thank you for joining me on a rainy day nothing new there um so I am in the conservatory and I want to share a piece with you that is written by a lady called Cassie Phillips um I came across it on Facebook somebody had shared it and it's one of those pieces that I've read reread and read again and it really strikes home for me so I will share it and then add my thoughts in at the end so it's called let them just let them if they want to choose something or someone over you
let them if they want to go weeks without talking to you let them if they're okay with never seeing you let them if they are okay with always putting themselves first let them if they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be let them if they want to follow the crowd let them if they want to judge or misunderstand you let them if they act like they can live without you let them if they want to walk out of your life and leave hold the door open and let them
let them lose you you are never there say because you were always your own so let them let them show you who they truly are not tell you let them prove how worthy they are of your time let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life let them earn your for forgiveness let them call you to talk about ordinary things let them take you out on the Thursday let them talk about anything and everything just because it's you they are talking to let them have a safe place in you let them
see the heart in you that didn't Hardon let them love you okay so as I say that has affected me on a very personal level pause for a deep intake of breath and I knew it would affect me reading it out loud so I've actually jotted down my ideas beforehand you have to accept yourself just as you are without having to make changes for others if you feel that you have to change to maintain a relationship if that change is always one-sided then the relationship might need to be G given some consideration and do not
not Auto automatically take the blame and punish yourself for any of the things that they have done um yeah some of us find that hard to do and on occasion you might be tempted to heal a riff but they have to earn a place back in your life otherwise it will be very quickly back to as was same old you need to be shown respect and that your needs your wishes you are considered they don't value you and you deserve to be valued and to be made to feel valued let's face it it's form of
control don't let them control you you are the only one who has control of you unless you give that control away never forget that you belong to nobody but yourself so establish those boundaries establishing them is one thing keeping them is another have a big conversation with yourself about where those boundaries need to be and if there would be any opportunity that you might feel you would allow those boundaries to fall but put yourself your considerations top of the a pile that's not selfish it really isn't though many people think it is it's self-caring self-
nurturing and boy if those others aren't doing it you must you really must on that note I will say thank you very much for joining me and take care take care of you no matter what the world no matter what other people be they can inverted come as friends or family work colleagues whatever think of you thank you for joining me bye for now bye