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can we just make sure this never gets recorded and uploaded online I get thousands of these questions online every single day people ask me they say Vin is it possible for me to change my voice and how I sound and I just ask him a question in return and I say Dear Dragon Slayer 94 is it possible to change your behavior and the answer is yes the way you speak is just a series of behaviors start seeing that through and through because look I'm going to change some of my behaviors right if I change some

of my behaviors lived in America favorite place in America Austin Texas so if I if I change my mouth movements and behavior I can you know I love being a cowboy I wish that I could be a cowboy because I want to ride a horse and I love Texas because the way they cook slow brisket now you see I could choose to speak like this for the remainder of this class if I wanted to but I know this is a terrible Texan accent right I'm just I want to tell you the funniest thing I heard

in in Texas when when they said Vin you know there's a difference between Cowboys and Rednecks and when the world looks at us they think we're rednecks no no we're not rednecks man you see Cowboys we ride horses rednecks they ride their [Music] cousins we didn't say this was PG did we no but here's the thing here's the thing that I'm trying to get at I just changed movements I changed airf flow I changed behaviors with my articulators completely changed how I sound you are not trapped in your voice some people just are so attached

to it they never change it and you'll notice in their lives they sound the same forever what a shame what a shame as my my vocal teacher would say you have such a beautiful instrument you have not realized its power when you work with someone like what are the things that you work on in order to help them educate Inspire and entertain at a higher level well when it comes to communication specifically I've kind of still the five core foundations of brilliant communication right and it's actually quite simple I did years of theater and years

of vocal training to learn how to be a speaker you learn theater because this is an instrument your body and your voice is an instrument and I did years of that which has helped me distill five core things right the first thing is your rate of speech a lot of people put no thought behind their rate of speech but if again for those listening to this if I get stuck in a consistent R of speech now and I stick to this R of speech and I don't vary from this R of speech what happens to

you as a listener yeah it it starts to get boring right so we have to modulate it we have to vary our rate of speech and if I sometimes go quickly and when I'm going quickly it shows passion but then when I slow down Cohen I'm saying nothing important here but it seems so profound nothing important has been said yet it seems profound right so right a speech it's its own Beast the second thing is volume volume shows confidence Authority that you believe in what you're saying so if I switch off my volume let's say

I speak like this now and I come in but I'm truly an expert in what I'm talking about doesn't seem like I believe in what I'm saying doesn't seem like I'm confident in what I'm saying it's a shame most people speak at a volume that is a bit too quiet and then when you tell them to a rating from 1 to 10 they usually speak at about a three you tell them to speak at a five they go oh I think I'm being too loud you know each year I coach three CEOs right now I'm

coaching the CEO of Orange Theory Fitness Dave long massive sh shout out to Dave awesome human being but he speaks at a level three volume I tell him to speak at a level five what we're doing now and he goes oh V I think I'm being too loud okay Dave that's crazy you're not you you're losing out on a huge amount of authority Charisma energy confidence and Authority because you don't speak at a level five volume third one is pitch pitch is fascinating because for the listeners who are listening right now think to a book

you've read maybe you can even think to a book you've read Cohen a book you've read more than 10 times right have you got one that you you've read a lot uh yes maybe not 10 times but let's say you you've got one okay if I asked you to recite for me a page in that book word for word could you do it no good otherwise you'd be a freak now let me ask you another question is there a song that you sing quite often that you enjoy o there's a song that my son loves

to play over and over again right but if I asked you to reite for me word for word that song could you recite the song Oh and there's not one song in the world that I know the lyrics to Oh no okay so you're a terrible example for this but for the listeners you totally ruined my example thank you kohen but but for the listeners for the listeners surely you can think of a song that you love right and generally most people can one song that I actually know the words of okay you never close

your eyes anymore when you're the top G Top Gun right right right yeah of course yeah now now why can okay so a song has roughly 280 words right a page in a book has roughly 280 words why can you recite a song yet not a page in the book that's so interesting music has Melody so if you speak with more Melody what you say becomes more memorable what you say becomes more memorable whereas most people use two notes when they speak you know whereas I use the philosophy and I use the mindset of each

person every one of you that's listening to this right now you've got a you've got a piano of 88 keys right and most people speak with a couple of keys and I remember my first singing teacher when I met her and I I didn't do this to become a singer I did this to become a more effective Communicator when I walked into a room I remember this she didn't even look at me and she'd play one key over and over and over again for 3 minutes it was like something out of The Exorcist and then

she' stop and she'd go how do you feel young man I I'd say I I don't know this is kind of scary awkward nothing and then she played this beautiful song called romance 3 minutes and then she turn around she goes how do you feel young man I said actually quite sad to be honest that was quite a sad song she goes then most people go through life speaking like this one key I'll teach you how to speak like this WOW Melody so Melody right so again Melody third Foundation because because here's the thing let

me let me give you this example too you could hear a piano song and feel sad you could hear a piano song and feel happy you could hear a piano song and feel inspired you could hear a piano song and feel scared there's no words how do you know how to feel so there's a backing track underneath every voice there's a backing track under every voice when people say oh when this person walks into the room lifts the energy of the room what is that that's the backing track of their voice there's people who walk

into a room and you feel incredibly heavy like I come in and I talk ah Cohen it's it's Monday can't believe it's 5 days till Friday and there's a backing track behind that so Melody that's Melody that's pitch the fourth one is tonality and tonality is the emotion that lives underneath your words without without realizing and this is where the world of theater and the world of singing come together but body language your face is is the remote control for the emotion that lives underneath your words and most people without knowing are walking around with

what is otherwise known as a resting [ __ ] face and if you've got a resting [ __ ] face you've got a [ __ ] tone so if you just slightly smile it brings more Melody into your voice because a smile controls the emotion underneath your words and again if I make a disgusted face for no reason I'm not talking about anything disgusted but I sound disgusted the six core human emotions you got happy sad dis disgust fearful angry and surprise you've got to be able to show those six tonalities at least if you

want to Be an Effective Communicator most people don't most men don't most men neutral face and as a result neutral tone most people are afraid of a monotone voice yet do not know that a monotone voice comes from a mon monotone body and your face is a part of your body so this is a huge one in my classes when I teach just to get men and women women in the corporate world who are so stoic in their facial expressions just to break out of their mold and show me some emotion damn it and when

they do they come alive and authenticity is now radiating through them so that's that's the big one and the fifth one is pausing just [Music] this and for the listeners who listen to this just as we pause it's so powerful it gives them time to comprehend what we're saying he gives us as communicators time to listen and to process and these are important foundations when you're playing your instrument and if you listen back to this podcast or any great speaker these are the five things they're modulating and any speaker who you deem to not be

a great communicator they're just not modulating one of these things it's just these five things M that you've nailed it I'm I'm quite young and generally in most of the environment I'm in are professional environments where the people are a lot more experienced however um I I do feel like I've spent a lot of my time uh growing up especially uh gaining knowledge for example and I'm confident in what I what I know and what I have to offer but when it comes to talking about it and presenting my ideas in a way where I'm

not overstepping my boundaries I feel like sometimes I I ramble on to the point where it feels like because I don't know how to structure what I'm properly it feels like I don't know what I'm what I what I'm talking about those conversational models I shared with you at the beginning the Frameworks very vital EXT very vital extremely vital for you so when someone asks you something what's your area of expertise I'm a 3D environment artists I want you to use the 321 approach tell me three things about it concise go so the three most

sorry the three fundamental things about fre environment artist is when you're starting a project you want to make sure you have your project mapped out which includes references the references is probably one of the biggest most important things when it comes to creating a big project uh the second thing is also feedback from others don't have tunnel vision when you're creating your projects otherwise you're just going to think like Vince said that your work is the [ __ ] but it really it isn't it it's not you have to get that outside perspective in on

your work and the last step is definitely refin always go back and refine whatever you can because the first iteration or the second iteration will never be as good as the third iteration Perfect all right now before we move over to the next one which is the two types of remember so or the two things I want hand gestures I want more volume and I also want you to end your sentences on a lower pitch okay so you don't end on a high pitch you end on a low pitch okay yeah keep that FR of

mind I know I'm throwing a lot at you in three you say is not that important I'm focusing on delivery in three two one go for it so the two types of f environment art are 2D environment art and 3D environment art you can have you can have a 3D environment art which is what you'd see in movies TV shows games where you create the assets and the background and the CGI for for it or you have the 2D environment art which is more uh more for portfolio work and less um bigger projects that You'

experience with 3D environment first example the second example there's way more Authority in already now what I am going to get you to do is I want you to pause more for this next one pause more and hold eye contact with the camera okay and the camera symbolizing another person so now you're up to the one thing this is just the one thing talk about the one thing and pause more and use hand gestures stronger hand gestures give me give me a little blamer remember blamer is when you're using the full finger point for some

parts and pause and I don't mean like a pause like that I want you to pause like along PA like that all right so here we go try again in three lower end your sentences on a lower pitch in three two the one thing so the one thing I'd say is the most important thing about 3D environment art is expressing yourself when you create your projects think about how many people are in this field and in this IND creating thousands of pieces of of Art and here's your opportunity to create art which is inspired by

your journey and what you've been through so you did great you did great however the pauses we're going to get you to do it one more time my friend you're going to do it one more time except I want some powerful pauses after the powerful statements you just made it's about you expressing you and just pause all right in three two go for it sorry so to to hold on don't start with so because so is a filler word just begin in three okay two the one most important thing about 3D environment art is creating

something that you have been inspired by think about how many people are out there creating thousands of pieces of art but this is your opportunity to create a piece of work that has been inspired by your journey that's amazing I don't really have much else to give a big round of applause that was that was Bloody brilliant that was so good I'm just going to walk away from the conversation that was amazing that was so good that was so amazing but can you see how we sound plays a critical component to how others perceive what

we say watch the review and and you will see how much getting rid of the filler words the pauses the hand gestures the ending on a lower pitch those all create a different version of you hey everyone my name is Daniel um well my question will be more of an advice what would be your best advice when it comes to accent so obviously I'm originally from South America and even though know that my accent is not super strong sometimes that does take value from your speech whenever you encounter different demographics right so what was it

that you did different that it helped you to develop your skills communicating with people especially when you have a background what what would be your advice thank you for the question there was uh my Lin was up here talking to me as well where are you Mil Lin you're there as well note this down as well this is relevant to you too what I would say Daniel is it seems like a lot but do this if you record a 20-minute video of you speaking to camera 20 minutes and the video has to be improvised okay

so you talk about whatever you like to camera then you take that video and you send it to a speech pathologist okay local speech pathologist and say hey what would it cost me for you to be able to review this video and these are the most common words I would normally use in everyday speech could you help me identify the words I'm pronouncing incorrectly in the English language and then could you help me learn the mouth movements to make to be able to correct the sounds and the pronunciation and the articulation so then from that

single exercise alone they will come back to you with maybe two to three pages of hey a big one for me was growing up in the Vietnamese culture when I said the word when I said the number three I would say it as free can I have three of those please like sorry four three of those please right so that's what I'd say where she goes no no honey it's tongue out in three so that single exercise allowed me to enhance my articulation and then what that does when you improve articulation and pronunciation of your

words people perceive you to be more intelligent they just do because when you pronounce your words with Clarity you come across as being more intelligent so this is not just for those with English as a second language in Australia too you know I've met you know and I love I love my country I love Australians every now and then you meet someone they're like what you talking about man I don't know what you're doing I was like my garden is like that I love Jeff to death but sometimes they like Wednesday is a good day

Jeff because I can't understand what he say sometimes right I love him to death but again so I'd do that number one two birds one stone so you send that to a speech of pathologist second thing you do Daniel is you send the same video to an English as a second language teacher ESL teacher okay probably cost you 150 bucks with the speech pathologist maybe 150 bucks with the ESL teacher for $300 the $150 the ESL teacher is going to go through uh your speech get it transcribed for her so she doesn't have to transcribe

it when she looks at it she'll look for the grammatical errors my big thing that I used to do is I would use past tense as future tense future tense as past tense and if you'll give me two three pages of things I need to work on two birds one stone you'll knock it out just with a 20-minute video yeah and then when you're practicing just one thing at a time don't get analysis paralysis and you get all this information back and you freak out one thing at a time thank you my pleasure my pleasure

hello sorry to disrupt you just for a moment but if you're interested in improving your communication skills and you're new to my content and you find these types of videos really useful I've actually got a three-part video series that helps you Kickstart your community communication skills Journey so if you want to check that out that is just in the link in the description go check it out when it when it comes to high stake interviews you know job interviews let's just go with job interviews we're all going to experience them let's talk about it right

because when it comes to a job interview what's the most important thing you can do in those I believe it's forming a connection we all know this point of wisdom in the world that people do business with people they like once you like me it's infinitely harder for you to pick somebody else like I'll give you an example old mate Dan back there give him a wave letting you know you're not cuff to the table both hands notice both hands were up he's not cuff to the table that's only after hours after you all leave

we only do that after Hours come on I don't want to get canceled now when it comes to job interviews with Dan he he kind of put his hand up to do head of Ops for me right so head of operations at all things Vin Jang now when I looked at Dan's credentials I kind of went I no you've been a psychologist all your life have you ever have ever managed anything you know and I interviewed a whole bunch of other people that were just way better than Dan so much better than Dan not funny

super qualified 10 years of managing Ops for influencers for athletes and all these things but why did I pick Dan in the end why because I liked him the most because I like the guy the most and to me I would rather bet on the person that I like the most that has the most chemistry trust Rapport connection that I also know he loves and cares about me I'll rather pick that person or the skills he can learn more and more and more you'll find that more and more employers are starting to adopt the same

mindset and what that means is again I believe the weight in an interview people miss out on opportunity it's connection connection is most one of the most powerful things you can form at the beginning of an interview why because if you just surveyed a thousand people who did interviews and you ask them what is the most common first question that people ask at an interview what is it can you all tell me the chat tell me in the chat what's the first question people tend to ask you in a an interview type it yes tell

me about yourself so what can you do you can prepare for this you can absolutely prepare for this whereas most people what they do is they just like let's say I don't know let's um improv let's say I'm applying for a sales role okay I'm applying for a sales role I'm sitting in the interview I'm nervous cuz I didn't do the breathing before I'm freaking out and I didn't learn about par or anything I didn't learn about storytelling I don't know what's going on freaking out really hope to get this job uh they can see

I'm nervous because I'm rubbing my knees and I'm speaking really fast and then they ask you tell me about yourself you go okay uh well you know um I've uh um I I I love selling i' all I do is sell I sell sell sell I'm I'm I'm persistent I'm also I get really high conversion rates I it's not good what you can do here is you can share a story you can prepare you know you're going in for a sales role and now because for those of you who've been through the courses online or

virtual you know the storytelling formula and because you know the story toiling formula you can link that story to sales for example if I was going into a job in for sales I can sit down I'm relaxed body language because it communicates and it introduces you before you do so calm body language relaxed good posture you're sitting down smile on your face and Susie asks you hey Vin before we start uh why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself you can respond by going oh thanks Susie thank you for wanting to get to

know me a little Susie I have to tell you I'm part entrepreneur when I was young when I was 13 I borrowed my Mom and Dad's credit card yeah I borrowed it and I borrowed her their credit card to buy MP3 players online so I spent over $1,500 and and Susie I can see from your face you're like oh but how did you get and spend money on the card when you're not authorized well Susie when the bank calls to check if the transactions legitimate guess who's the only english- speaking person in the house yes

it is I it was one it was a perfect storm Susie I had to do it so so I bought $1,500 worth MP3 plays and Susie the crazy thing is within 7 days I sold every single MP3 player and doubled my money when I was 13 yeah I made 3,000 bucks as a 13y old and I wasn't doing drugs and Susie the craziest thing is that I've learned how to sell since I was young I learned how to sell the wrong way and also learned how to sell the right way one of the reasons why

I got stopped from selling MP3 players at school is because I hope you don't mind me sharing this being a little vulnerable here the principal shut down my business because he realized that when people when people didn't pay me I started giving bullies money and said do you mind getting my money back from that kid he hasn't paid me Susie I didn't know how to deal with accounts receivable but Susie I've learned again how to sell and how not to sell and you know what one of the fundamental things I've learned Susie is I've learned

that a lot of people feel a little gross about selling and I I found that the reason they feel that is because they're selling something they don't believe in where suie that's why I'm sitting in this chair right now applying for this role I fundamentally believe in what you do here at XYZ company it's why I'm here I'm not here just to sell I'm here to create impact because I fundamentally believe in what we do here linked okay so now that took about two and a half 3 minutes if I've got a 30-minute interview I

would invest that time into building connection and Rapport and that to me now allows you to be in a situation where sure whether you're qualified or not they kind of done that before by looking at your CV here they're trying to get to know you as a person yet if you jumped into that interview and you just started saying yes meal it's a true story it's a true story I did s MP3 players I was when I was young I used to download music illegally from Napster can we just make sure this never gets recorded

and uploaded online I used to download music illegally on Napster I didn't know it was illegal so I didn't know it was so it wasn't cuz I was 13 right and then I just downloaded the music put on MP3 plays sold them the MP3 plays every time they wanted to change music five bucks it's fantastic I was the only kid 13-year-old that had multiple types of cologne and still the lady ladies didn't like me no matter what I did for some reason they didn't find me attractive it's fine it's fine I Found Love anyway in

your face Stacy from when I was 12 Look at me now Stacy I'm kidding I'm kidding but I still have some resentment inside for sure all right so I think I've proved the point there as well that in these moments when you're in high stake situations when you have the 30 minutes it's absolutely critical to invest 5 to 10% of that time building connection 100% they're going to favor you more now it's inevitable versus if everybody else just came in and said I'm reliable I'm punctual I've got high conversion rates trust me I'm not saying

this works 100% of the time but it works 95% of the time I mean that guy right there is evidence totally not qualified totally HED cuz he's likable as hell love that guy she doesn't fight back it's fantastic I got to stop doing this I'm going to go to jail I'm going to go a jail down far too often in the corporate space in the professional space we focus on our visual image we go into a home make sure we're in a suit or beautiful dress or we what we going to meet our clients with

we focus on our visual IM image but we do not focus on our vocal image people don't realize but you have an image that you create vocally when you use your voice let me ask you this question how many of you in this room think I'm a think I'm a friendly person raise your hands oh thank you thank you very much and I will take note of those of you who didn't raise your hands thank you make you disappear later good how many of you think I'm a trustworthy person a magician asking the question thank

you lovely and how many of you think I'm an intelligent person and one last one how many do you think I'm a good leader to my team lovely so what I'll tell you is none of you know me well enough to know if any of those things are true you don't but you've made those assumptions based on my vocal image and my visual image but most people only focus on their visual image and forget about their vocal image don't leave this to chance if you want to build rapport with people if you want to learn

how to build trust you need to learn how to master the advisor's instrument this is very powerful so I ask you as you move forward to train your instrument I ask you to be courageous I ask you to train the advisor's instrument so you connect more with the people you serve because only when we connect with people do we deserve to influence their decision it only takes one voice at the right pitch to start an avalanche because let me tell you this how does a chef become a great chef this is the interactive part yes

cooking yes cooking but what do they have to do practice but with whose recipes other people's recipes right other recipes they they you know if you're just starting as a chef you don't go I'm going to cook this thing this new thing no one's ever no you follow the recipes from great chefs so what they do is they imitate they copy and in the world of cooking when you copy a great Chef's kind of dish no one's like you shouldn't copy it's bad no you you should do this is how you learn so then the

chef copies it and what happens the first time he copies it gets it slightly wrong doesn't taste quite right he goes oh but I'm getting close builds confidence cuz you're following a proven method and then he copies it again the second time tastes a little bit better third time tastes great fourth time he's confident fifth time he's like I'm adding a bit of lemon and then he adds a bit of lemon makes it his own this is the same process we all must follow if we want to become great communicators is we must find someone

now like Manuel looking for great communicators that we like allowing them to influence us and allowing ourselves to imitate it's okay to imitate but it's not okay to imitate forever and never add lemon or chives or onion or garlic right you have to start making things your own but the fastest way to improve is to look for people you like so you've got a proven recipe that works and and please don't make sure the speaker is a speaker that is good don't like bad speakers so again look for that and it helps you develop your

own flavor even if you found two Inspirations you're already something unique by copying those two people it's fascinating so imitation is not a bad thing it's a great it's the most important thing when it comes to learning Haven how do you deal with nerves before you present and this is a wonderful question that I do feel extremely qualified to answer because because I've done over a thousand presentations in my career I've spoken to groups small as 10 to 20 to groups as large as over 35,000 people and talk about nerves I still remember the day

where I presented to it was in Thailand in Bangkok Thailand where I spoke to an audience of over 35,000 people I was backstage so nervous and if I didn't have a method and methods on how to manage nerves I would have done a terrible presentation and and here's something that most people don't get what they don't get is generally most of us are great communicators and and when I meet people oneone and I talk to them they're great communicators they they communicate exceptionally well right and then when they get on stage all of those great

communication skills just disappear and then they this Bland stiff Aid presenter and I'm thinking wait what the hell I just met someone who was really engaging what happened to that person and it was because they didn't know how to manage the nerves and the nerves robbed them of a great presentation so this is a very important topic now I think of managing nerves in two core different ways I first think about it from a body point of view how do I manage the nerves from a body standpoint so the way that I manage my nerves

from that standpoint is I think about breathing a lot and breathing is something that we all do every single day and we all think oh it's breathing it's easy we all know how to breathe I know how to breathe I don't need to learn how to breathe no no no no you're wrong there are workshops that go for a whole week just on learning how to master the breath and unless you want to actually go along and do one of those workshops one of the greatest hacks when it comes to breathing is Wim Hof when

it comes to Wim Hof breathing the link will be down below as you learn how to do this what it's going to do is it's going to help you relax your body and it also helps relax your mind which is the second component of how to deal with nerves so it's a it's a it's a one stone two birds Type move so again I would I don't know why there are balloons all of a sudden but I would ensure that you learn how to do a couple of cycles of wiim Hof breathing because that helps

you manage the nerves in your body and it also helps you manage your psychology now that's the first thing I would do the second thing I would do is another kind of body standpoint one of the key reasons why our voice shakes when we are presenting and one of the key reasons why our hands shake and sometimes we get all different symptoms everyone get different types of symptoms sometimes people their their whole body shakes and their feet Shake everything one of the key reasons that happens is because of excess adrenaline and you need to learn

how to manage the adrenaline that's in your body the excess levels of adrenaline so what you can do is before you go on stage while you're backstage go for a quick walk and W walk at a quicker Pace maybe do some star jumps drop down give me 10 push-ups right because by doing this activity or or by exerting more energy you're getting rid of the excess adrenaline which stops your body from shaking which stopped your hands from shaking which then helps you not have a shaky voice when you speak and one of the worst things

that happen to Great communicators and and great public speakers when they don't manage the excess adrenaline when they go on stage then they start just moving all over the stage they start prowling all over the stage and that's a non-functional behavior especially if there's no reason for you to move like that so keep in mind getting rid of that excess adrenaline is a very important part of the process when you're trying to deal with nerves now we talked about a body a lot right so the body is exercise little bit of exercise and then also

a little bit of Wim Hoff breathing two to three cycles of that amazing now then you also have to think about nerves when it comes to mindset I think one of the main reasons we get nervous when it comes to psychology and the way we think is because we think everybody is thinking about us we fear judgment right so again a lot of the times when we go on stage we get nervous because we become extremely self-conscious so then if you don't want to get extremely nervous and don't want to be extremely self-conscious what do

you do you take that Consciousness in your head and you place it outward focus on the audience it's not about you it's not about you as much as you think it's about you it's not about you when you're on stage it's all about the audience you're there to give value to the people that are in the audience it's not about you and the more you get out of your own head and into the audience the more you can be less self-conscious the more you can be more audience conscious the better you're going to feel and

that's what I always do when I'm I'm about to get on stage and I'm starting to feel a bit nervous I just think to myself you know what Vin stop it it's it's it's not about you today it's about the 500 people that you're about to be able to help these are the things that really help me it's known as 88 keys 8 Keys refers to the keys on a piano and I remember being taught this philosophy and way of life with communication with one of my music teachers and I went to a vocal teacher

not to learn singing but rather to learn how to speak more effectively and she said Vin a piano has 88 keys and your voice is even more beautiful than this instrument right in front of me me and here's what I want to share with you right now you're very comfortable playing the keys you currently play with during this Workshop I'm going to push you I'm going to get you to do things with your voice that you've never done before and I'm going to even push you in further than you know maybe play in the faletto

range and have a bit of fun and I know I sound like Mickey Mouse when I do this my son loves it and I might even get you to try really deep and dark voice and play and when I ask you to do this something happens in your brain straight away where the moment push you out of the keys that feel comfortable you'll go been thank you but that makes me feel a bit little bit fake and phony I mean how is it fake and phony you are able to make the sound it's not fake

or phony it's your instrument it's your keys it's not fake and phony so the moment your brain goes to fake and phony and inauthentic stop that straight away reframe it immediately it's not fake and phony you're just familiar with these Keys you're just unfamiliar with these keys that's all so please note that it's just familiar unfamiliar so the moment your brain anytime it wants to go to inauthentic I don't want to try that that doesn't feel right for me stop it reframe it's just unfamiliar to me that's all that allows the learning process to continue

otherwise your brain will stop you from even exploring your instrument we're here to learn how to play the entire instrument so please you're just unfamiliar with it what helped me build all of my confidence was improv uh improv classes this is the very theater I first learned improv in it's why I do all of my events here it's a very special place in my heart so if you want to get more confident improv and I'll tell you why let's try something so stand up we're going to play a game and the game is called uh

it's a presence game okay so this is how the presidency Game Works uh I'm going to be person a and I'm just going to say oh hey it's your birthday and I've got something for you Tanya and then you take it and then you got to look at it and you go you open the box and you go you got me a blank how did you know I wanted a blank and then I'm going to say I knew you wanted a blank because of blank so you're saying you got me a blank how did you

know I wanted a blank does that make sense y Tanya it's your it's your birthday I got you lose something oh thank you no my pleasure into the Maric please y oh a rabbit how do you know I wanted a rabbit be I knew you wanted a rabbit because I was going to get you on stage and do a trick tonight oh excellent lovely reverse the roles immediately okay so it's my birthday give me a present here's a present for your Daniel you shouldn't have let me have a quick look at what you got me

you got me a packet of 50 Cent migor rang noodles how did you know I wanted migor rang noodles you were talking about it the other day and I thought oh okay I know where to get some very good okay fantastic thank you cheap present but that's fine so have a seat Tanya but the thing is right that right there is the skill of improvisation which show show me you're very good at improvisation right but the better you get at what we just did what is that that is just conversation a question is just that

so as we get better with navigating the skill of improvisation we get better with the art of conversation and if we get better at the art of conversation we become more confident because think about what any conversation is what am I doing with all of you right now this is a game of improv I don't know what you're going to ask me I have no idea what you're going to ask me but because I have the skill of improvisation I can take it anywhere I want to go and that when you truly know you're good

at that the art of conversation it gives you confidence right even if I don't know the answer it's okay I've got that skill of improv I can duck and weave and move around so improv classes I promise you will yeah Vin before improv and Vin after improv is is is pretty crazy thank you for the question my voice is quite low volume volume volume yes so you feel you're quite quiet yeah okay I am when you're too loud people will let you know they will but but I would say the majority of people need more

volume they need more volume because again imagine you had an idea that you're trying to share and like I'll switch I'll switch all my foundations off I'm switch them all off right now okay no nobody nothing so imagine I just did the rest of the talk like this this is me playing the smaller version of myself this is me being Quang to me this is high highly irritating and I'm slightly losing my mind right now but I want to give you the contrast because here's the thing if you keep playing the smaller version of yourself

what kind of opportunities would you attract being this person and it's not your fault it's not your fault if that's how you are now it's because we've never been taught how to use this instrument you were born and you were given one of the most complex instruments in the world no manual no teacher no coach just get good it's ridiculous but to me when you learn how to you learn how to use this remember this thing we talked about you may be this good but if you're only this good at communicating people perceive you to

be this good not this good so as you improve your communication skills you're then able to amplify to the rest of the world the best parts of who you are you're then able to show the rest of the world what you've truly got inside but only if you learn how to use this I've showed you the the foundations for voice I've showed you the foundations for for hand gestures we don't have time to go through everything but I know there's one thing that will stop you from practicing it's that when you walk into an environment

where people know who you are and they know you're naturally quiet for example and you come into that environment you're like hey guys trying something new they're going to be like they'll be like what why is she squatting what is happening and and here's the thing so I need to teach you something very important there's a concept I teach in my workshops and what it's called is it's called neutral ears a neutral ear is someone who has no preconceived idea of who you are and what you're like so for example you're in Toronto you may

go to the local Deli here you're like that person doesn't know who I am I'm normally quiet buger it you go in and you go good after afternoon do you have any Bagels here and they will just accept you for who you are and they'll be like gosh that's a loud person but anyway but what that does is you don't get the the Flinch because from your friends they'll going to be like what are you doing just that slight Flinch will make you go back into your mold but when you find a neutral ear and

you try something different with your voice they don't Flinch they just accept you for who you are CU they don't know any better that helps your new behavior stick that little bit more and a place where you could you hopefully you're all not in your home City there's plenty of neutral ears here try something different with your voice play with your tonality walk in with an very excited face and all of a sudden you sound more excited over a chocolate bar like you've never sounded before but play with this instrument that's the only way you

explore but there's always going to be one thing that stops you from doing this that do you know what it is fear did someone say fear but you see look look let's be real for a second look danger or danger is very real but fear fear is not a useful feeling fear is Just an Illusion but why is this important again in the context of communication so many people when they leave this little workshop of ours you will F fear when it comes to trying something different with your voice you're going to feel scared and

what I'm telling you is when you try use your voice differently there are no Nails it's not real the illusions that you have in your mind molds that other people create for you that are not real my friends you have one of the most beautiful instruments in the world learn how to master this and it will change the way you're able to connect with those you lead and more importantly it will help you connect with those you love at such a deeper level [Music]