i am tired of myself when you say i'm sick and tired of being sick and tired that's the facilitator of change that's when you're ready to say these words no more excuses no more excuses i've never met a person who was not successful that didn't have a great amount of self-discipline within their life self-discipline and being able to perform and being able to keep your life on schedule and being able to keep commitments and promises and meet deadlines is essential to success none of us none of us can afford to have a life that is
controlled by someone else or a life that is basically controlled by our emotions i learned many years ago that there are two kinds of people there's the type of person who says i'm gonna wait till i feel like it before i do it and then there's a person who says i've got to do it so that i feel like it one will never get anything done because they're still waiting to feel the moment to move and the other person says no i need to move and then i will begin to feel the moment sonja sauna
self-discipline is essential in your life and in my life if we're going to get things done so i have a challenge for every one of you this weekend the challenge is simple as you go through your weekend and sometimes it's kind of a hopefully an easier time of your week ask yourself am i practicing self-discipline in my life am i doing the things that i should do because i need to do them or am i kind of waiting to feel the moment if you don't know this quote live by it one can have no smaller
or greater mastery than mastery over oneself that's da vinci da vinci did amazing things with his life i wanted to do equally amazing things with mine and if that's the game that we're playing if i can construct my belief system if i can choose at any moment to believe something that's more empowering than i was believing the moment before and that that will actually find its way into my actions allow me to do things that i couldn't do the moment before then it's like that moment in the matrix where nia realizes he knows kung fu
and that's like as funny as that is that's how i think about life to me the very fundamental purpose of life is to find out how many skills i can acquire that have utility and then put that utility to the test in service of something greater than myself stop comparing yourself to others so the first thing you do is stop focusing on other people instead focus on being the best version of you that you can then you'll recognize that you deserve to sit at the big table with everybody else after you become the best that
you can be now once you've accepted that you have as much right to success and much right to succeed as anybody else the next step is learning how to talk the talk you have to get fluent in the language of success so you speak it with ease surround yourself with people who've accomplished their dreams and immerse yourself in the culture of achievement the ideal situation for a man or woman to die is to have family members praying with them as they cross over he said but imagine if you will being on your deathbed and standing
around your bed the ghost of the dreams the ideas the abilities the talents given to you by life and that you for whatever reason you never went after that dream you never acted on those ideas you never use those talents you never use those gifts and there they are standing around your bed looking at you with large angry eyes saying we came to you and only you could have given us life and now we must die with you forever and the question is if you die today what dreams what ideas what talents what books what
music what leadership what voice will die with you miles monroe great origin speaker said the wealthiest place in the planet it's not in the four years where there's oil in the ground it's not in south africa where the diamond mines is it the wealthiest place on the planet is the cemetery but you're there you'll find greatness that we've never seen there you find talent and genius and potential never actualize perhaps that's why henry david thoreau wrote the words oh god to reach the point of death only to realize that you've never lived maybe that's why
some unknown writer wrote the words what if you live your whole life only to discover that it was wrong that it was wrong that you were chosen to do something else and you didn't do it [Music] repeat after me please live full [Music] die empty [Music] i want you to take some notes into things and i want you to think about your goals and dreams in the three categories that i mentioned personal professional and your social contribution how many of you serious about your goals and dreams raise your hands please thank you very much how
many of you don't want to take your dreams to your grave with you raise your hands please very good shake someone's hand on your right and left look them in the eyes and say get out of your head and step into your greatness do that right now please say get out of your head and step into your greatness i want you to write this down let us say together as you think about your goals and dreams let us say together it's possible together please yes write that down see ladies and gentlemen as an entrepreneur i've
been an entrepreneur for 20 years it's my 21st year i could have been speaking and training for 34 years but for 14 years i was living in my head for 14 years i stopped myself for 14 years i used to go see zig ziglar that i consider the number one motivational speaker on the planet zig ziglar and tony robbins they're the best on the planet bob proctor they are the best on the planet jack canfield mark victor hanson t have eckerd i would go and see them and then i would leave and my conversation with
myself was my heart would say i can do that and then my mind would ask how how would you do that les brown see when i was in fifth grade i was identified as emr labeled educable mentally put back from the fifth grade to the fourth grade i failed again when i was in the eighth grade i have no college training and a man changed my life and i'll never forget his name mr leroy washington he's in his 80s now and and he's blind from glaucoma but he he gave me a different vision of myself
i was in his class waiting on another student he came in and said young man got a board and worked this problem out for me i said oh sir i can't do that i said why not i said i'm i'm not one of your students said look at me yes sir go to the board and work the problem out anyhow i said sir i i can't do that he said why is it sir because i'm educable mentally sir i'm in special education and the students started laughing they said that's leslie that's not wesley he's dt
wesley is the smart twin he said what does dt stand for i said um i'm the dumb twin sir and as the students laughed at me he came from behind his desk he looked at me and he said don't you ever say that again someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality [Applause] on one hand i was humiliated but on the other hand i was liberated because he looked at me with the eyes of girder who said look at a man the way that he is he only becomes worse but look at
him as if he were what he could be then he becomes what he should be and so we developed a relationship and one of the things that i can just tell you as you think about your goals and dreams all of us can say in a spirit of integrity that it's possible that if anybody at any point in time live their dream then it's possible that i can live mine and what i did was i made a mistake i looked at my goals and dreams and my mind said how will you do that i went
from my heart to my mind and i stayed up there for 14 years 14 years i can't bring those 14 years back those years are gone and i've made a mission in my life to help people to stop putting it off and procrastinating have you ever thought about something you wanted to do and you procrastinated you talked yourself out of it raise your hand please there's a proverb that says if there's no enemy within the enemy outside can do us no harm and so as you look at your goals and dreams every day we must
convince ourselves we must sell ourselves on that it's possible every seminar every workshop every book that i've ever read every speaker that i've ever heard it interrupted what i was believing about myself everything that you do everything matters as you go through each day i know now as i look back at age 63 looking at my life everything matters t harv is right how you do anything is how you do everything and i realized the choices i was making was based upon how i saw myself let us say together it's necessary write that down it's
necessary as you look at your goals and your dreams it's necessary that you have a strategy and a game plan to change the story that you believe about yourself and that's an ongoing process i've discovered and many people have that what we do what we accomplish what we produce is a result of the story we believe about ourselves my favorite book says be not conformed to this world be transformed by the renewing of your mind and so as i began to work on myself i realized that i'm getting out of one story and stepping into
another story as i become aware of some things there's still some things i'm not aware of so i still i'm still growing i'm still developing i'm like the lady who said lord i hate what i want to be what i'm going to be but thank god i showed what i was but i realized that that you have to work on yourself on a regular basis and write this out for mental mindset for mental mindset and stamina because things are going to happen to you i don't believe i believe that the reason that most people go
to their grades with their talents and abilities and skills in them is because of the fact number one many are like me they didn't know that they didn't know and thought they knew i thought i knew myself and i really didn't know myself as well as i thought i've discovered that sometimes people can take you to a place within yourself that you can't go by yourself the other reason is i was afraid i never worked for a major corporation i wanted to speak for corporations i was afraid i would i would be exposed because i
don't have a college education i felt inferior because of the fact that i don't have a college education i allowed that level of fear of failure to stop me and because i never had an experience in it i assumed that i could not do it i was paralyzing myself by believing and assuming the limited part of myself as opposed to believing that i had something special you have something special there's something you want to do because you don't know how to do it doesn't mean that you can't learn i like something that i heard you
don't have to be great to get started but you have to get started to be great repeat after me please leave and grow your wings on the way down [Music] see the people that will live their dreams the two percent that will do that these are write this down become a risk taker they're risk takers they don't mind failing they don't mind making mistakes they're willing to take life on take life in the column this god said if you're not willing to risk you cannot grow and if you cannot grow you cannot become your best
and if you cannot become your best you can't be happy and if you can't be happy then what else is there i like what helen keller said she said life is short and unpredictable eat the dessert first