Which One Are You? - 4 Types of Human Behavior &How To Deal With Each Of Them

ever wonder why communicating with some people feels so effortless While others seem like Puzzles without Solutions no matter how hard you try you just can't explain yourself or understand them what if I told you there's a key to unlocking effective communication with anyone no matter how difficult they seem what if you could walk into a room and be able to see what your boss client or colleagues are actually thinking and feeling imagine knowing their fears and desires without them saying a single word in the search of a deeper understanding of human beh Behavior I came

across this amazing book titled surrounded by idiots the four types of human behavior how to understand those who cannot be understood by Thomas Erikson I really enjoyed the book and I think you will too let's get started part one four color framework Ericson divides people into four groups red yellow green and blue Reds are natural leaders who like to take charge they make quick decisions focus on results and always want to win they're so competitive that they might even try to win when playing simple games with their six-year-old kid Reds like to be the boss

and tell others what to do they tend to be straightforward and blunt sometimes how intense they act can come across as to pushy and hurt others feelings yellows are inspiring yellows love to talk you hear them before you see them as they are always talking to everyone yellows are happy friendly and love to cheer others on they want to include everyone and make sure we're all having a good time they're always coming up with new creative and fun ideas however they don't always finish what they start they like thinking about ideas rather than working on

them and completing those ideas greens are stable greens are quiet and reliable they're always there for their friends and team greens tend to be the calmest of the four colors they don't like change loud arguments or surprises this can make it hard for them to voice their thoughts or handle tricky situations greens like routines and schedules they want to know what to expect each day Blues are analytical Blues think carefully and want everything to be perfect they notice little details that other people might miss because they hate to make mistakes Blues double check their work

all the time if you gave a blue a 50-page instruction manual they'd read every word and then ask for more just to be sure they understood you Blues can struggle making decisions and seeing the big picture because they can get lost in the details here's a real life example to understand the colors better imagine you and your friends are planning a dinner party this is a great way to see the four colors in Action a red is going to quickly take over the initial party planning they'll rush to decide what day the party is what

time it starts and then delegate the rest of the work for the group to figure out they've already decided the party is going to start Saturday afternoon at 400 p.m. it's important for them that decisions are made quickly and everyone has a task to do but they don't care about the details and they don't care what day works best for you because they've already made up their mind now go take care of the rest they'll see you Saturday your yellow friend looks like they are glowing and bubbling with joy they are envisioning all of the

fun exciting and engaging party ideas to share with the group it could be a costume party or a cocktail party they're so excited they'll keep bringing up different ideas of what it could be and who should come they want everyone at this dinner party to have fun and it's only fun if everyone is involved they don't care if it's realistic or not they want this to be the best party ever they're so excited they've already called the DJ to play music you last heard them say something about a giant cake you're not sure if any

of this is really going to happen or is true but you can feel their enthusiasm when it comes to planning the party greens are going to be the calm and balanced ones they'll work behind the scenes to make sure everything runs smoothly greens are happiest when there are no surprises or last minute changes they'll be warm and welcoming to the guests and make sure everyone feels at home if no one has stepped up a green will make sure there's plenty of food food and drinks their main goal is to make sure everyone feels comfortable and

is enjoying themselves they just won't be seeking any attention and want to stay out of the spotlight Blues are going to be the most stressed out by the party they want to keep track of all of the details and stick to the schedule but there's so many unanswered questions it's too early why can't we push it back how are we going to know how much food to order what happens if someone shows up that isn't on the list they'll make a checklist a spreadsheet and just in case they will look look up a list of

local rules and regulations after all you can never be too prepared for a party it's important for blues to feel prepared around this time the red in the room will tell your blue friend to quit worrying and get ready there's still a party to enjoy even if everything doesn't go according to the Blue's perfect plan you will have a much better understanding of colors in The Following part but do you have some idea which color you might be can you recognize which color your parents or co-workers are if you think you are two different colors

like red and blue you're probably right about 5% of people are only one color most people are two colors around 80% and the remaining are a combination of three different colors part two recognize and adapt the best way to start is to meet the person where they are if they are blue match them with blue Behavior if they are a yellow act yellow Reds if you are adapting your behavior to Reds be straight to the point and don't wait time they like things done quickly and conversations should be short instead of boring them with a

ton of details only tell them what they need to know and move on if it's too long they don't care keep it short or they won't read it or hear it Reds work hard they might be the hardest workers you've ever seen they care about results and aren't afraid to work long hours if you want them to like you show that you're willing to work hard and that you care about getting things done Reds respect people who put in a lot of effort like them Reds move fast they want things done as soon as possible

it doesn't matter if you make mistakes they care about efficiency as much as results to get along with the red move fast walk fast think fast and get things done in a timely manner pick up your speed and Tempo don't slow them down with details just give them what they need and get out of their way Reds tend to be hot-headed and get angry quickly be prepared for temper tantrums if a red throws a tantrum or is rude address it right away say it loud and clear this kind of behavior is not okay yellows adapting

to yellows is about creating a warm and friendly environment yellows are their best when they are happy and around others if a yellow can focus on the big picture and talk about their visions of the future this is when they are at the top of their game encourage yellows to explore new ideas and Cutting Edge Concepts they love being early adopters and trying things that have never been done before yellows are more focused on the latest and greatest than if it is realistic or Possible Be approachable friendly and open when interacting with yellows they enjoy

being around people and function best when surrounded by others show interest in them as individuals smile often and use open body language keep in mind that yellows respond well to flattery and want to be well-liked and appreciated have a clear plan and be prepared to follow up when working with yellows they can be easily distracted know your message and help them stay on track by providing them structure with simple lists and checklists offer gentle help so yellows can turn their ideas into action they tend to talk more than they work and they may spend more

time discussing future plans than actually pursuing them encourage them to start taking concrete steps toward their goals but do so in a kind and clear manner if you need to give critical feedback use the right tone and come prepared with facts to back up your points be persistent and watch out for attempts to change the subject or avoid the issue Greens Greens value security stab ility and predictability they may be more anxious and risk averse than the others and they appreciate peace and quiet here are some key points to keep in mind when adapting to

and behaving around greens understand that greens are motivated by a need for security and may worry about potential risks more than others listen to their concerns and show empathy for their anxieties help them face their fears gradually and encourage them to move forward despite feeling scared avoid pushing them too far out of their comfort zone too fast provide greens with clear plans and explanations of what to expect they feel more at ease when they know what's going to happen and how things will unfold break down complex tasks or changes into manageable steps be patient in

explaining details and answering their questions help them feel prepared and informed be cautious and respectful when offering criticism or feedback to Greens any kind of criticism might come across as an attack have sensitive conversations in private and reassure them that you still like and value them as a person focus on specific things they can improve instead of General negative statements take the lead in decision-making and problem solving when working with a group of greens they tend to avoid responsibility and may struggle to take initiative be gentle but firm in making Necessary choices encourage greens to

participate and share ideas but be prepared to take charge if needed to keep things moving forward Blues Blues are known for their attention to detail and focus on quality they value facts logic and careful preparation be prepared with details when working with Blues they appreciate when you've done your homework and can talk in depth make sure you have all the necessary information and can answer their questions thoroughly if you don't know something admit it don't make excuses Blues value honesty and accuracy they'd rather you say you don't know something then make it up stay focused

and avoid excessive small talk when working with Blues Blues are there to work and Achieve results not be social stick to the facts if you have a more outgoing personality like a yellow try to have a more professional or business-like approach to things when working with a blue present ideas and plans that are realistic Blues are skeptical of optimistic or Visionary Concepts they want to know what's achievable and how it will work in the real world recognize and appreciate Blue's commitment to Quality they take pride in doing things right even if it takes more time

avoid criticizing them for being too slow or perfectionistic instead praise their attention to detail and the superior results they achieve show that you value quality work as well if you need them to work f faster give clear deadlines and hold them accountable help Blues make decisions by providing them with facts and data they can sometimes get stuck in the decision-making process because they want to analyze when a decision needs to be made guide them towards a choice encourage them to trust their instincts when not all the facts are available part three what stresses each color

Reds Red's number one stressor is their self-confidence the fastest way to stress out a red is to take away their power if they can't be in charge or make decisions it's like stealing their superpowers remember Reds are great at working quickly getting results and winning if you want to make a red person feel awful make things slow stuck and inefficient this will frustrate and upset them they love speed and efficiency if your team isn't making progress it will feel like a waste of time which stresses them out even more at this point they start to

look for someone to blame for things going wrong another way to cause problems for Reds is to give them easy routine tasks this will bore them to death they'll lose focus and find something else to do reds don't care about the fine details and they know it that's why they give that job for someone else to do like a green Reds think they know what's best they want to lead the whole project not a small boring part the final stressor that annoys Reds is when people make silly mistakes and tell them to calm down nothing

makes a red angrier people think Reds are always angry they're not they might might be quick-tempered but it's not real anger they want to move fast and mistakes get in their way Reds are the number one color that think they are surrounded by idiots to help manage Red's stress always be direct and redirect their energy number one tell a red to pull himself together and finish the job because Reds love competition they'll take this one as a challenge and they always win competitions number two to make it easier for everyone around them have them go

burn off their frustration take them away from the environment they hate redirect their aggression away from their teammates or family and let them go do something they love yellow's number one stressor is being ignored or left out of all the fun remember yellows always love being around people that's where they get their energy to really stress out a yellow ignore them don't pay any attention to them or include them in conversation if you pretend they are invisible it'll make them uncomfortable and uneasy another way to do this is to keep yellows away from everyone else

the worst place for a yellow to be would be a lonely dark quiet office they'd feel like they were in trouble if there was no one else to talk to they need someone to listen to their big and exciting ideas if there's no one to talk to they won't have any fun and will be miserable the biggest stressor for a yellow is being embarrassed or criticized in front of others yellows care what people think about them they want to be well-liked if a yellow makes a mistake on a project don't tell them in front of

everyone it'll hurt their feelings and they'll never forget it they get defensive and shut down down their bubbly energy will disappear like all the air was sucked from the room to help yellows feel better when they're stressed let them spend time with people they don't need to have a big party just a small G together being around others gives them energy encourage them to plan a fun team dinner or game night with friends give them a chance to relax and enjoy themselves with people if they are stressed for too long they'll get sad and silly

this is where their ideas get too crazy in order to get attention if you know a yellow is stressed out let them be around friends and have a good time that way they can recharge and be back to their happy fun self again greens feel the most stress from change and conflict greens want to know what's going to happen they feel safe with familiar tasks they've done before and clear instructions they'll be stressed out if you tell them to do something they've never done before it's even worse if it has to be perfect this will

be extremely difficult for them greens love routine and hate surprises if you make a choice at random or keep changing your plans it will B them one example is telling them to work on an important project in the morning at noon tell them to stop working on that and instead work on a new project at the very end of the day tell them that tomorrow they're going to work on a completely different project they'll get frustrated confused and lose trust in you greens don't like conflict or rejection any criticism feels personal if you say their

work isn't good enough and they need to start over again it feels like they aren't good bad feedback feels like they failed as a person the last stressor for greens is being the center of attention unlike yellows who love attention greens hate it it makes them uneasy if you think back to the dinner party a green is more likely to hide in the corner the kitchen or another room if you force them into a large group they'll be stressed and want to leave when greens are stressed they try to shut everyone Out imagine greens are

just like turtles hiding in their shells when they're scared their body language will be cold and rigid they'll avoid you if you are why they are stressed if you are looking to arue with the green they will hide until you just go away when greens are stressed they tend to hesitate because they're afraid of making mistakes they are deathly afraid of making the wrong decision remember negative feedback in Failure feels like they are a failure they can't tolerate failure so they will refuse to do anything at all if you want to help a green manage

their stress let them do nothing give them time space and freedom to relax if you give them as much time as they need they'll naturally be able to relax and get the job done done anytime they feel the squeeze of pressure though they will clam up and Retreat back into their turtle shell Blues are perfectionists who get stressed when their careful plans are messed up Blues care about getting all of the details right if you question their ideas or skills without a good reason it feels like you are personally attacking them they can handle criticism

if you have logic or reasoning but otherwise it feels like you're trying to hurt them blues care about plans and processes to stress out a blue make unplanned change to their schedule if you tell them you'll meet them in 2 hours and then at the last minute make them reschedule this can ruin their whole day they won't be able to think straight because their perfect plan has been ruined and they can't fit this into their schedule it'll drive them crazy the number one stressor to Blues is making careless mistakes because they spend so much time

planning and thinking of the perfect plan it's hard for blues to deal with others making mistakes they don't understand why you'd act emotionally or irrationally logic facts and clear thinking what count to a blue and if you don't work this way it will be confusing for them because to them the only way to work is the correct way otherwise they'll lose interest and pick apart tiny flaws in your ideas when blues are under stress they can become overly critical and come across as know-it-alls to help stress Blues give them time and space to think Blues

need their time and space to think they want to create a plan they want to analyze what's going on around them and to work logic based ways as soon as they have things figured out again they'll be back to normal with the wellth thought out plan if they get stuck thinking the worst you might need to give them just a little nudge to think things through a quick reminder that they've handled bigger problems is encouraging to a blue and can help them pull out of a dark place part four what colors get along the best

and who should work together in a group which colors work best together should you have a team of all one color the best team is a mix of all colors so some colors work better together than others some colors will naturally clash and have issues here are the three key ideas that tend to cause either conflict or compliments between colors first is pace and Tempo how fast do you work Reds and yellows will love working together in a fastpac high Tempo environment they won't get bogged down by the details they know they have a job

to do and the only way to do it is fast do whatever it takes to make progress blue and green work slower they'll like working together because they take their time don't be surprised if they take a moment to catch their breath and think before acting they're both hesitant to rush and make a stupid mistake the challenge that a blue green group will make is because they work slower they might find it difficult to make quick decisions once they have a plan in place though it will be well planned clearly thought out and have logic

or reasoning to back it up the second is communication style Reds and yellows think quickly talk quickly and are not afraid to verbalize their feelings they bring the same kind of energy to the conversation and that's loud they know what they want and they want to motivate those around them to join in on the great success that's about to happen the problem red yellow groups have is that because they are so talkative they aren't very good at listening to One Another they'll tend to talk over one another or simply not hear what the other person

is saying this can lead to arguments and misunderstandings because of this communication barrier blues and greens are quiet thinkers but not big talkers they aren't going to speak up unless they absolutely have to you might not even notice that they are in the room working it's almost like they are so quiet they don't exist but the second they are comfortable with one another and feel understood they will calmly share what they are thinking they might not say much but under the surface they are doing a ton of deep thinking to solve the problem at hand

the last group dynamic is relationship versus task oriented red and blue are both focused on getting the job done they care about the results and this is how they can speak the same language if they were in a race Reds are driven to win and will work fast Blues are going to pump the brakes on the car but make sure that they are going in the right direction following the map and they won't crash greens and yellows care more about relationships than results greens will be more relaxed and calm while yellows will be excited and

animated they might not get much work done together but greens will give yellows the space to talk because they listen together they'll understand that each person is important and interested without stepping over their toes or forcing them to get a job done without hearing their feelings about the work they are perfect compliments in balancing each other out greens calm down yellows when they have hysterical ideas yellows will happily take the lead in talking and social situations so greens can work in the safety of the background these are the color combinations that have the most challenges

working together if you can avoid it try not to put a red and a green together imagine a green and a red on a road trip together the best case scenario is that a red gives the orders and a green follows them that way the red can lead and the green can follow directions the green won't always like it they'll think the red is bossy and pushing them to go too fast but as long as they don't have to make any decisions they'll be okay where they can run into trouble is when a green hesitates

and a red grows impatient if a green has to make decisions and drive they'll have problems the red passenger will also be upset when they miss their turn because a green was too slow to get into the right lane on the highway and wonder why they weren't the one driving the most challenging combination is blue and yellow if a blue and yellow aren't aware how their personalities work they will face problems immediately yellows will move too fast and talk too much for blues they'll jump straight into a project happy and excited and thinking of how

great it will be when it's done they won't read instructions they will ignore the manual they won't listen to reason Blues won't say a word they'll just sit there they'll read and research and plan but they won't say a word all they want to do is be alone and think but the yellow just won't stop moving or shut up they just talk so much this will just frustrate a yellow even more because they'll feel like the blue is shutting them out the blue isn't listening and not interested in giving the yellow any of their desperately

needed attention both colors can end up miserable and exhausted conclusion we've explored the Four Color framework and learned how to work and understand other people better I hope you're feeling empowered andless surrounded by idiots and remember this is just a simple framework to understand people many many people criticize this book for putting people into such small boxes they think it's an oversimplification I understand that every individual is different and the author isn't denying it however we also need some basic guidelines to navigate and that is what the author has tried to provide if you ask

me his analysis was pretty accurate if you found this video helpful and want to learn more about what makes other people tick check out my video on how to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie thanks for watching