Control Your Emotions like KIYOTAKA AYANOKOJI | Classroom of the elite

Ayan koji's tough past had taught him that emotional reactions to his circumstances is the worst he could ever do because an emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power imagine being master of that thing that rules our lives our [Music] emotions you don't want to be that emotional guy who gets angry at every little thing who wants it quick lacks tolerance and occasionally barks at others most people have a great weakness of showing emotions at every opportunity they say what they feel blurting out their emotional opinions at every chance they get

be a dignified King handle every difficult situation with calm and Grace as if it were nothing where a common man frowns at people when they face challenges royalty would act with Grace and dignity as if nothing happened they charm others with their Grace Under Fire their patience and most importantly their calm self assurance the way to appear kingly is to act with dignity no matter the circumstances it's extremely hard to step away from the emotions you are feeling in the moment in times like this you should take a step back wait and calm yourself down

before making a decision it could also mean physically removing yourself from the situation you see ayanokoji never reacts In the Heat of the Moment regardless of what happens he takes a step back tries to calm himself down and then makes a decision this is why why he consistently wins it's crucial not to make hasty decisions under the influence of strong emotions to avoid making mistakes imagine an irritating punk from your school calls you a which is a little insulting how would you feel you'd likely be angry right now picture this person doing it every single

day you might be tempted to react out of anger which could harm your reputation and character reacting emotionally to such situations is often the worst Choice by making you react to their provocations they're the ones in control this is precisely the moment when you should step back and think instead of reacting ask yourself why do I even care is it worth spending my time and energy on this what can I do to address this without paying a personal price being strategic in your approach is essential most of the time ignoring the person and not giving

them your attention can be the best course of action alternatively you can discreetly resolve the matter while safe regarding your reputation it's always wise to step back before taking action when you make a decision while staying attached to something your natural response is to lean toward the thing you're attached to and come up with ideas that are not rational but support what you want to believe ayanokoji is always detached which gives him a powerful advantage over others no one can force him to do anything because he is not attached to anything and has no weaknesses

as he has nothing to lose he doesn't get emotional just like all of his class mates he simply leans back evaluates every potential outcome and then if needed and he can control the situation he would act I would say his power of Detachment far exceeds anyone else's he doesn't desire materialistic things if you look at his room there's nothing unnecessary what truly makes him dangerous though is that he thinks longterm so he's willing to sacrifice unnecessary things now that will lead to a far greater outcome later most people aren't willing to do that when you

stay attached to something you'll have only one or two options to choose from because it tends to narrow your perspective not allowing you to operate beyond your emotional biases even though the power of Detachment makes you formidable you can't go around showing people how detached you are for they'll perceive you as a heartless [Music] jerk there's a common emotion that every one of us feels which makes us give up on our dreams stops us from seeing what we are really capable of and is a weakness that exploiters use to exploit us it's the desire for

pleasure and the avoidance of pain it's a different kind of snake that needs to be handled with the right mindset try to see things from a different perspective instead of getting frustrated over your mistakes and avoiding them think that the more mistakes you make the stronger you become the harder the work is the tougher it makes you when something is difficult our mind naturally wants to quit because it doesn't want to feel discomfort it's a survival mechanism now at times like this it's up to you whether you obey your mind or make it obey you

embrace the right mindset almost everyone in this world seeks pleasure but if you can be that 0.01% that badass who consistently seeks discomfort and works all the time the person who grinds non-stop even if he has work later on even if he had just finished his school work or even if it's a cold day and warm in bed I promise you're going to achieve results that no one else has ever obtained what you get out of something is equal to what you put into it remember just as you can push yourself to run faster by

engaging your muscles to their limit you can push your brain to work extra hard the more you push the more your muscles may be sore and tired in the moment but when that soreness goes away your muscles are stronger quick reminder emotional control is not something you're born with it requires constant practice the techniques given in this video are really powerful as they were actually used by some of the great people in history including Ayano himself but don't be so naive as to believe that you can master all of them after watching the video Once

none of the techniques discussed in the video comes easily to master them it takes months of practice take notes rather than passively watching it understand it save the video to your playlist and revisit it again and again practice each technique one at a time you will feel emotions and there's no avoiding it because you must understand that there there's a dedicated part in your brain solely for feeling emotions so isn't it better to use it correctly to get the most out of it how it's simple right now you're feeling something and if you try hard

you can identify it whether it's sadness frustration loneliness or anger use it use it to progress on the path you're on nobody is exempt from the irresistible effect of emotions on the mind we cannot control how we feel but we can control how we use it if you feel Envy because someone is greater than you you can either let it consume you inside or use it to surpass that person meditation is scientifically proven to regulate your emotions and bring you to a calm state where you can make rational decisions that will serve you in the

long run many things happen when you meditate it tests your patience and improves your focus muscle as it demands you to refocus it also releases several chemicals in the brain including serotonin a neurotransmitter that plays a crucial role in regulating moods and emotions there are some individuals out there who will play with your emotions to get your attention ruin your reputation and harm you they'll trigger your emotions and make you react at their will you have to see through their mask some signs of those psychopaths are that you find yourself incapable of thinking logically and

reasoning in their presence and they make you think of them Contin when not in their presence analyze everyone thoroughly how much emotional energy do you spend thinking about them and how much emotional they make you went around understand that the way people present themselves in public isn't their real selves they have been trained to present themselves in public people mess with you and try to manipulate you because they want something from you your job is to find out what it is are they trying to feel Superior are they envious do they want your attention read

through their lines mind their subtle sarcastic remarks signs of backstabbing and the happy expression on their face when they see you suffer read the subtle gestures they [Music] express this is the ability to distance yourself from the present moment and think objectively about the past and the future when you're angry you naturally want to lash out at the person who made you feel that way which is a very bad move try to recall your past mistakes in the same situation and think objectively about the future consider what this action would lead to in the future

learn to delay decision-making relying on emotions is always dangerous as they soon Fade Away making logical decisions isn't quite possible when you're under the spell of a strong emotion if you are angry or sad at the moment it's better to wait a day to calm yourself down and then make the decision don't make decisions under the influence of strong emotions emotions tend to narrow the mind making us focus on one or two ideas that satisfy our immediate desires ideas that usually backfire with a calm Spirit you can identify a vast range of options and solutions

to be even better use the enormous Storehouse of knowledge that has been recorded for you from the past this is the best one I use every time it's saying that nothing will matter in the end really think about it for a second when you're 85 and on your deathbed will you think about the thing Cindy did when you were 18 which was really rude no right by that time you've probably forgotten about it even if you did recall it it will be a story you can laugh about nothing in the social realm in the game

of power is personal did someone really embarrass you making you angry don't repress this anger within yourself as it drains energy and pushes us into strange Behavior tell yourself it doesn't matter and don't take it personally this is a powerful frame to think through when you don't take anything personally no one can hurt you with their words even the hardest things will be easier for you because they're not going to matter in the [Music] end