're going to have to find it bring awareness to it and integrate it and just accept this accepting the reality of the situ sitation that you actually find yourself in yeah every single thing in the world is impermanent everything's coming and going everything arises and passes all the sensations in your body are in its conens of flux and change all the atoms are vibrating and dancing people come people go Moment by moment everything is Shifting and changing and you're going to have

to learn how to ride these changes how to flow with life rather than fighting against it this is a far more sustainable strategy for long-term fulfillment rather than Clinging On to the things that you believe will bring you fulfillment but of course they they never do do they ever has it ever worked in your life so relationships are designed for growth not fulfillment relationships are for growth with another person and really inhabiting oneself fully knowing thyself the pain that gets created in relationships will urge you to examine yourself and stop living the unexamined life as

a philosopher when said the unexamined life is not worth living so relationships I'm sure as many of you have experienced create a lot of pain and this pain is a lot of repressed stuff from within your psyche in relation to attachment wounds because relationship brings out your attachment system and then all the wounds in relation to that system come out so of course when you actually believe that this is going to lead to Lasting fulfillment and instead it actually creates pain this is confusing this is disorienting and then you don't really know even what what

to do anymore this ends up being a pretty difficult experience to find yourself in and I'm really just trying to point you in the exact opposite direction of find yourself in that experience moving on with a lot of my points conscious relationships and Awakening this is something that I kind of hinted to earlier going to go in more depth on it now relationships are for the coming together of masculine and feminine Yin and Yang in a conscious truthful authentic open and intentional way which creates the path to directly realizing the one Consciousness the one of

spirit through the two of Flesh let me go into a little bit more depth of this most people on planet Earth typically either lean masculine or feminine generally speaking men are more masculine and women are more feminine and these are just naturally occurring polarities within us kind of like how there's naturally occurring negative magnets and naturally occurring um positive magnets which naturally attract right just a sort of natural magnetic attraction that exists simply within nature that can actually be directly detected by you this isn't some kind of philosophy once you get actually pretty attuned to

your direct experience you can actually directly detect these forces existing so as as two people come together this actually begins to erode the ego structures that create these defined senses of self and and who we are and when this is done in a very conscious way this is a vehicle for awakening to the actual true nature of being or existing existence I mean this is not uh an endless ride at an amusement park of getting what you want that's not what a relationship is instead it's actually going to bring you face to face with a

lot of your deepest closures traumas old patterns stuck patterns limiting beliefs pain it's the best experience for actually really cleaning yourself out and turning you into a very loving human being turning you into a grounded human being turning you into an attuned human being a skilled and knowledgeable human being it's kind of like um polishing rocks right when you let's say mine some kind of rock or something it's like um sharp and it's just not well polished and then you're kind of putting it against that polisher that's kind of what a relationship is doing it's

kind of like getting at all your hard edges kind of just polishing you out if it's done consciously with these kinds of more spiritual and psychological and healing related intentions if not of course you're just going to get stuck in patterns of suffering where the people are not going to be flexible enough to find their way around the problems that they face they're not going to be flexible enough to face their problems therefore the relationship will fail or you know they'll just remain in potentially toxic Cycles or just kind of stuck where they're at so

where do you actually go from here given all this kind of information you need to actually examine your life remember how I mentioned very briefly living the examined life rather than the unexamined life get clear about yourself most people completely bypass inner work for their entire life to actually value doing deep inner psychological spiritual emotional work is it it requires a certain level of emotional and psychological maturity to even value that this isn't um an extremely common thing on planet Earth so you have to actually self-actualize you have to do inner work meditate read read

proactively learn commit to lifelong learning build your self trust know thyself learn to be authentic and open learn to be self-honest Master yourself again most people don't do any inner work and because of that they have an incredible amount of problems in their life that will never go away until they actually do the necessary inner work they can have a billion dollars they can have every single material thing that they want they'll still find themselves suffering because their Consciousness hasn't changed their inner world is still set up in such a way that is going to

construct unnecessary suffering and dissatisfaction is what the Buddhist called samsara so quick disclaimer this doesn't mean never get into relationships in fact this is very important build relationship skills proactively and really learn about relationships I'd recommend reading like 10 books in your life on relationships at the bare minimum got a free book list check it out read some of those books actually educate yourself on relationships test the ideas build skills in relation to this and this is going to save you a lot of suffering in your relationships this is going to save you a lot

of unnecessary mistakes that some education can actually just simply help you with and this is just an important part of life really aim to be a master in in this domain of Life the thing is though is we have to ask the question is what is driving you to actually enter relationships what part of you is really creating these motivations is it coming from Fear lack desperation boredom right or is it coming from a mature self-actualized or self transcend transcended psyche from a healthy human being right which one is it really coming from because of

course if you're just stuck in this pattern of trying to get relationships to just fulfill you over and over and over again has this worked just very honestly has this strategy worked in your life has this pattern worked if it has throw away my video useless but it hasn't so what are you going to do again this video like I said is going to require you to actually input effort into your own life in order to get any actual kind of results or change you're not going to sit here on YouTube self-help video after self-help

video and then have it all be gone you need to actually connect to uh the information and then ground it in your life so finally I want you to recognize that a lot of this is just very practical it's my final point a lot lot of this stuff requires you to turn off YouTube get off of my videos turn them off stop watching them stop watching my videos just get off of my channel get off everyone's Channel buy the relationship books buy the therapy and healing books on my book list buy the self-actualization books read

them start the meditation go to therapy do the Creative work go for a Walkin nature buy the food that you need for your body to be healthy you need to actually have the structures in your life that are going to lead to this sustainable change and this new self you need the accountability in your life right you do need the connections with other people that are going to help you with this as well you need to have Clarity around your own core values and your own psyche and your own personality taking tests studying psychology again

you have to fall in love with building clarity or else all this stuff that I talked about is going to be some kind of loose philosophy that sounds nice but then you're going to slip right back into the old patterns and nothing is really ever going to fundamentally change that's it for this video if you're interested in working one to one with me you can apply to do so link is in the pinned comment take it easy