All women play blackjack: know when to hold 'em

I'm Dr Orion terban and this is psyx Better Living Through psychology and the topic of today's short talk is all women play Blackjack so this is an episode for the young men out there if you're a young man in the dating pool you're probably dealing with women in their 20s and early 30s and this talk will help you understand a lot of what might otherwise be very perplexing female Behavior which I'm sure you've observed by now so let's get to it the truth is that all women play Blackjack what does this mean well in the

game of blackjack players are trying to get the sum of their cards values as close to 21 as possible without going over and this means each new card they acquire is a risk it could safely bring them closer to 21 which is good or it could push them over the edge into busting which is bad well it's possible to hit 21 on your initial cards that's called a blackjack this is relatively rare most people start out with a sum that is less than 21 and they have to make a decision as to whether to hit

that is to acquire another card or to stand that is to settle for their current value and the decision to do this is based not not only on the value of the cards held by the player but also on the value of the card the dealer is showing both pieces of information are essential to making an informed decision to be effective a player can't make a decision based on just one of these data sources in isolation and based on this information people can make more rational decisions about how to act given the balance of probabilities

in effect make sense now the same thing is happening with women in the sexual Marketplace we don't like to say it many won't even admit it but all women understand something about men namely a big part of why men give them attention and pursue them for sexual relationships is because they are physically attractive and that physical attractiveness diminishes with time until the point when it becomes increasingly difficult though not technically impossible to secure the type of relationship she would prefer with the man she would prefer to have it with that's busting she waited too long

or refused to settle and now she's over 21 now some women really don't like hearing this they'll contend that the issue isn't with their decision-making but with the superficiality of men's desire which inordinately cares about how they look and hey no arguments here that is super superficial however as I've previously discussed that superficiality may obscure some surprising depths and in any case it's not going anywhere anytime soon on the other hand other women accept the rules of the game irrespective of whether they approve of them and do their best to play as effectively as possible

these women are actively trying to secure the most favorable relationship terms they can with the most attractive men they can access before they bust and they do this by considering the information contained in the cards in their hand which is potentially you the man they are currently dating and the information conveyed by the Dealer's show card which is the other men she could potentially access for a relationship she'll use information from both sources to determine whether to hit or to stand now sometimes this decision is very simple when you're holding a 20 against a five

you stand and when you're holding a four against a 10 you hit however in many cases it's not so easy to decide what to do especially if you're not surrendering to a rational strategy of action and most people do not have and shudder at the possibility of having a rational strategy of action when it comes to dating they'd prefer to make decisions based on how they feel feel and these feelings can be very conflicted in certain circumstances it can be hard to stand because standing is settling by definition when you settle you could do better

however you won't be able to know how much better and on what timeline by the same token it can be hard to hit because hitting is risky in any ambiguous case that is in any case in which there is a real decision to make hitting could jeopardize the entire Endeavor in wanting more you end up with nothing and these are non-trivial consequences when it's your money on the felt if you're interested in taking your understanding to the next level I would encourage you to check out the Captain's Quarters my membersonly self-improvement community your monthly membership

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same token your hand might be relatively weak but if the show card is even weaker then that's going to motivate standing not hitting the point is that only so much depends on you and only so much is in your control here it also suggests that one of the best things you can do to improve the likelihood a woman is going to stand irrespective of the cards you're holding is to seek out contexts in which you can be a contextual Alpha when you're one of the most attractive options in a woman's social milu this is tantamount

to playing against a weak show card you're going to look good by comparison and this of course also explains some of the mate guarding behaviors that both sexes Implement to maintain a relationship they've already secured the introduction of more attractive options will increase the likelihood of hitting though this likelihood will be mitigated if your hold cards are high enough finally it helps to explain some of the more baffling and frustrating female dating Behavior the flakiness the unpredictable interest the impulsiveness in the game of blackjack the most difficult decision to be in the most difficult decision

to make is when you're holding 16 and the dealer is showing 10 the Dealer's down card is more likely to beat your 16 than not but you're more likely to bust if you hit than not even players who are trying to implement perfect strategy can make an emotional decision here because it's hard to hit when the odds are against you even if it's the logical thing to do just like the blackjack player the woman is going back and forth back and forth should I hit or should I stand should I settle or should I wait

for something better you can understand the probabilities but that still won't tell you what will actually happen this vacillation indicates that she likely finds you attractive which is good but not attractive enough to sufficiently reassure her that she won't find someone better before it's too late which is not so good if she thought you were either more or less attractive than she currently does you wouldn't be dealing with as much of this infuriating Behavior as a man you have to focus on what's in your control namely improving your value proposition increasing the value of your

hold cards and creating opportunities to be a contextual Alpha playing against weaker show cards and the good news is as long as you don't muck anything up you'll typically get better at both as a function of time you'll know that you're making progress because women won't be exhibiting this kind of vacillation which should indicate that they're seeing you as a much safer bet what do you think does this fit with your own experience let me know in the comments below and please send this episode to someone who you think might benefit from its message as

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