The Harsh Reality For 50% Of Women

you see the ons data that came out a couple of weeks ago that said for the first time ever since records began 50.1 percent of women are childless by 30. so there are more women without children at 30 than there are women with children the first time well so this is somebody clipped a part of one of my podcasts i believe it was where i was talking about what what our society does to 19 year old women or 18 year old women 19 year old women we just lie to them all the time you know

the first lie is there's nothing more important than your career more or less by definition so that's the first lie the second lie is there will be nothing more important to you in your life than your career so that's the second lie and then the third lie is there should be nothing more important in your life than their career so that's the third lie and then implicit in that is the idea that children are a burden and that the idea that women should have children is part of the oppressive patriarchy and should be resisted and

who are men to tell me what i can do with my body and hey fair enough and etc etc now i've worked in female dominated occupations my entire life i worked for example i worked as a daycare uh worker way back when that was like 19 probably 80 something like that and there were no men doing that but i really liked kids and so that was fun and i worked for social services in alberta in the in the child care department and uh then i've been working as a psychologist either training or as a psychologist

since then and that's been a female dominated enterprise increasingly as the years went by but even when i was first when i first entered it so i i'm in the post female in the workplace generation firmly i never experienced the world except as that and so i've watched women progress through their professional careers at every level of attainment from the lowest to the highest and observed what happened and relatively i would say bias free because i didn't know and what i've seen is that as women progress towards their late 30s no late 20s they there's

a psychological transformation and what happens is that they place less emphasis on their career and way more emphasis particularly on having a child and that really reaches a crisis point around 29 or 30 for the vast majority of women and and their attitude flips and i've seen it very dramatically with many women and i suppose the most signal single most uh convincing evidence of that i worked with high-end lawyers in toronto for about 10 years i was part of an organization we went to law firms high-end law firms and said send us your most productive

people and we'll help them iron out whatever wrinkles there might still be in their life and the advantage to them is that things will go better for them and the advantage to you is they'll be even more productive and there's a good management dictum which is pay the most attention to your most productive people because they're bringing in the bulk of your revenue disproportionately and so i worked with men and women who were at the peak of their careers in a very difficult enterprise and so these were women who were generally very attractive well put

together physically pretty stable psychologically extremely conscientious very very smart and high achieving from like junior high all the way through high school university law school onto uh the top firms rocketing up through the ranks full partnership by the time they were 29 or 30 and all the law firms all the women bailed out all of them the law firms couldn't keep them and i i was really and i talked to the women a lot about a lot about this because i was very interested in it because i knew the law firms were bending themselves over

backwards and tying themselves into knots trying to retain these women because why wouldn't they you know just just being greedy capitalists is enough you know we don't want to lose their high performing women because they're performing at the highest level and they couldn't keep them the women wanted to have nine to five jobs they wanted to bind the job so they could have a life and that was especially true once they got interested in having a child or had one and what what they really came to was a very uh interesting realization so because they

were highly conscientious women they sort of did their duty and and worked hard and diligently and didn't pop their head up to ask questions they're in junior high they got their best grades they were in high school they got the best grades and so on all the way through right till they reach partnership but that's sort of an apogee right you hit partnership in a senior law firm it's like you're at you're at the top of your profession well then what so then they looked around and they thought here i am with all these like

hyper competitive men perfectly willing to work 80 hours a week non-stop to stay at the top what the hell are they doing because that's the real question what is it what is it that characterizes this small percentage of hyper-competitive men it's not you can assume that that's how everyone should be but first of all that isn't how everyone is or you can flip that and say well there's only a small minority of human beings that are willing to do this to work flat out eight hours a week i mean they're getting they're certainly being paid

for it let's make no mistake about that but what about the rest of life well that's what the women asked why am i doing this and that's a great question well for men there's a different answer than for women it's a really different answer and it isn't like the men are exactly thinking this through it's it's more like this is an integral part of male motivation the more successful you are as a man the more women like you but the problem that you have now is that as women are getting better educated with more employment

more state is more prestige they compete themselves out of their ability to find an attractive mate as women raise up through the dominance hierarchy and this is competence competence hierarchy sorry okay who's going to tell women the equal access to opportunity that you have recently just acquired actually what that's doing is it's making it more difficult for you to find a mate that you're fundamentally attracted to yeah well it it it does a lot of things i mean it does provide women with a lot more uh opportunity on the economic front it does decrease their

dependency on their mate in relationship to economic security and educating educating women countries that are willing to educate women that's the best predictor of their future economic success so if you look at developing countries and you want to find out what about a developing country is most likely to predict the fact that they will continue to thrive economically it's their attitude towards the education of women and but a couple more things women's educational status predicts their children's educational status but men's educational status doesn't so that's also an important multi-generational effect i released a video i

was going to conclude that other story i released a video or someone released a clip of me talking about some of the things we just talked about and it went out on youtube shorts and it's got like five million views in a month or something like that and the comment section is unbelievably vitriolic because every single comment is vitriolic and it's all from women it's like who is this old white bastard telling us what we should do with our bodies you know when i wasn't being judgmental i was just saying exactly what i said to

you which is well i've watched women over the entire course of my life with i would say an affectionate eye you know i love my sister i love my wife i have a daughter i love my mother i'm pretty happy about women all things considered i don't have an axe to grind in relationship to how they should conduct their lives i don't even know how they should conduct their lives i've watched what happens and i've also watched what happens to women who hit 29 or 30 and then can't conceive and that is not a fate

i would wish on anyone it's awful and 30 percent of couples fall into that 30 percent of couples have difficulty conceiving it's a lot and the probability that you'll have difficulty conceiving increases with age and so you know c'est la vie and but it's very interesting to me to see how vitriolic those comments have been and how how uniform that is because usually on my youtube channel in particular ninety-five percent of the comments are positive and this is completely the opposite of that so and then so you brought this up at the beginning you said

fifty percent of women now at thirty point fifty point one childless by thirty yeah yeah well you know that's uh that's not good that's a sign of something profoundly wrong with the entire culture at an extremely deep level i don't think that women need to take it as us trying to tell women what they should or shouldn't do but i think that it would be very fair to say that you need to be an incredibly unique woman to make it to 50 without a family and look back and think yeah i did this right that's

not to say that those women aren't out there they absolutely are i know some of them what's happening people if you enjoyed that then press here for the full unedited episode and don't forget to subscribe peace you