Master the Art of Seduction

seduction and the Art of Seduction is something that's extremely important in life it's not just about sexual seductions it's about seducing people to like you to be on your side it's about selling anything it's about being a master person in marketing or whatever the process is the same and here is a compilation of some of the best moments of the interviews I've done over the last 20 years when it comes to the Art of Seduction and how to master this art that's sort of what I consider the icon of Seduction is the siren itself because

that's where the concept came from and that's a woman who has a very powerful Sexual Energy that any man can feel it's not overt in that they're not coming on to you but they just radiate this it's kind of intense physical energy and there's an element almost of danger to them and that's sort of what excites the man about the siren and then the male equivalent of that is what I call the rake and the rake is a man who has an intense interest in women he loves women it's an incredible degree it like obsesses

him but he can never be satisfied with one woman and because he so much is interested in women and he understands them so deeply then there's the Dandy that's the kind of androgynous Seducer who mixes male and female characteristics then there's the natural someone who's kind of got a childlike energy they're just so authentic they're not faking anything there's they've got that kind of Innocence about them and it's devilishly seductive does the Coquette is someone who blows hot and cold they know how to play hard to get they get your claws in you then and

then they withdraw and you go crazy and you have to pursue them you're going after them then there's the star which as well can be male or female that's a person who has a kind of a distance you know a star is somebody that we project all of our fantasies onto what we imagine that they're almost Larger than Life and it's a person who knows how to be kind of blank and yet have this sort of hollywood-like presence about them a kind of confidence and they become a screen which we project all of our fantasies

on and we can think of millions of examples in pop culture you know and then there's the charismatic this isn't so much a sexual Seducer because not all the Art of Seduction is about sex a lot of it's about social seduction political seduction marketing seductions the charismatic is a man or a woman who's filled with this intense kind of confidence and the image that I use is it this almost like a light inside of them you can't see but from within it illuminates them and it makes their eyes wide open with an energy and it

gives them this kind of Animation we have to hear everything they say they're great orators right and they radiate this kind of confidence that sucks Us in we we feel like when we're close to them we're getting some of their own confidence what makes for a great Seducer is very simple you are outer directed so when you meet somebody for the first time or you're on a date you're not having that internal monologue going does she like me or does he like me might dress well am I saying stupid things what can I do to

impress them no you turn it off and you're out or directed and you're listening to them and you're entering their spirit and you're hearing them say things that give you idea of what they're missing in life of what they want of what their needs are of what makes them an individual you're absorbing it you're entering into their spirit and then you can reflect it back to them you can give them gifts you can take them to places that show that you're attentive to them because if you look at how we are in our day-to-day life

normally people never pay us attention they're always so self-absorbed they're never thinking about us the times where you get the sense that people are actually interested in who you are as an individual is pretty rare if you give that feeling to someone it's incredibly powerful because we all want to be validated we all want to be recognized you know I talk in The Art of Seduction of Charisma and what I Define charisma is there's a person who has a kind of inner light inside of them they're so confident that they kind of glow with that

confidence that their words are kind of revealing that their eyes are glowing their gestures are glowing and they're very charismatic it could be a Malcolm X it could be a Marilyn Monroe be a John F Kennedy it could be a Mick Jagger whomever we sense this incredible confidence in this power and it's like a inner lantern that just makes everything glow and we are so attracted to that that's what Charisma is why are we attracted to it because we envy people who have that kind of confidence we wish we could have that and we find

it very compelling we want to know them we think that some of it perhaps will rub off on us obviously men and women are different men tend to be seduced by visuals the way a woman looks is sort of the Primal way of seducing a man women are very prone to words to the verbal aspect and seducers the typical Don Juan of the 17th century they discovered that through language through poetry through casting a spell on a woman with their words that this was the weakness that they had and so many of these great early

seducers were just great talkers if you look at like some of the great ones in the 16th 17th century they were not handsome men they were actually one of them was physically repulsive but had such an incredible way with words that he could seduce almost any woman The Seducer is someone who has a kind of playful open attitude they're not someone who's judging they're not moralistic they're not going you're bad you're good they're kind of open non-judgmental they give a lot of themselves they want to please the other person they want to get that other

person to open up to them so the anti-seducer is the very opposite of that for instance being generous with your time or with your money is very seductive so if you're on a date and you're kind of worried about the money or the expense that's an anti-seductive sign like oh the woman or whoever I'm not worth that money you know I'm not worth going to a nice restaurant I'm not worth the expense or the effort tightness is anti-seductive openness open heart open spirit is seductive so any kind of tightness or rigidity or closeness is very

very anti-seductive if you're not able to let go of your tightness when it comes to a woman something's wrong with you man just let go spend some extra money spend the extra 10 quid that you might need to spend on taking you to someplace different but it signals a kind of cheapness and it's not about money it's about a cheapness in your spirit she's not worth letting go okay maybe you don't have that much but my God you have enough it's not gonna like make if you're that poor then then you know okay maybe but

probably not you could afford it show that it means something to you seduction is a language it's not a language of words it's a language of gestures that we're paying attention to we're paying attention to people's body language we're paying attention to their actions to the things that they never say so when you signal that discounts are so important to you that even on the first date you have to have a discount you're signaling there's something tight about you in your nature and it's not very pleasant so karna was a dictator almost of Indonesia back

in the 60s and this is a story of the journalist Cindy Smith who's interviewing him and the image in the West Was This is this sort of brutal dictator and suddenly this writer this American writer said God he's not like that at all he's listening to me he's doing what I want to do in fact she had the feeling she was seducing him at one point he said you know I like the color of your hair I want to have the same hair color wow this suppose a dictator of Indonesia wants me to dye his

hair the same color blonde as my hair she thought wow I'm having such an effect on him he's not what I all that I thought in the end he was controlling the whole thing I call that enter the other person's Spirit he was trying to beat a sponge for her he was absorbing her energy he was trying to get inside her world her way of thinking and it completely worked like a charm she found him suddenly not what she thought money isn't just money money is a sign money is something that has psychology has other

things attached to it let's just say it's a woman who is finding herself losing her attraction to a man because he's not making any money that could be because it's a sign that he doesn't have enough ambition he doesn't have enough drive or it could be a sign he's just finding himself and eventually he'll Discover it but you're kind of turned off a lot of women and I think you know yeah it's mostly women by the fact that this person doesn't have any drive has no ambition they're not trying to make something of their life

and so it's not about the money that there is the fact that there's something missing in them that kind of masculine energy such as masculine women have great drive to make money as well I don't mean to put it that way but that kind of drive that energy that makes them want to get ahead can be very seductive and very powerful what is the major complaint that people have particularly women but men also who've been in a relationship for three four five ten years is that there's no more magic left there's no more enchantment you

know the other person so well if there's no mystery left they take you for granted you see them every day doing the same things so seduction is something that still goes on even in a relationship even after you've been together for several years where you you don't have to do it every day because it gets tiring but every week or month or so you do something you re-seduce the other person you show that there's still something they don't know about you you reveal that there are depths to you in things that they never figured out

before there's still an element of mystery there's still an element of drama you're still put into the effort to take them to a place that they've never been to before these are things that we don't have a lot in the world today we don't live in a world with a lot of that kind of Enchantment things are very direct and brutal and I think people have this need believe it or not some of those early dysfunctional relationships with your parents are charged with this kind of sexual energy and so you'll find yourself attracted to the

very man or woman who's going to hurt you whereas the man or woman who is good for you there's no kind of sexual charge you are actually more attracted to the person that has these damaged qualities why is that because you get to relive some of those early traumas and so the problem that will happen that the person who is good for you is actually caring that will mesh with you that physical charge maybe isn't as strong and that's a problem right because you want to have that element but you need to be aware of

this you need to be aware of the fact that some of the people that you're most attracted to you're not attracted to just because of their sexy body or whatever it is there's also some kind of issues you haven't worked out from your Early Childhood that are at play in that relationship and that are going to cause you a lot of pain people are dying to be taken out of their lives out of the banal day-to-day work and to be taken on a ride they want enchantment they want some drama in their life they want

pleasure I talk about in the book it's like a child seduction is reaching the child of everybody and when you were a child you were one years old what was the greatest pleasure you had it was being picked up by your father your mother and kind of world around and taken everywhere and lifting it and twirled Etc the sense that someone was taking you somewhere and you were under their control it made you laugh it gave you this incredible pleasure and that's what happens when you see a movie and it takes you on this journey

where you don't know where it's going what's happening next people don't have enough of that in their lives