being alone may be the solution

as bad as I hate to admit it I think being alone may just be the answer for many of the problems that we Face there's a lot of toxic relationships friendships and just things that's been going on and I think it's best just to separate yourself from it or at least it's been helping me a lot of people come into our life and they're only there for transactional reasons they want something from you or they like the ability that they can do something to you or get something from you and when that doesn't occur they

vanish which is okay you know what I'm saying it is what it is we do what we do to survive right but I don't like it and it's not something that I want to be a part of friendships and genuine bonds are rare these days is because of those reasons if somebody cannot get what they want from you then they don't want anything to do with you but when you give them what they want they pose as if they are for you they support you in everything you do they agree with everything you say until

they don't get what they want and I don't think that's right it's one thing if you know that and you allow that you're okay with that but a lot of people don't realize that so I want to bring some more awareness to it a lot of us have friends or we have friends that like to pick on us or we've seen it you're in a friend group and there's always somebody that always get picked on and usually that person that gets picked on never says anything or never stands up for themselves because they don't want

to be lonely they much rather go through bullying and torment so that they don't have to go out there and find new friends or they don't have to spend time alone it's much more comfortable to be tortured and to be alone which is insane we also have friends that put us down everything we do everything we want to do when it comes to growth and advancement they laugh at us or they put us down oh you don't need to do that oh you crazy that's crazy haha you'll never do that right some of them aren't

so direct but it's all the same energy it's all the same but instead of you finding a new friend group or branching off and being by yourself you stay there because it's much more easier to Go Through Torture than to be alone we also have friends or people we're connected with that are there for monetary reasons whether it's money or some form of compensation you don't speak to them for 3 months but they don't speak to you in 3 months the first time you have a conversation hey bro I was wondering if I could get

this or hey bro I just need a little bit of this and it's like damn you ain't ask me how I was doing you a ask me what was going on in my life it's it's all about take take take take but you never give and some people do give but it's just to set up the take hey I'm going to give you $20 so I can ask for 200 next week hey I'm going to give you 200 so I can ask for a th000 in a month and people really have these plans if you

think I'm playing go look it up for yourself analyze your friends do a few tests ask a few people you'll see those are the type of people that we are around and I'm not saying everybody is around you know Chumps but it's just it is what it is but when those people don't have that access to you they turn on you they don't want to talk to you when you stop watering these dead plants you'll realize that they're dead but you have to put forth that motion that's why I said the answer to just about

everything in these days is loneliness being alone but you don't have to feel lonely while you're alone you always with yourself Never by yourself y'all know I preach that from the beginning of time to the end I always will but it's just something that's been sticking with me and I've been seeing it a lot in my own surroundings and I'm very careful about the people I surround myself with and I like to take care of people as much as I can if I have it to give it's yours what's mine is yours if I don't

have it to give then I don't have it to give but I've literally taken weeks away from people and I'm like you know what I'm going to reach out reach out have a little conversation d d next message hey can I borrow some money hey can I get this hey can I get that like I said it's cool right if I don't have it I'm not giving it if I don't have that extra energy to give I'm not giving it I've had people that I've spent time around and done many things for took care of

them and then the moment that energy shifts and I notice that this has become a transactional relation ship and when I don't give a certain amount when I see the energy shift my energy starts to shift then they start to get worried oh are you okay now you want to check on me you seen my scars you seen all the things that are going on I'm vulnerable with people that I'm close to but now when you see that your compensation is about to run out or maybe run thin now you're concerned you're concerned about me

for your own sake strange right but those are the people that we surround ourselves with by Choice they're not forcing their ways into our life we let them that's why you have to take responsibility that's why I said being lonely might be the answer Solitude might be the answer for a lot of us to uncover a lot of truths and I'm not telling you to diss your friends but maybe go into a little period of solitude you know some solitary confinement just go away from people stop talking to people stop reaching out to people and

see who's actually there for you see which of those flowers are already dead stop watering dead plants you really need to take time and analyze the people that you're around analyze the people that you continue to hang around and want to continue to be around because they will make up your future in some way shape or form some way somebody's always going to be there to use you somebody's always going to be there to drag you down someone's always going to be there to discourage you or make you feel less than because they don't feel

enough about themselves and you don't deserve that but the bad thing is a lot of people aren't aware of those things and they're not willing to go through those tests and actually see a lot of people actually know what's going on like I said they're way too comfortable they don't want to move past that because they don't want to be lonely it's scary to be lonely in this world or what's worse you being lonely in this world or you're being surrounded by a bunch of people who don't don't care about you don't have your best

interest in mine I'd rather be alone at that point at least I know I got me and everybody around me has me even if it's just me the team is 100% silid And if the ship sinks I go down with it because I am the ship at least I don't have people inside of my ship poking hes on the inside so water gets in the inside and then sinks my ship that I'll go down with it that everybody who poked the holes in the ship they're going to jump off and swim to safety and then

I'm there to sink in my ship that's the way life is that's the way relationships work that's the way friendships are that's why it's important for you to have quality people and energy around you if it feel like your life is in a Perpetual dump and things are just going on and on and on and there's much more bad in your life than good start to analyze the things around you including you you can be a nuisance to your own life if you didn't realize the whole point of this video is for for you to

realize for you to be aware for you to take action cuz if you know all these things you continue to go down these same Cycles it's nobody fault but yours it's not a good thing that people are doing things to you and it's also not a good thing that you allow people to do things to you that you allow yourself to be in a space for people to do these things to you so even when I'm wrong of course it upsets me but I go right back to self analysis self-accountability what could have sh What

could Shaman have done right if I'm doing something and there's transactional relationships that I noticed and every time somebody reaches out to me it's about them asking for something and I continue to give them what they want I'm enabling them and I understand that some people I let it slide for it some people I don't same thing with this YouTube thing I can post a thousand in one videos and I have all the fans in the world oh shal we support you thank you for the videos you're changing my life and then I stopped posting

for 2 days yo Shan where did you go I'm going through problems man and I I need your videos and then I make a post yeah my mental health is not the best and they're like oh man I know but I just need your videos I need i i i i i it's all about I that's what it's all about I everybody is looking out for I that's why you have to look out for you if I try to suffice everybody and satisfy everybody and fix everybody's problems and never tend to myself what am I

broken stupid if you ask me I've been there before I've been stupid I've done stupid I've tried to give somebody everything when I had nothing and it made me sick it made me tired slept for months still tired still tired to this day because nobody should put themselves through those things so understand me when I say this you you need to take some time and think about you you need to take some time and do things for you friends may be rare in this generation real people may be rare or getting rarer but you always

have you you can always be solid for you and you can always find people they always going to be out there now the quality of people is different but you can also have a little bit to do with that you know what I mean we expect too much out of people instead of trying to have one superum as good for everything just have pieces of it if you like parties find somebody who likes going to parties right if you like somebody going to the book club find somebody who likes going to the book club you

have all these people that kind of have all these little qualities right I'm not saying ex expand and just extend yourself to everybody but instead of trying to have this one person that cooks cleans they go to the parties they're in the book club and they're scholar and they just find you a few people that you can share some conversation where you can have a little fun with maybe some of them you can talk to and just find a little bit of Peace but always have yourself and amongst going out and connecting with all these

people and exchanging interest and conversations you're going to start to weave through all of them and see that it's about three good people out there that you need about three good people and you going to start to collect one here and collect one there and collect one there you're going to have your friends your inner circle and then you're going to have people outside of that you're going to have people outside of that maybe it doesn't work like that for some people just a healthy way that has helped me I know a lot of people

I'm not friends with a lot of people and I surely don't have a lot of people inside of my family I'm related to a lot of people by blood blood doesn't make you family just because I shook your hand and I know you and we exchange conversation that doesn't make us friends you're not my enemy but you're not my friend friend I don't trust you with certain things I trust you to be who you are but the person you are is not somebody I trust inside of my circle or with a certain amount of my

energy and you're not getting it so I'm just bringing some awareness to you good people because I have some strings to cut in my own life and I'm always keep it 100 I'm always be vulnerable I always make things very clear so to reiterate on another point that I just made about transactional relationships but anybody who watches my videos and supports me you should know why I do what I do and how I feel about certain things I take my breaks from YouTube I take my breaks from creating content for my own sake so if

I don't post anything I mean you can still comment hey we miss you or whatever whatever it's cool but don't be ignorant and if you didn't know I will remind you I take breaks for my own mental health I don't slack I appreciate the inspiration and the motivation because when I do see comments about people missing me my content it does make me want to create more somewhere down deep inside my brain but when I see most of those comments it actually pisses me off because I have stuff I'm working through the last thing I

want to do is sit in front of a camera and talk and then go through the trouble of editing it and posting it which is something I actually enjoy doing so I don't want it spoiled it's just a personal thing of mine you know what I'm saying I like to do things but when people tell me to do things that I'm already doing it kind of pisses me off especially when it has something to do with my mental health so I say all that to say I wish you the best and all your endeavors in

life please take time out of your day and out of your life to anal ize yourself and the people you surround yourself with and really see what kind of relationships you have in your life friendships bonds do you have people who genuinely care about you for you or do you have people who genuinely care about your well-being for the sake of you providing something for them and there's a difference but you have to see it you have to want to see it and if you do see it that's only half of the equation what you

do with that information is totally different because I don't mind helping people I don't mind being a Beacon of Hope for people because that's what I've built I went through things and I decided to tell my story and to tell the way I thought and share that to the world and hope in hopes of helping myself first and foremost with the ability to help other people which is a beautiful thing but I'm also still me and I look out for me first and foremost before anybody because if I don't I can't even help you so

this is me analyzing my life analyzing the energy that I'm putting out the energy that I'm receiving and just everything so like I said you take care of yourself you analyze your life you analyze your friends and your surroundings and your energy and you let me know what's going on in your life this could just be a r i could be all wrong but I would like to know what what you think in the comments so like comment subscribe I'm going to get back to work I have some fire under my feet and it feels

good it just feels good so yall take care I love y'all youran is out