Michael Singer - Understanding and Handling Emotions

g g Masters let's talk about something that is a very very major part of the human experience and has a lot to do with spirituality but not the way most people think and that is emotions first of all what are emotions you can name them I think that's adorable there's jealousy there's fear there's anxiety there's anger there's love there's emotions we know the names if you were asked what are they eventually you get down to the fact that you say they're feelings they're not thoughts thoughts are thoughts thoughts are things that go on in your

mind they either talk I don't know if I like that maybe I shouldn't do that or they visualize you can see things that is the function of your mind it can it can express thoughts and it can express visualizations you can see a boat in your mind you can see a car in your mind you can see someone's face in your mind you have to talk about it you can see it those are the power of thoughts the power of Mind those not emotions very often almost always thoughts will go along with emotions they stimulate

each other but emotions are not things that talk to you in your head and they're not visualizations that you have they are feelings we in fact we interchange the words you how are your feelings and your your emotions why are they quote feelings I don't feel them I don't touch them I can feel you I can feel heat I can feel cold that's not what we're talking about that's outside inside there's Consciousness inside you are conscious you're aware otherwise you don't know if you have emotions or not do you know you have emotions you know

you have emotions because you're conscious that's the beginning of all discussions that are spiritual and otherwise you in there I forgot to ask you are you in there okay I thought so you're in there and you're conscious okay one of the things you're conscious of are these things called feelings why because you feel them not with your hands not with your senses what they are is energy they're patterns of energy just like the light spectrum goes from you know infrared to ultrav whatever it is you have this spectrum of vibrations that's emotions are vibrations that

you feel they can feel good can feel bad they can feel gentle they can feel strong their feelings their their vibration you can feel music if somebody plays music quietly and softly you feel that vibration if they play Loud Acid Rock and stuff you feel that vibration okay so that's what it means inside there are vibrations there are frequencies of energy that you experience as emotions if you want to give names to them I think that's hilarious I think it's it's like standing on the beach and watching a wave come in that's small that's Sam

larger that's Alice larger there's be truth like I mean you're why are you naming the waves they're going to come and they're going to go and and sometimes they're similar to each other why do you have to name them I don't understand but that's all they are you gave names anger fear love jealousy insecurity okay so if I feel it I'm going to name it that's what it PS down to if I have a feeling I'm going to name that feeling why do we do that because we believe and we're pretty much right that if

I say it's anger you know what I mean because you have feelings like my feelings W far out okay that's kind of human stuff and if I say anger you don't really know what I mean you think you do because you named your stuff anger if you've never felt really really rage strong anger you can sit there and say I don't know what you said it made me angry right or somebody sitt there say I kill you okay right which one's anger up to you it's like any other word it's just a label a collection

of letters that you put on something that you're experiencing something that you see or someone you don't know we all mean the same thing by Blue I know we don't okay I tell someone it's blue and she's very colored conscious she say no no it's it's turquoise it's the same thing with feelings how you like that I love you I love you I really do I love you and I walk somebody else I love you or I love you but then you don't love me that's not what I mean by when you tell me I

love you you don't go tell everybody else right there something there's something more serious about I love you I just feel so much love for you okay let's get married no I got to talk to the other person it's just a a vibration a feeling inside of you that's what an emotion is do they come and go do they sometimes come I want god let's talk about emotions he have you ever had an emotion that you felt start and then not come up just come up a little bit and then go back down yes or

no you ever have an emotion come up and you're watching it and next thing you know you're gone you're not even there anymore and you come back whoa and there's pots and pans and broken plates all over the place and did I do that I'm so sorry okay we experience these things as waves of energy wavelets of energy just like an ocean just like that or frequencies of a vibrational sine wave or other type of waves right they come up and sometimes they go back down sometimes they're stronger and they have the ability let's talk

about that to come up so strong that you get lost in them that they're like you're watching the wave and then the wave comes over your head and you start drowning have you ever had an emotion come up and take over what does that mean it took over took over what let's talk honest it took over your Consciousness it overwhelmed so strong that all of your Consciousness got pulled into it and it wasn't centered anymore let's you give meaning to these terms what does it mean centered there is a place that you normally who you

your Consciousness normally sits inside from that place you notice your thoughts from that place you feel your emotions from that place you notice there's a world coming in you're you're seated somewhere okay but you're not always seated there sometimes let's talk positive for a moment sometimes you turn the corner and there's this unbelievable Sunset taking place all the colors oh my God and you say it blew me away was it a bomb no it blew me away I was sitting somewhere inside and I went somewhere else okay you say it was like I felt like

I was in the presence of God your Consciousness got risen up to a whole another level yes or no can it do that can love do that can you hug somebody you're gone bye-bye I always tell you guys if you're really really having an intimate moment your eyes are not open why you don't like the person you want to see him I can't stand looking at you no it's because the energy is so beautiful inside that it draws your conscious is into it and therefore your Consciousness can't pay attention to anything except for the beauty

of that energy that's flowing inside fair enough so a sunset can do that music can do that so you have a center of Consciousness which you're used to sitting in that's your normal seat of Consciousness okay I call it good or bad but from that seat I watch my normal thoughts I don't know if I like this maybe a little bit should I stay I go I oh my God I remember last year I I wish I hadn't done that and they y y y y and they're kind of your normal little Yak going on

in there okay everybody is different and you have a normal set of you always have emotions you say I got emotional you're always emotional you're always feeling some emotions they're just not strong enough to stand out you feel a little love you feel a little fear you always feel a little fear don't you come on always there just this little bit of fear down there and you know it's down there and you kind of try and to stay away from it you sit in a seat and experience what it's like to be in there and

sometimes things happen either extremely positive or extremely negative strong up or strong down that you're not sitting in that seat anymore are you they blow you away that's what it means it blew me away it took over me I couldn't do anything about it I just felt so much fear I just ran away I don't I didn't care what happened I know I left my kid and I I just couldn't I lost it what what's the it it blew me away what's it it's your seat of Consciousness it's where you're used to sitting it can

can an emotion pull you out of that seat thank you okay how can it do that because you're not used to such a strong vibration you haven't been trained or experienced enough in your life to be able to realize yes sometimes the emotions can get that strong and it comes up and the next thing you know you're not there you're in it it overwhelms you you're oh it's so beautiful I like talking about this you how important this is this is spirituality because as long as that's going on you're not going anywhere well you are

going somewhere you're going there you understand that and if you can't handle your emotions oh that's a nice word what does that mean handle your emotions can you handle your liquor can you handle that your girlfriend held hands with somebody else for more than 3 seconds can you handle things what does that mean it means can you stay centered and I'm not using centered in a spiritual term oh he's such a centered being just say centered in your normal seat of Consciousness to where you're still there you have will you can make decisions hello hi

okay you're still present all right things can happen in which you're not present why because you couldn't handle them I'm married I have five children I've been married for 10 years and I started taking tennis lessons and oh my God my heart burst open I don't want to go home I just I'm overwhelmed with love and attraction yes yes or no can it happen it can overcome you all right why I can say overcome you I can say lost it I want to say you can't handle it is the problem that the emotion took place

or is a problem that you can't handle it sh pay attention those are two totally different things why God that's exactly what I'm want to talk to you what's different about that if the problem the emotion took place you're going to have to adjust your life so it doesn't take place I now need to manipulate my life I need to manipulate people places things finances every single thing weather in my life so it does not create emotions inside of me that I can't handle can you relate to that have you ever done that okay I

can't believe you did that right I can't be with you anymore I can't believe you did that what did I do you ate all the peas I like peas you should have left something for me and what it basically boils down to is something happened outside and an emotion an energy pattern came up in let's call it for now an energy pattern that way you don't relate to it as you relate to it I you relate to it the way it is an energy pattern fair enough a type of energy came up of a certain

strength and a certain vibration got created inside of me that's far out you have a vibration creating machine inside yeah it's called your heart is it not true that your emotions come from your heart they teach that and it's true okay there happens to be don't use the word a chakra there an energy center there and the energy comes out from that center it's not the same Center as your mind that's different different things come out of your mind thoughts come out of your mind emotions come out of your heart how many of you if

I said where do you feel love would point to your head okay no you go here that's your right that's where you feel love that's where your emotions come from so what happens is an event happens outside I don't care what it is you're all different an event happens outside and it causes one of these energy vibrations to shift inside of you is the problem that that happened so now I have to create a life in which that does not happen right or does happen it created this vibration I really really liked it so I'm

going to go be this person I'm going to go change jobs I'm going to go do something I do something cuz I like that vibration how do I create that vibration or how do I get you to behave in a way that cive vibration inside of me is that know what a relationship is okay I love being around you nice words what does that mean it means in your presence a vibration gets created inside of me that I really find Pleasant therefore don't talk to anybody else you're mine you belong to me okay I get

married I mean you just stay there and you keep creating the vibration but what happens if we get married and I'm there and and I don't create the vibration in you anymore well guess we're done or maybe we'll stay together for the kids or maybe the thought said well I'm only alive for a certain period of time I have the right to feel those beautiful vibrations that I felt before and I don't fill them with with him or her anymore right so what's wrong with it does it not think like that answer me don't look

at the person next to you right I'm talking about what it's like to live in there with emotions so there are ones that come up because of certain circumstances and you like them and the ones that come up because certain circumstances and you don't like them and guess what there are ones that circum all right this is important there are ones that circumstances in your past have happened that caused things to come up that were very very not pleasant and you didn't like them at all so you don't ever want to have those circumstances to

happen again so now we're manipulating our life not even what's happening now but based upon a some scar call some scar a pattern that you couldn't handle in the past so you stored it inside of you as a negative I don't like this kind of person I don't want to do this I don't want that to happen you hear me and now you run around and try to make sure that situations don't happen outside that caus that to come back up can you have a thought that makes an emotion come back up can you think

about what mommy did what Daddy did with George did what the ex-husband did can you just have a thought and this emotion comes back up up that was so unpleasant from before and the exact one comes back up so you don't even need an outside situation do you okay we're talking about emotions AR right then get get used to it man they run your life so is the problem that the emotion happened or is the problem that you couldn't handle it that is the difference between a worldly life and a spiritual life worldly life doesn't

mean you have material things a worldly life you thinks the solution to your problem is in the world I I get scared so don't do it I need to make sure things don't happen out there that make me feel fear I have a tendency toward anger I told you not to do that when you do that it makes me feel anger I now need to manipulate the world because I can't handle what comes up inside of me that's a worldly life no don't use worldly NE negative it merely means the solution to my problem is

out there what's your problem I can't handle my emotions I can't handle my thoughts I can't handle my emotions say with emotions I can't handle certain emotions all right and I like other ones so how do I get the ones I like outside don't I how do I make sure I don't get the ones I don't like outside I'm out there manipulating everybody and everything at all times now now let's talk about thoughts for a moment do do you ever have thoughts about how to make the world the way you want it do you ever

have thoughts about how to avoid what you don't want especially when you're lying in bed and can't fall asleep see what's happening so your question is is that the way to go about you have these emotions there's no question about it right and some of them you can't handle so is the way to go about it to go outside become intelligent plot plan thing do every single thing you can use anything you can your good looks a gun anything you can to make sure that things happen the way you like them and make sure they

don't happen the way you don't like them there I've handled my emotions you have not handled your emotions you've manipulated and suppressed the world so it doesn't do the emotions that you can't handle that's one way to live there's a totally different way to live and I don't know why they don't teach it the problem wasn't the emotion the problem is not the emotion you have lots of emotions a a mosquito flies by comes up and flies by right you can handle the you handle the emotion you're driving down the street the driver behind you

is driving a little too close and you it feels yicky but you handle it you handle it I'm able to handle it it's raining out and you want to go camping I hope you can handle it okay because you can't manipulate the rain so you just say all right a feeling of disappointment you have those can and you handle it a little bit just a little bit can you handle it there are emotions you can handle there are vibrations that come up that you don't have difficulty handling I don't have to manipulate the world okay

I I I don't know what where the level I can talk about where you'll agree you can handle it somebody walk a friend walks by hey Sally how you doing and she doesn't turn around and say hello and doesn't acknowledge that you're there can you handle that right I hope so because otherwise you're in big trouble you got to go run after Sally or never talk to her again or you hear me that that's a perfect example that might be that might be in the edge some may not be able to handle that what does

it mean I couldn't handle it it's not over it happened the emotion came up did it happen an event happen did you say hello and she didn't say hello yes did an emotion come up of rejection of hurt of feeling uncomfortable some people I hope it's you feel it and say oh okay what was they doing and go for their business just like if somebody doesn't use the blinker just like someone you know just that's like if it's raining when you don't want it to it's like you just handle it I don't know what to

tell you what does it mean to handle it the vibration can't handling it means push it away so you don't have to experience it no that's not handling that's suppressing it do you know what happens when you push it away because you can't handle it it stays you do know that don't you it absolutely stays and will come back up regularly in your life and haunt you like a ghost why you didn't let it go it's energy energy neither created nor destroyed Einstein and all the scientists understand energy is neither created nor destroyed that stuff

inside of you is energy just inner energy and if you sit there and push it away it stays inside and it will come back up you push it away again can it be there for 20 minutes can be there for 20 years the psychology all about that if you were able to handle it are they out of business isn't that what Freud talked about with suppression he talked mostly about thoughts and so but you're suppressing your emotions if you can't handle the energy you push it away you push it away it stays and it comes

back up okay so let's say you say hello to Sally and it goes there and it just passes through I told you I love the teaching ramach Krishna I love ramak Krishna that there are beings all right what is an enlightened being that can handle everything do that mean they don't have emotions no means they can handle their emotions there's a difference they once asked rahar Krishna fully very high being totally in toxicated with God at all times period right and they asked him does an enlightened being ever feel anger guess what he said yes

but it's like riding on water what's it like when you ride on water nothing what's the difference doesn't stay that's what it means I handled it it came in I didn't touch it it passed right through did I feel it yes was it there yes do we all have different things that stimulate different emotions yes we can talk about why in a moment but the question isn't that the that's is not did something happen that caused an emotion caus an energy vibration the question is can you handle it so that's really beautiful to know that

it's not true that you're not supposed to have it it's a natural thing part of it's part of human part of your Evolution you he came up froma and they had feelings too well if you poke I see if you poke a short object itm it pulls back why didn't like it uncomfortable so somebody says something you don't like you pull back right or wrong right it's just all part of part of the package okay you got a body you got a heart with emotions you got a mind that creates thoughts fine that's not the

problem that's not even any part of the problem the problem is can you handle it because if you can't handle it it will run your life if you can handle it you're fre you stay centered you stay clear you can make decisions based on things other than I can't handle it I'm telling you right now if you can't handle it the rest of your life's about that so it's not the event and it's not the vibration that got created inside by the way the event did not create the vibration he could have an event that

caused him to feel good the same event made you feel terrible the event is just an event that's that's the Zen water's blue flowers are red grass is green green that's that's what Great Master teaching you in then flowers are red water's blue grass is green there you have all the teachings you do you have all the teachings in other words things are what they are what the hell you making a thing out of them I don't want the grass to be green I want it to be blue all right it's like it's not the

event the event is just something that happens in the world it's just a bunch of atoms passing around it's the fact that you have built up this ego this self-concept of what you like what you don't like and how it's supposed to be how it's not supposed to be you got trained based on your past experience right why do you get turned on by one thing you get turned off yet tomorrow the same thing that turn on today will turn off tomorrow it could same thing that turned you on 30 seconds ago could turn you

off 30 seconds later why because as psychology says your psyche which includes your emotions I call the psyche the combination of your thoughts and your emotions your psyche is the sum of your learn experiences you've heard that before they say you are the Su you learned experience you are not you are the Consciousness that is noticing that your psyche is the Su you learned experiences so if I had of experiences before my parents were neurotic about being highclass or something right and all the silverware had to be in the right order being small spoon big

spoon soup spoon first you know I'm talking about okay and I go to a restaurant and I'm going to date with you and you're that kind of person also and you take to a restaurant and they're in the wrong order I've had it with you that's it what comes up is everything mommy laid on my head right are wrong you listening to me she didn't have any problem with it nor is anybody else but you do cuz you're the semi- Learned experiences your emotions are the sum of your learned experiences so that's a problem because

then it becomes I can't handle certain emotions so therefore I'm not going to the restaurant again I'm not going to talk to Sally next time after Sally didn't say hello if you can't handle the feeling that came up inside of you cuz Sally didn't say hello next time you see Sally you will walk the other way because you don't have to deal with her because you don't want that emotion coming back up or you will confront her what's wrong with you what did I do why don't you say hello the other day you walk right

by right wow we talking about real time here where the rubber hits the roads that's what spirituality is so it's not that Sally did or didn't do anything turns out she had you know earbuds on she didn't hear a single word she said or she was lost in thought about who didn't say hello to her [Music] so it's it's not about the eventage are place outside it's about the emotion of the energy pattern that it created inside which is unique to you and every right you had different experiences it's going to create different things right

or wrong okay and and when I say right or wrong you're not right people sitting there tell me oh know I'm right blue is a really nice color it makes it makes everyone feel really good you want to bet if your blanket was blue and they took it away too soon you hate blue these are patterns that are learned culturally learned individually learn whatever it is so you're not right so you stop that right off the bat you just understand an event how a yogi is an event took place outside did it cause a change

in the energy inside of me yes very good can you handle it that's what it comes down to if you could handle the Sal didn't say hello next time you see Sally you be friends again what do I care when you say hello my business I could care less if I can handle the emotion that come up inside of me if I can't handle the emotion came inside of me I really do care why she didn't say hello don't I all right so the question is worldly life means I can't handle the emotion either because

by the way can't handle is not just negative I'm teaching you deep yoga here there's positive and negative some scars what are some scars things you store inside that run your life what's a positive some scar something happened that made you feel really really good here go to that restaurant again and last time you went there they served a special very special Chef was there they served a special you took all your friends restaurant again this time and you look and that's not the special how you doing I'm scared I'm a little anxious maybe it

won't be good and I took them all here look at that so you stored a positive experience and you want it to happen again don't you you want the exact same thing to happen again right you judge everything based on that that's how positive experiences screw you up right and negative experiences screw you up the problem that screwing you up is not the experience is the fact that you couldn't handle it so it's the alternative is it possible that you can learn to handle things can you handle reality or do you have to fight and

struggle and change everything get weird so what does it mean to handle it it means I noticed now I can't handle that Sally didn't say hello and that makes me sensitive you know what not only am I sensitive now the next time I see Sally God you listen to me and don't blush do blush I want to see you blush right but since that happened to me it was so uncomfortable I don't say hello to George when I see him because he might not say hello and I can't handle it it's still not two in

the same day have you done it okay so it's not about that it's about okay the problem is not that somebody didn't say hello the problem is not the emotion or vibration came up accordingly because of my trained experiences the problem is I couldn't handle it if I could handle it then I'm like ramar Krishna Sally doesn't say hello I feel it's a rejection but it's like riding in water I did not feel it I'm not denying reality I'm not denying outside I'm not denying inside I'm just able to handle it so it comes up

I feel it then I go about my business how could you go about your business because I could handle it like I'll give you an extreme example which I it just blows my mind which go to the positive side ever watched the Olympics ever watch the gymnast on the horse or this or that spent their entire life learning that sequence and get up there and slip a little and get as if it never happened that's four years of 15 hours a day in all your life since you're 3 years old and here it is at

the Pinnacle and you go and you don't hit the landing you slip a little bit and they just keep going don't they they don't cry they don't get off they don't quit right they just wow they're taught to handle it they have to handle it don't they have to handle it okay so it's really beautiful in other words you can learn to handle things did you know that it's just the way I am I like that one it's just the way I am I've always been that way my mother was that way too I bet

she was okay so you get down to let's let's get to a real talk can you learn to handle your emotions not can you learn to make the world not cause them you all know suppression doesn't work suppression doesn't work you suppress things it rots down there it gets really weird and so on this is a form of outer suppression if you can't handle it inside so you would suppress it inside I'm going to suppress that person out there so they don't say what makes it feel it you see that it's the same thing as

suppression you're not waiting to have to suppress it inside I'm going to stop before it happens outside that's pushing energy outside it has the same effect the same effect if I say to you don't you dare behave like that you know I don't like that and you have something inside you I'm not even doing anything you know I just happen to smile at the wrong time I don't all right now you're neurotic I made you neurotic when you're around me that's the same thing so I pushed it down inside of me now I'm neurotic it's

a form of outer suppression so basic basically it's all about can you handle it it's all about can you handle it it is not about trying to manipulate the world so it doesn't cause an energy pattern to happen and it's not about you know controlling the energy pattern it's not it's about learning to handle the energies that naturally come up inside of you but what if they're unnatural what if the energy came up inside of me is I don't want to tell anybody you got those too don't you if you can handle it it goes

right through it doesn't matter what it is it's just a cloud passing through it's just a wavelet in the ocean it just comes in and goes don't be ashamed and don't be scared and don't think you're terrible you're not terrible you know when you're terrible when you can't handle the emotion and you suppress it and it cause you to do really weird stuff it's an energy pattern if you store the energy inside it is not going to sit quietly and next thing you know you blow your lid because you I handled it I handled it

for years all right well how come then when I said something you got weird because that energy needs to express itself and needs to release and it gets weird down there what if you sat there and said it's okay that I had that emotion it's okay that this took place if I can handle it if I can handle that it's riding on water what do I care what you wrote on water did you write a swear word did you write something I don't want I don't know I don't care it's not there anymore but if

it got carved inside of me and I have to live with it the rest of my life so all of spirituality is about waking up and realizing it's about working on yourself remember I quote roomie room one of roomy's poems yesterday I was clever so I was trying to change the world today I'm wise so I'm changing myself spirituality is not about the outside world but what if terrible things are happening out there can you handle it no but they're really terrible they're really terrible can you handle it well that's not the question yes it

is cuz if you can't handle it you're going to be terrible if you can't handle it you're going to perpetrate what everybody's doing because they can't handle what's happening to them why can't there be peace because people can't handle themselves if people can handle themselves there's peace why because there's peace inside if there's peace inside there's peace outside if there's turmoil inside because I can't handle things and I'm freaking out and you're doing things that bother me there's not going to be peace in me in my household in my community in my Etc so it

is all about handling it it's all about handling it well I don't want to handle it if he can't that's ridiculous I don't want to feel peace and love if you don't no it's not like that it's like if you can't handle it how do you expect anybody else too you're more evolved you're out here you're interested in growing you're interested in in spiritual life and not everybody is and so if you can't handle something what somebody said or somebody did or somebody's anger or somebody's thought patterns and so on if you can't handle that

how do you expect them to so you're not setting a pattern you're setting an example of anything it all comes down to learning to be able to handle reality learning to be able to handle reality and emotions are part of reality it is not like you're not supposed to have them but you're supposed to be able to handle them the trouble is you're so far from able to handle them that that you think you're not supposed to have them and since you do you try to make everybody else not make them come up have I

got it clear all right you're not going to go anywhere that way you can suppress and hold it together and make it look like you're spiritual but that's not spiritual if you're spiritual there's no struggle inside period under any conditions ever nothing just like Christ forgive them they know not what they're doing right don't don't defend me leave it alone I can handle anything L Lord do I have to may I pass this cup oh I like that one c a great Yogi may I pass this cup in the garden right he looked what was

going to happen to him didn't look really good that doesn't look like something I could handle may I pass this cup do I have to go through what that's going to cause inside of me or may I pass this cup and the moment he said may I pass this cup I love Christ a lot nice Jewish Yogi I love Christ the moment he said I pass this cup what did you say I'm sorry no not my will but thy will in other words I can handle it and he did didn't he I can handle it

I can handle it oh what about when he said why hast Thou forsaken me oh that is the most spiritual of all things he said in other words it's not not that I'm not feeling this I am feeling this it's not that not emotions coming up in here kind of on the edge of what I can handle oh that's great the moment he said that he just let go in other words it is about handling things not about not having them happen and again handling doesn't mean pushing it away like at first you think that

I I feel jealous I I always feel jealous and I can ruin all my relationships right so I'm feeling jealous but I can handle it I can handle it I just go God God God God God help me help me help me what help me push it away right or wrong okay and there's nothing wrong with that it's better than expressing your weirdness okay this bad enough as going on inside so basically you get to the point where you realize you have to learn to handle any vibration any o I love you so much I

want that you learn to handle anything that can come up inside of you if it's capable of existing it's capable of existing that's not the question can you handle it okay and the answer is yes you can but you haven't learned if you never touched a piano in your life can sit down and play Beethoven and Mozart and jakowski no well can you learn it doesn't mean you're concert panis but of course you can learn how but playing the scales that's how you learn is it I don't want to play the skills they not going

to play the piano you have to practice well what about sport okay you go to tennis no you ever picked up a racket before no okay go go play the William sisters and doubles they're two and you're one or Borg or any of these guys basically I've never picked up a tennis racket I don't know how to play I guess I'm not good at it cuz I can't play those guys no you get a ball thrower or a coach and they hit it at different angles right well wait a minute I got a coach and

he said I'm very good forehand oh I feel really proud I'm good I never pied look at that I'm good at forehand all right so why does he keep hitting my backhand he knows I'm not good at it what kind of coach is he's fired he should be hitting my forehand right CU I'm good at it is that right or wrong no you should be hitting the backhand all right life is your coach life is your teacher life is your Guru life is your path life is everything well why because events are going to unfold

in front of you that cause these vibrations to come up and you get to find out if you can handle them or not life is my teacher life is the classroom of what can I handle it events are going to happen that I have some trouble with and so I'm going to use it with this I start I teach you I'm very compassionate you start with the small stuff please I beg you don't sit there and try to handle what you can't handle cuz you can't handle it it's not even Healthy Start Right on the

edge of the things you can handle can you handle that it's raining out and you have to get out of the car and you have papers to carry somewhere oh not so sure right just I call it low hanging fruit you just start with this simple stuff that there's some level you can handle the thing it it it was raining and you had to get out but it stopped but there was still a little sprinkling that got on your clothes can you handle it yeah I can handle that okay too do handle that let it

be like riding out water here it is it rain it sprinkled Clos are a little bit wet just dots right okay he wants to say something about it he wants to feel cuz you do you know what I'm talking about when I do this you know what I'm talking about don't I right you don't even know what it is it's just like uncomfortable yes or no that's a vibration that's an emotion it just hasn't fully matured it's a wavelet starting to come up in the ocean how do I handle it notice it and relax notice

it right in the beginning when it first starts don't try to check it out oh I wonder how big this is going to get no just the minute it starts notice it and relax what does that mean no people say no I tried to make it relax it wouldn't relax of course it wouldn't relax it has its own energy everything has its own nature its nature was this weird vibration I didn't ask it to relax I didn't ask you to change it nature I asked you who's experiencing it to relax in its presence you relax

relaxation is the opposite of resistance resistance requires tension requires Force requires will force resistance requires outward will an outward exertion of will you have to push push relaxation is the opposite relaxation is you don't resist it you don't put out that well what do you do you relax what will happen it will be like riding on water it'll pass right through why there's no nothing solid in there there's no super glue in there there's no Concrete in there there's is nothing solid inside except your will and if you use your will to push it away

it feels pretty solid doesn't it it's like right on a concrete because you stopped it the Hoover Dam is stopping the Colorado River when always every second every millisecond what happens if a little crack happens the water goes through as fast as it can all right in other words you stored energy inside it's always going to try and release but you didn't use a dam you used your will don't you use your will to push things away inside do you have hands in there they can do things all right relax them you see people if

you're having trouble sit on your hands inside let it go let go relax release all the same thing what does Letting Go mean don't resist let it go let it be riding on water but start with small stuff you're not going to be able to do it and you'll quit just start with these little things that you don't even realize you're resisting this little he didn't uses blinker or you know maybe being late does it to you maybe catching every red light on your way to town does it to you does to me excuse me

um are you listening to me there's little stuff is it that get you going doesn't it those are the ones those are the ones I want you to work with why cuz you're able to right so what do I do I start feeling this thing right and then I relax I relax so I don't resist it well what will happen none of your business you did your job you didn't resist it but how long will will it last it's none of your business the point is you didn't resist it so whatever energy was down there

has the right to release however it needs to but will it come back none of your business you did not resist it if you don't resist it there's a natural process that will take place ever get bacteria or viruses inside your blood system and and there's this thing called what's it called oh an immune system I remember that's what it's called right what do you do to make it happen nothing happens by itself doesn't it the body knows how to purify itself doesn't it up to a point it knows how to purify itself so does

your heart your heart knows how to purify itself it doesn't want all that junk in there it wants to be free doesn't it wants to be open it wants to feel love passion excitement enthusiasm that's your natural state of your heart but you shoved all this junk down there that you couldn't handle so now it's all blocked that's what makes the emotions weirder by the way they hit rocks in there and they get all Weir strong okay otherwise they pass through they're nice they pass through so relax just relax and let it take care of

itself purification is a natural process just like purification your body is a natural process purification of your heart and of your mind the reason the mind is so weird the heart is so weird cuz you all this junk down there and now it's all hitting everything and the energy is not free the energy is not free so it hits everything in there and keep come flying up and causes all the stuff to come back up that bothered you before Etc that's not natural natural is a natural flow that just passes through it you get to

feel all kinds of things but what if somebody dies am I supposed to feel anything I never ever said you're I'm supposed to feel anything did I there's a natural vibration energy inside that will come along because you love the person and they die or you knew the person at least you don't do much about people you don't know you've got this thing and it comes in and it starts to come up Let it sad sad is part of it what's wrong with that should I get into people ask me all the time that mean

I should get into it and really be sad and and focus on of course not that's just reinforcing it that's just giving it more energy your your Consciousness is energy CH Chuy so you're feeding it energy and so the highest state is it's happening I'm experiencing it and it's beautiful what is sadness is beautiful feeling of loss is beautiful it's a vibration it's a beautiful vibration that's when get somewhere if it can come up inside of me and it's pure meaning it's not just hitting past stuff you will reach a point where the past stuff

enough of it is gone to where things come through they're beautiful you hear a bird sing it blows you away you hear a vibration of Music a note it blows you away somebody says something you don't like I told you this great Saint while yog Shak she know gave us the dur statue back in the 70s she once turned to me very very very pure lady she never talked about personal anything but we were very close and she shocked me she once turned to me she says Mickey I said yes mother she say don't you

just love when they yell at you there's so much energy what is that telling you it passed through it created a vibration that got her High is that what it does to you in the El and the answer is of course not why you defend yourself you can't handle the vibration that came up what if they yelled at you in a language you don't know about who cares so if you can handle it it comes in and it's got juice all right the whole world's full of juice but you can't handle it okay so it

comes in and I start start with the small stuff please I beg you you think it doesn't matter it matters learn how to let go learn how to handle your emotions that's what you're learning how to handle every energy pattern that can come up inside of you and if you can handle little ones you're going to find out very natural it's not a struggle it's not a struggle right you just relax it's the opposite with a struggle it's a relaxation nothing of Soden oh I got to get tense and do all these practices right just

relax let go let go then something bigger is going to happen really yeah like like your new car will get a scratch uh the red lights I could handle the scratch not so much so basically you learn to handle the next thing and you do it the same way it's always the same way but what technique no it's always the same technique relax and release relax and let it pass relax and release all right then something bigger happens then something else happens and it works so well that stuff that you stored down there before that

you shouldn't have it was ridiculous but you did starts coming up by itself why because you're not pushing stuff on top of it inventory control we call a Lio stack last in first out the last one you push down is the first one coming back up right the old stuff stays down there when you stop putting stuff down there the old stuff comes up and guess what it's not a problem because you learned how to handle that vibration so you welcome it that's how you should be with those vibrations come on up it's time for

a party you how you are ultimately you're not afraid of your emotions you're apologetic you look at it say I am so sorry I shoved you down there I wish I could have been as involved as I am now I would never have done that to you I shoved this crap down into my heart and I wonder why my heart's so sensitive and so weird you're are welcome to come up come on up welcome we'll have a party I love you I love you but what if a really stronger vibration comes up that's it's a

little bit harder all right are you ready sure all right once you start seeing what it feels like to live inside when you don't have that junk store in there you're feeling a lot of energy coming up inside all right and then you're not afraid of the world I'm not afraid of relationships why because I can handle what happens if they don't do well I can handle somebody not saying hello I can handle somebody holding hands with somebody else it doesn't mean I'm do something about it but I don't react and do that about it

I never ever take my stuff and shove it out into the world I do my best to handle it if I can't handle it that means I didn't handle it I lost it and okay that's where Karma comes from it's not a punishment I couldn't handle handle that so it's got to come back stay behind second grade you do second grade again I don't want you to look at Karma as a punishment or something you're afraid of if you can't handle energy and you shove it out there believe me it's going to come back because

you weren't able to handle it so you just little by little little by little every moment it's not like just your meditations every moment of your life you get to deal with this stuff and eventually you get to the point where stuff can come up and you can handle it and eventually get to the point where stuff will come up and you like that is coming up but but she left you I Because You Loved Her I loved her with all my heart but but she left with your best friend didn't it hurt killed me

it just killed me it tore my heart to Pieces how'd you do with that really well really well you know what R used to say I used it to go to God that's what he meant by that you use it to raise yourself you don't want that stuff in there that doesn't mean it's not there but you welcome it and you go through it and eventually what happens there a word in yoga called transmutation of energy the wave that starts weird if you relax and welcome it rises to a higher Center it doesn't go out

through that Center of fear or this or that you don't have to make it you have to force your chakras to open oh my God you know I never use the words all right you're going to find out that if you relax it won't push it out through that Center you won't push it down and it won't push it out you gave it a pathway to go up and it will go up and when start says I can't believe you said that comes up as I understand I understand right probably if I went through what

you went through I probably would have said it too and you feel compassion Buddha said the highest emotion is compassion why it came all the way up it came up it didn't hit your stuff you know I mean sympathy is it hit my stuff I I can relate to you compassion is not sympathy compassion is it made it through me all the way up into my heart and I understand where you're coming from because I went through there myself I grew past that I'm able to handle energy at that level but I can't expect you

to I don't expect any I don't expect anything of anybody because you know how hard it is when when you really grow very very deep you don't judge anymore judging is gone because you understand why everybody's doing Do We Now understand everybody does what they do you understand why everybody did to you what they did to you that didn't feel good they couldn't handle themselves and they pushed it out on top of you or did something to try do better for themselves that's how everybody is but you don't have to be that way now you

understand what spirituality is okay so there's a worldly life and I made that much broader than you think it is that's the life that says I need to manate the world to be okay and then there's I don't need to manate the world to be okay it's my teacher and I can learn to handle everything that comes up inside of me I can learn to handle my emotions and you're going to find out when you can do that that they naturally push your stuff that you stored from before they start pushing out of your heart

right get ready for that I'm sorry at first it's really nice feelings then it's your stuff comes up that's what's supposed to happen people said I used to when I started studying and reading your books I felt so high I felt so good and so on I don't what I did wrong right it's like oh my God I I feel I'm fire I'm good thank you that's wonderful that means it's working you need to cleanse this stuff the question is are you willing to relax and release as stuff comes up so I always end my

talks this way what if you did what if you actually try to handle to best you all can do is the best you best all you can do is your best to handle every single thing that happened in front of you and you open you relax the old stuff's going to start to come up okay fine what if I can handle that eventually you'll sit in a spot in your heart where it's white hot in other words the really big stuff is coming up and you're going to sit there and say come on up I

ain't budging I ain't budging I want to know what's on the other side of that don't you I don't want to keep that down there and be afraid it's going to come up I want to know it's on the other side of that fire and you will go through and what will happen is you will never go down ever again for rest of your life unless you'd be stupid and close again but you you're now able to handle the strongest energy that could exist inside of you you're now no longer afraid of anything anymore you

don't have a junk in there you're not afraid of yourself you're not afraid of anybody else cuz you can handle it now what happens the shocky changes Direction you don't realize it your energy goes down now because you're always pushing down you're looking out it's always a downward flow when it makes it past that point I remember us to call it piercing the heart chakra there's a literal thing when you make it past that point it changes Direction literally all of a sudden there's these waves of ecstasy pouring inside of you going up always going

up always going up raising you feeding you love joy inspiration okay nice stuff and because you because so nice if something happens that would tend to close it you say no no I ain't close them ever it's too beautiful I'm willing to go through the challenge because the beauty is so I'm willing to go through child birth because I want to have the kid how's that result is you're giving birth to your soul that's what's going on in this whole discussion we're having and it's very similar breathe relax they teach all that stuff so it's

basically you're willing to work on yourself to handle these emotions to handle the vibration of energy that energy that's why I call it energy is the same energy that the Bible calls the rush of holy Waters is the same energy there the rise of the Kundalini right it's the same energy but that energy is blocked and so it shoots out and gets all weird but it's the same energy anger violent anger is overwhelming love and inspiration when nothing's blocking it okay that's your journey that's your challenge are you willing to work on yourself and now

you understand what that means you're will to learn to handle the energies that come up inside of you instead of of Defending yourself blaming everybody carrying on like a maniac so it never happens again right you do this work inside very good thank you for listening