Ex-Wife Left Me for My Best Friend & He Grabbed Me By The Neck When I Confronted Her So i Did this..

ex-wife left me for my best friend and he grabbed me by the neck when I confronted her so I did this my 47m x-wife 48f left me a year and a half ago for a guy who was married to her High School best friend some friend she turned out to be right we had been married 20 year and had what I though were two children together I recently found out that my six-year-old daughter isn't mine she's his she knew this from day one of being pregnant and kept it for me and it's my name on

the birth certificate and I do intend to fight for custody as this has been my daughter and the certificate is a legally binding document she might not Be Blood but that is my daughter clearly this affair has been going fam on for some time finding out was a kick in the teeth when I asked her if it's him or me she said it's him why because he can get it right back up after segs and go again that's the only reason segs forget the fact that I worked two jobs to put her through school and

continued to do so she could stay home and raise our kids and cheat on me I gave up pursuing my dreams and music career for her so that she could persuade hers and have a family they have been the number one thing in my life my ex has always been a cold old woman she's bipolar and life wasn't always easy her outbursts and physical and emotional abuse were so crushing but I endured it because I thought she couldn't help it turns out that wasn't entirely true she admitted to friends that she often punched me because

she felt like it or wasn't getting her way my kids had witnessed on several occasions her striking and verbally abusing me and each time I took it without fighting back and hating my kids to witness this at one point towards the end she was angry at me for not taking the trash out the moment I came home and grabbed me by the neck and started squeezing while my son stood horrified watching I told her our son will always remember this and she let me go I should have left long ago I know this now I'd

like to think that if not for my children I would have but I didn't want them to have a broken home and held on to the hope that someday my wife would go back to being the woman I fell in love with I know now that those days are dead and gone and had been for years after everything came to light my wife sat down with her friend whose husband she was cheating with and told her Point Blank yes it's true no I'm not sorry and then my wife got up and walked away I was

told this by her friend my wife left left took the kids and moved in with him in an apartment behind the one we shared even then I held on to the hope that she would see the grass wasn't Greener with him he had cheated on his own wife several times besides with my wife and she knows this I waited that entire first year waiting for her to come back she kept the apartment keys and I assumed she was still holding on to them because she knew she would come home but at the end of that

year they began their cruelty again with him constantly dropping by the bus stop as I was putting the kids on the bus for school and telling me I've come to see my daughter off to school not your daughter mine I told him then why were you so content for the past 5 years to let me raise her her to have my last name let me be there at her birth and raise her as mine where were you why is my name on the certificate as her father instead of yours that almost earned me a punch

to the face and it did earn me to a drunken visit by the both of them at the end of the night because he showed up to fight my ex then decided to make everything public going on Facebook and bragging about her new boyfriend our friends were shocked and reached out to me and his wife about it I made sure to grab all the screenshots I could she doesn't seem to care about the hole she's dug for herself with our upcoming divorce then again why should she I already got her with a paternity test at

the end I became self-destructive I kept wondering what could I've done differently or better she blamed me for not being around for her but if I wasn't working two jobs how could we've survived I didn't clean when I got home because I was too tired and she's screaming at me about trash when our kids have colored on all the walls tore down blinds put holes in the wall under her watch but the not taking out the trash after working 16 hours was the problem the worst part was that I wanted my family back so badly

I was believing it was my fault it took a while to see the truth of it all all that changed with my brother he was determined to get me to play in his band and even though I declined he insisted that I meet the other members and decide then that changed everything for me I still declined but I struck up a friendship with them and ended up casually dating a friend that the Rhythm guitarist introduced me to I quickly fell in love with this woman 45 and it was a relief to be in a loving

relationship with someone that wasn't a 24/7 screaming match that usually ended with me getting hit now throughout this time as I've stated ated my ex still had the keys to our apartment she would occasionally let herself in and drop off stuff for the kids the first time she let herself in and my new girlfriend was there did not go well she called me that night asking me who she was and why was she in our apartment I enjoyed telling my ex that my GF was none of her business she moved on and left me and

was living with someone else the last few months my ex has become erratic over my new GF and has even begun to stalk her my ex had sent my GF a Facebook friend request and demanded my GF to accept it when my GF refused my ex called me screaming that I need to tell her to accept it because she needs to see the kind of person my GF is that I'm having our kids around my GF grabbed the phone from me and told her that she does not need to add her as a friend anything

involving communication about the kids can be done through Messenger or through phone calls that my ex does not and will not have access to our private life friends and family because she is not part of my girlfriend's personal life this didn't set well with my ex my girlfriend showed me the sudden burst of friend requests she got from people that had my ex as a friend my ex then started letting herself into my place every weekend and when I wasn't home at work to Snoop around I was on the phone with my girlfriend who was

staying with me while I was at work to hear my ex walk in and my GF asked her if there was something she needed my ex claimed she wanted to see how much milk I had in my fridge for when the kids came over my GF told her we had it handled and my ex left when I got home I demanded the apartment key since she's not living there she then took my son's keys and made copies for herself when my lease was up my girlfriend asked me to move in with her so that we

could distance ourselves from my ex my ex did everything she could to hinder this calling the police and telling them I was leaving with her belongings and when asked what was hers she couldn't name anything in my place that was left that was hers now we get the kids every other weekend and I was told by my children that they are not allowed to talk about what they did with me because she doesn't want to hear it that didn't last long now she pumps my kids for all the information she can get I'm sure it's

jealousy we live on the beach my GF is very well off and when we get the kids we take a short walk to the boardwalk to ride rides let them play on the beach or visit the aquarium if they return home with prizes my ex throws them away now the issue with my ex was the last few times she dropped off my kids I notice she now dresses and looks very similar to my GF she dyed her hair and cut it to match her whatever we do with the kids my ex runs out the following

week and tries to do the same thing with them if we got to the beach she takes them to the beach if we go to the zoo she takes them to the zoo if she finds out what we had with them for dinner she has to make the same thing and demands our kids to tell her who's they liked more last week my son asked to live with us because he said my ex was crazy you better believe I'm using all this in court just when I didn't think things could get any crazier with her

the other night she starts texting me Bears what the hell my GF was sitting next to me when they started coming in and I immediately got defensive and told my GF I didn't ask for them and that my ex and I aren't talking like that I offered her my phone to go through to see for myself my GF looked at the pictures and asked for my ex's number so she could text my ex her own Bears back so that she could show her how it's done called my ex and asked her what the hell she

was doing I told her that my GF was sitting next to me and saw the messages and is pissed my ex tried saying she meant to send them to someone else my GF said to her that my name was on one end of the alphabet while her boyfriend was on the other then she asked her who's the new guy since it was meant for someone else my ex hung up I really don't know what game my ex is playing this is all just crazy to me let me clear up a few things because the comments

keep coming back that as if I'm still living there one my GF did not send her bears in return that was just her verbal response to what my ex had done saying that she should to show her how it's done because the pictures were of my ex with her shirt off making duck faces at a mirror with her phone in her hand my girlfriend simply made a joke in regards to my ex's lack of imagination two I do not live in my old apartment that I shared with my wife anymore I have moved in with

my girlfriend because despite me taking the keys back from my ex she took my son's keys and use those to keep breaking in she does not have access to my new place and my kids don't even have keys for this reason three I'm currently fighting for custody of my kids and it's not easy with me not being the biological father of my daughter but I'm fighting based on the birth certificate having me listed as the father which gives me parental rights to my daughter four my ex was prescribed meds but I'm having serious doubts if

she's taken them five I check my kids for bruises and make sure they are not being abused but she made the mistake of getting physical on her boyfriend and he punched a hole in the wall and let her know if she raises a fist on him again he's fighting back update one this past weekend was my daughter's official six-year-old birthday it was not my weekend to get the kids and as a shock my ex asked me if I wanted the kids for my daughter's birthday of course I took them I was even granted them an

extra 2 days I figured they had some plans and were pawning the kids on me so they could go do whatever but the thing that strikes me is that this is the first time that he can celebrate his daughter's birthday and instead of doing something special as her father she's given to me and my girlfriend anyone else think this a tad f up update too just an update but I have to shake my head at this Saturday night I received an angry text from my ex saying that she hopes I'm effing happy that I won

I know I shouldn't have engaged in the conversation but I asked what her problem was she answered with a response that made no sense and then proceeded to tell me to go ahead and gloat gloat times 10 because something happened to her and then she proceeded to accuse me of being in on it I asked what I'm supposedly and on instead of a direct answer she went off on me about how all men are pigs and can't be trusted from this I gathered two things she's drunk off her crap again the idiot she left me

for cheated on her I didn't say anything when she's like that any response is a fight and I chose to not get into it I just read the texts and thought that she got exactly what was coming to her she left me for my friend who was married and had cheated on his wife three times with her being number three and when I brought this up as she was leaving me she told me I know what I'm getting into I guess she thought she was the end all to his Wayward ways when she ran out

of insults to fling at me she shifted her attack to my girlfriend telling me she's ugly as F and I could have had any girl but I chose someone ugly to replace her with my girlfriend is stunning both inside and out my ex is also extremely jealous of my new girlfriend and as I've mentioned in older posts my ex had taken to stalking my girlfriend and trying to change her appearance to look like her the attack continued with my my ex telling me that I don't love my new girlfriend and it's impossible for me to

fall in love with the first woman I Eed after losing her my ex and I had been apart a year when I met my now girlfriend it took some time for me to feel comfortable trusting someone again and that trust was earned and not given easily she Then followed up by claiming that I only love her because I lost my apartment and I'm kissing my girlfriend's crap for a place to live as she so interestingly put it it's only love when you're homeless I had my own apartment across the street for my ex-wife because she

decided to stay in the complex to flaunt the facts she left me for my friend in my face every waking minute when my lease was up I decided to move in with my girlfriend and relocate my job there I know she was trying to provoke a fight I just wasn't giving it to her when I thought my ex's attacks couldn't get any more stupid and childish she proceeded to tell me that she's sorry she wasn't enough for me I wanted so badly to call her at that moment and scream it was me that wasn't good

enough for her she left me or did she effing forget which of us walked out the door and which of us walked out the door replacing the other with someone else she left me for a married guy that had cheated repeatedly on his wife real effing winner her there she then went on the attack on my girlfriend again saying that we both know that she my ex was who I wanted to be with that my GF couldn't compete or hold a candle to her at that point I had enough and asked her to contact me

when she's better and sober and turn my phone off hours later when my GF came home she asked me what was wrong I warned her that she was going to get mad and I handed her my phone and told her to read it for herself she read it and just laughed her crap off and handed me back my phone and said looks like he cheated I said it seemed that way and proceeded to try to reassure her thinking the ugly comments might make her question me they didn't even phase her she told me that my

ex's narcissist ways really come out full-blown when she's drunk and bet that my ex was upset that she couldn't come to me for a Revenge F to get back at him I have yet to hear anything else from my ex my guess is as usual the next day she looked back at those texts and saw what she did and feel stupid I'm also betting she's back with him because she can't stand to be alone edit 20 years of her abuse was a long- lasting effect that I'm trying to work through no matter what I did

I was wrong when I was right I was wrong for disagreeing with her and trying to make make her feel stupid I see now that's a narcissistic Guilt Trip a lot of it is subconscious and I'm not even aware that I'm walking on eggshells if my phone goes off I instinctively say who it is and show my girlfriend the phone which is what I did in the past to avoid fights and accusations I don't have to do that anymore but it's a hard habit to break when I do it my GF usually doesn't even look

but says you're doing it again and that's the messed up part if she doesn't look I feel like she didn't verify that I'm telling her the truth and I feel like it might open me up to an attack later I know that it won't but it's going to be a tough to break there's so much internal crap that I'm unraveling eventually I'll get there but that's the hardest part isn't it recovering from all of it not just the cheating but uncondition the controls that were used on you just when you think you got it back

you get into a new relationship and the floodgates open and you find yourself doing what you did in your last relationship to not make waves in the new one instead of just being you it really is a long road to recovery update three as of my last update my ex got cheated on by the guy she left me for as predicted they got back together 3 days later I expected that she has no one to fall back on and now she's stuck with him for the most part ever since that last incident I haven't heard

anything from her outside signing a few documents for our divorce and Communications about the kids and I'm thankful for that but I know it won't last before she gets drunk and I get sent another drunken you're the ultimate crap off rant Halloween my band was asked to perform at an event one of my friends sets up every year I've been doing it for a few years and it's a tradition my ex used to attend with me she didn't last year because that's the year I found out that she was sleeping with my best friend and

that my now 6-year-old daughter was actually his she wasn't invited but she showed up anyway with her boyfriend that she left me for and who cheated on her and my kids I was Furious kids are not welcomed at these parties as they are grown-ups only and she knows this and I strongly believe that she showed up with him in an attempt to get me thrown out security kept telling her she couldn't come in and she stood there fighting saying that the kids wanted to see their father play I've got security telling me that I need

to get them out of there and her screaming at me that I'm putting a party over my kids my friend who was throwing the party came down and told her she could stay and watch me do two songs but then she would have to leave and if she refused he's calling the police I told my friend not to cater to her and he told me he was only doing it for my kids it wasn't a good night I was on stage and I wasn't privy to what was happening around the party but I was clued

in on it when I went between sets some of what I found out was that my ex tried clashing with my girlfriend and it didn't end well for her my GF put her in her place and called her out on using our kids to play games this was witnessed by many people and when I walked off stage I had several people telling me and pointing to where they were when I got there whatever fight there had been was over and my ex was staring daggers at my GF from far across the room my daughter humiliated

my ex by loudly telling everyone there that she has two daddies me and her mommy's boyfriend who is actually her real daddy that further humiliated my ex as she said thanks for making me sound like trash and she ended up leaving after that but my son refused to go with her and fought to stay with me my ex had her BF find my GF to ask if we could keep him and she agreed and worked it out with my friend to keep my son glued to her side for the rest of the party and we

we took him home the following night my nerves were shot to hell the whole night I must have apologized to my friend GF and son a thousand times that night for putting them all in the middle of it I messed up every song because I kept searching the crowd to see where they were and what was happening worrying that a physical fight would break out between them I didn't know until after I was off stage that she had took off and left my son behind when I took my son home the next night she made

it a point to not be there I was told by her boyfriend that she knew I was coming to drop my son off and she wanted to avoid a confrontation about what had happened he AP ol oliz to me about it all and tried talking to me about her and how she's been acting I told him I'm not getting into it with him and I left I get a phone call later that night from my son that they're fighting badly over me her boyfriend got tired of the crap she's been pulling and accused her of

not being over me he apparently asked her what is it that bothers her most that I moved on and she can't crawl back to me or is it that if she hadn't have left me when she did for him that I would have eventually left her for my GF according to my son that was what started it I could hear them screaming in the background and asked him if he needed me to come get him he told me know I talked to him until it died down so that's just what's going on with me right

now still going through the divorce still moving forward I just no longer look back at what I lost I just need to get my kids out of there and yes I'm still fighting to do that update four my six-year-old daughter was going on and on about her elf at soon to be ex-wife's house so my GF bought one for hours and set it up thinking my daughter would be excited to see the elf sent a friend to watch her when she was here my daughter's reaction was alarming to say the least the moment my daughter

laid eyes on the elf she became Furious she instantly started screaming at it that it needs to leave or she's going to tell Santa that it's bad and tells lies she went into a tantrum to top all tantrum screaming for it to go or else she's telling my girlfriend tried calming her by telling her it's not going to lie if she's good he'll tell Santa she's good but if she's bad he'll tell Santa he's not going to lie so all she has to do is be good my daughter bared her teeth and gave my GF

a look to slaughter and growled he's going to tell on me what the hell I had so much going through my head at that moment why why is she afraid of this one and not her mother's how many lies is she yelling at home that my ex is just ignoring how much else is my ex ignoring now I've had issues with my daughter lying she likes to make claims that her brother hits her when he's not even anywhere around her and we've been working to curb that I brought that up to my soon to be

ex-wife and her response is she's aware of it and handling it now today when I dropped my kids off I plan to confront her about what happened with the elf because something tells me the going a on there I don't feel like I'm something seriously wrong is looking too deep into it I want to get her into therapy because it's becoming clear that there's a lot more than what I'm aware of going on there something is wrong over there that's for damn sure edit I already know at her mom's she's the princess because the real

father is there and she can do no wrong I also know he gives my son hell because he's mine my GF and I talked to the kids today about the behaviors we asked my son if my daughter does this crap at home lying and trying to get everyone in trouble he said not as much which left us wondering why she does it he asking my daughter why she lies about her brother she got defensive and says he does does hit her that he just did when asked when that happened she said just a minute ago

he wasn't even in the house he was taking the trash out and hadn't been near her all day long he avoids her because of the lying when pointed out she was lying she got angry and raised her fist to my GF and threatened her I took away her TV and video games and asked her why she misbehaves and doesn't be good she looked at me and growled because I don't want to looks like I got to step up the discipline because I'm not having this crap update 5 so it would see my daughters freak out

over the Elf on the Shelf Unleashed a flood of bigger problems I investigated why she had such a reaction to it and I fell down a pretty deep Rabbit Hole of problems I didn't even know I had to recap over the weekend my GF and I got my daughter an Elf on the Shelf since she kept talking about how much she loved the one at my cheating soon to be ex-wife's house upon seeing the elf my daughter became aate towards the elf screaming it has to go because it's going to tell sent on her this

posed the question on why the one at her mothers was great but ours was an issue so I asked and got no answers we went to dinner with my gf's ex-stepmother my gf's father cheated on her and my GF sided with her stepmother and remained family with her despite her father's divorce this does wonders for my trust issues for my soon to be ex-wife as I know where my gf's moral compass stands because of this relationship with her ex-stepmother during this dinner the stepmother made a brief mention of an abuse my GF suffered at the

hands of her stepfather on her mother's side my son visibly reacted to it but said nothing at the time on the way to take them home he opened the floodgates about what had been going on at home I got to say I didn't see that one coming it would seem the ex-wife of my soon to be ex-wife's boyfriend has been handling the affair between her husband and my wife with vengeance and extreme hostility she wants blood and she's doing everything she can to make their lives a living hell by any means necessary including using her

kids to attack my son because he's the son of the woman who took away her husband these kids in turn think it funny to teach their half sister my daughter who is really his daughter to attack my son too when I asked my daughter she said it's a game when I told her it's not fair to her brother and it's mean and not a game she started crying that I didn't want her to have any fun fun and started her tantrum I told her it's going to stop she rolled her eyes and told me but

I don't want to it's fun what the f I informed her that punishments would be forthcoming if it continues and I'm not tolerating it anymore mistreat your brother and I'm taking away everything no TV no toys no video games everything that earned me another meltdown but I'm not having it when I dropped my kids off I asked my ex what the hell was going on and I confronted her with what I was told she told me the OBS has been doing all in her power to make their lives hell the OBS knows their side schedules

for their side jobs and has been sabotaging it which has been affecting them financially and she told me Christmas was going to be ugly on their end because of it I told her about his kids being coached to abuse our son and training our daughter to partake in it and she hit me with there's only so much I can do and she can't watch them all the time I told her if she's aware of it do something about it because it's a problem when the crap going on here spills into my house I know she's

not doing a damn thing about it that none of the kids are being disciplined because my daughter thinks it's okay to act up at my place and still learning that actions have consequences learning which I have to retach her every other weekend because I don't have her enough to drive that point home so every other week it's back to square one which now explains why she fears our elf and not the one at home nothing's being done so now I got a new problem the OBS is making it hell on all of us yeah I'm

bringing this up in court that my kids are being abused by the ap's kids because of this you better believe I'm bringing this up edit I'm going for custody for both my kids not that I wasn't before but this just gives me a little more to work with now that I know more of what's going on in that household in a way it does explain the elf my daughter doesn't fear the elf there because there's no repercussions for her actions there she's allowed to misbehave and no one is doing a damn thing about anything any

of these kids are doing she was afraid of my elf because she knows she gets in trouble at my place I always had the suspicion that my ex wasn't doing anything about my kids behavior on her end this confirms it the way my daughter reacted what my son said and what she herself said about it there's only so much I can do you can do plent since she doesn't want to handle it it's up to me I'm using this in court update 6 it was today that it officially ended that we sat on the zoom

Court call and ended it all I went through it in a haze because I thought of this day a million times over the last year and here I was and it was happening it took 5 minutes to end only five neither of us were contesting it she wasn't asking for anything not that she could paternity test let me know what was what just a couple quick questions that were mostly not asked of me I was asked if there was a chance to save the marriage no I was asked if I wanted to proceed with the

divorce today yes it amused me how they asked her if there were any domestic issues or abuse and she said no I wasn't asked that at all I found it interesting I got hit plenty it wasn't even an issue I guess in the end that didn't matter because the end would be the same it's over all that's left is family court for custody of the kids and with what's going on right now it's leaning more and more in my favor she waited exactly 5 minutes from the end of court to post it all over Facebook

I know this because my phone blew blew up with screenshots from my friends telling me about it she made mention about how divorce is hard but we need to set a good example for our kids she even tagged me which was a mistake my friends got on her about how it would set a better example for the kids by not immediately going to social media for attention and likes I guess I can't say crap about that I'm here telling a bunch of strangers but I waited several hours and none of you personally know me but

it's over and I'm not entirely sure how I should be feeling I feel blank Update 7 it's been a while since I've said anything and I thank everyone for reaching out out to me I've just been in a mood with everything going on and not up for updating my divorce was finalized last month so that is one obstacle down for the most part it was a good Christmas with the exception of my ex losing her job and the AP she moved in with her is not making enough to make ANS meet and came to me

for help with the kids I wanted to tell her to kick Rock since she waited 3 days before Christmas to tell me and me and my GF went scrambling to find suitable gifts with stores picked clean before anyone tells me I shouldn't have done a thing and let my kids see her for the trash she really is I wanted to I almost did but I can't do that to my kids on Christmas and I told her this is a one-time help I won't help her again when she came to get the presents she asked to

come in to see where the kids slept when I said that isn't a good idea she told me it wasn't a request and that she needed to and it was her right too when she tried stepping around me my GF was in her face telling her that she's not stepping foot in her house and if she's got some concerns make some calls but she my ex will never be allowed in her my gf's house my ex back down and I spent the rest of the night calming down my GF from wanting to tear the face

off my ex the best way I can explain this my GF has my ex completely locked out my ex tries fails miserably and screams to whoever will listen that it's unfair she's cut out when the kids are with me our life is none of her business and doesn't involve her and my GF has made it loud and clear my ex has no place in our lives maybe I'm an idiot for this but I let my girlfriend take the Reigns in this situation she's immune to my ex and better at calling out the crap that I

am where my ex will challenge me and try manipulating me to bend my girlfriend is an unmovable Rock my ex hasn't tried playing any games since then I got my kids in therapy things have escalated with them we put a camera in the living room which has been catching a lot of my daughter's lies a lot of her punching my son and screaming that he hit her when he didn't we've confronted her on it and she's starting to learn that the lies aren't working here my son is frustrated at how long court is taking and

is having issues not being able to live with me fulltime yet he's very bonded to my girlfriend so I have no worries there they don't Clash that's a relief but he's acting out at his mother's he's screaming punching walls and arguing I know he wants out of there and I'm doing what I can to make that happen I know it will happen all that aside I have a new problem with my girlfriend's ex-boyfriend suddenly stalking her which hilariously was brought to my attention by a different ex-boyfriend of hers my bandmate who was the one who

introduced me to her this guy went crazy the other night at being told by the other ex that she's happy she's moved on and he needs to let go and find someone knew his response to that was crash his car into a guardrail trying to destroy himself so much crazy in my life life I don't know if I should laugh cry or sell tickets so that's what's new with me update 8 D-Day was over 2 years ago divorce was finalized 4 months ago she's still with ap and I've moved on a year ago for the

most part my life is so much better without her here it is 2 years later and I'm still finding stuff out there was another friend of mine that she slept with before the AP I wish I could say that didn't sting a little but it did it just increased the timeline for how long I Was a Fool so I missed the signs twice I know my daughter isn't mine now I'm wondering if my son is he doesn't look like me none of his features are mine not all his features are hers either as much as

I wonder I wonder also if I really want to know I don't think I can take that blow a second time ignorance is bliss right I try to put as much of her behind me as possible it's difficult when kids are involved because I'm stuck co-parenting until they're 18 I tried to go without gray rock thinking we could be amicable I wanted to show the kids that we could come together for them interesting how the guilty ones are always on the attack back and constantly trying to blame shift even after all is said and done

even more interesting how she thought she could still control me and call all the shots when I didn't give in she still lashed out and attacked she tried her tactics on my GF and long story short she's learned to stay clear of her my GF is a force to be reckoned with and dealing with sociopathic narcissist isn't her first rodeo I know that in the end I came out on top I have a new life/ new job SL new home/ new love I'm doing far better than my ex who is dealing with the repercussions of

her actions not only did my ex destroy our life together she ruined APS 2 and his ex-wife is going above and beyond to make their lives a living hell I'm sad to say this affects my kids as their lives are turned upside down by that crap show the ap's wife is the poster child for Hell hath no fury she hit them hard financially and my ex has come to me crying poor mouth a few times already she lost her job 6 months ago and is yet to find work choosing to live off her AP who

is getting squeezed dry by his ex I don't feel bad about that at all I just hate what it's putting my kids through I do what I can for my kids but for my kids only I won't give money but I will take over what they need I'm not giving her the chance to go drinking with my money because that's who she is and part of the reason she was fired yes I'm working on fighting for custody for my kids even the one that isn't mine I need to get them away from her my son

has developed a deep resentment towards his mother her fault she's the one who told him why we were divorcing he knows his sister is the APS and he makes sure everyone knows it he told my GF before I could I was trying to not dump all my issues on her as a newly divorcing father I already had a lot of baggage and didn't want to overwhelm her but my son is angry on the bright side his bond with my GF is iron tight that's his best friend my daughter is her mother she lies she's manipulative

she pulls the same tactics and reacts the same way when things don't go her way she's learned from the best the cameras up in the house have been very useful at catching her in her lies she likes to accuse people of being mean to her and loves accusing my son of hitting her the camera show her running up hitting him and screaming that he hit her after after we confronted her and showed her the video she had a meltdown at being caught since then she stopped accusing him of hitting her now we're catching her sneaking

into things she's not supposed to and playing one side against the other saying that someone said she could have something when they didn't and that's another thing the cameras are up for my benefit under the guise of home security but that's not all I'm using them for if my daughter falls and gets a bruise my ex is screaming child abuse she is tried accusing my girlfriend of hurting my kids the reality of it is that my daughter decided to dive off the couch trying to make a to the chair because the floor was lava so

there I am sending my ex the video showing what happened and US addressing the injury as it happened that only went on for a few weeks before my ex finally got the picture that no one is hurting the kids and we have prooved for every bump and scratch I know it sucks taking it to that level that I put up cameras but I did it brings me a piece of Mind knowing my ex can't play that game against me it also brings me a huge piece of mind when I'm at work and my GF is

home alone and I can check in to see what she's up to reading a book watching a movie or playing video games on online with my son or her little brother who is the same age as my son having the cameras helps me with my trust issues