You Didn't become Selfish You Became Harder to Manipulate

you didn't become selfish you became harder to manipulate an article by me Sarah Jane we all have a story to tell the story of our life the experiences we have gone through how they made us feel the effect those feelings had on our belief in our self our wakeup call finding ourself our growth into who we should be many people who have had a traumatic experience especially in their early years become people Pleasers which is a classic trauma response if that trauma left you feeling left you with feelings of being unloved unwanted not good enough

Etc you take on board as fact the truth anything negative others say about you struggling with anything positive loving and caring you can be so desperate to be accepted and not upset others that you always say yes to them follow their rules their wants and ignore your own you become lost in what other people say about you and what you think they are thinking about you then one day something happens that whether quickly or over a period of time opens your eyes and your heart to yourself a light bulb moment of why am I worrying

about what others think about me when they aren't they have too much going on in their own life quote what other people think of me is none of my business Dr Wayne Dyer for me this was really freeing somehow it gave me permission to live my life as I chose to to do the things I chose to do and to have the courage to say no when I didn't wish to do something for whatever reason I was learning to love myself to have thought care and consideration for me when we start to find ourselves unlearning

everything we thought we knew about ourself from what others said and how they behaved we become less easy to manipulate those that always got us to do what they wanted start hearing no from us from us and start calling us selfish with the hope of regaining control remember remember they are the ones who are being selfish they are just projecting onto you how they feel your story is a powerful tool to support others to wake up to their own lives the courage to Take Back Control and say yes to themselves note the title was part

of a quote I saw on Facebook and although I have tried to find out who said it I couldn't find a definitive answer namaste