How to detach and not care

hello guys in today's video we will talk about how to not care or how to detach now obviously in life we are going to Care this is a very normal human need we care for our loved ones we care for others but there is a very fine line where it is just too much and it will start draining you and you kind of Lose Yourself if you lose your mind over someone or over something that someone has said about you or you're trying to defend your reputation you will lose lose everything you will give all

your power and all your energy that you have to that one person they will feed off of you in this life you cannot afford to lose yourself do you find it difficult to write good and improve your writing you want to sound better whether it's on posts projects or emails but you don't know how to start well it's very easy because this video is sponsored by grammarly grammarly is an AI writing partner that works easily with your everyday apps and it helps professionals to write better and faster so they can get their work done this

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out if you think that you might benefit from improving your writing skills then please click the link in the description down below or visit grammarly.com thee wizard Liz guys my name is Liz and welcome back to my channel let's get right into it first things first understand the higher purpose of what is happening to you for example I have a platform right and with a platform comes a lot of hate and comes a lot of people making stuff up about you I have to deal with that in a way where I never react until it's

super bad and I'm going to sue the person I cannot react to these rumors why because the minute I react and I try to explain myself these people win so I cannot allow that to happen I can only allow to sit back and ignore it and never engage in it now why is this a lesson for me because when I was younger I always had to overe explain myself to my parents I always had this need of to prove myself and to prove that I was a good kid because I was never getting that validation

now when I'm in this position and people are lying on my name I am not allowed to prove myself and I should now be okay with the fact that people will not see or will not understand you the way that you want people to understand you you can bend over backwards and people that are not willing to see you will not see you and you have to learn to be okay with that you have to learn that you know this person might not see the magic in me but that doesn't mean that I cannot look

in the mirror and see the Magic in myself this person might twist my words take it out of context and say that oh this is what she said when that's never what I said but you have to be okay with that was their version though they're speaking from their world if someone imagine with me if someone is really negative from the inside they're not a bad person but they're just negative okay whatever you say if you say life is beautiful they will say life is miserable and who do you think you are you have to

come to a point in life where you become okay with people misunderstanding you because you understand that everyone is free to look at life in their own way you trying to make people understand you or make everyone trying to like you is you being controlling but they all have their free will people can love who they want to love and people canot love who they don't want to love and that is okay once you understand that you know what they're free to do whatever they want become free from this illusion of control so just let

it go he couldn't love you at this time or she couldn't love you fine someone tells you that they don't love you it shouldn't make you question your own wor it should make you understand that they have a lack of capability of loving you at this time and that is fine that is okay you cannot force people into a box to give them the kind of love that you want true love is however it shows up and letting go of someone you loved and not caring isn't you acting like you never loved them or or

you know I was better than this no you love that person and that is okay but you don't have to keep carrying that hurt with you or feel like oh my God I need to validate myself I need to get be more beautiful because then they will see what they lost no one lost in this situ ation if you were able to get free from a person that wasn't able to show you true love you won already you don't need to look better do better get revenge on people that couldn't see you other thing is

do not try to appear too perfect in 48 Laws of Power uh Robert Green actually talks about this that when you appear too perfect you attract too many enemies and competitors because they think that you are better than them the people that just show up authentically who who they are they are not held to a standard or a box that they need to fit into because they create their own box if you're a person where you are defined by your beauty and people just see you as a beautiful girl now if you make that your

whole image and you try to appear almost perfect you can never be caught looking not good you always have to live up to that image because if someone has ugly picture of you out there that is it your world is crushed so once you come out of that box and and you think you know what I'm okay with people not finding me attractive I'm okay with people thinking I'm a a mean person or I'm whatever your soul is so free to create on its own as long as you know from yourself I'm a good person

to myself and the people that I love and and just people around me anyways who do you have to prove anything to who are these people that you are trying to prove something to like it's really funny to me like people will crumble at words from strangers that they have never even met these people have never even seen you in real life they have not even breathed the same air as you and you will feel bad because of something that they said stop overthinking like a lot of people they will care too much because they

overthink about situations they think like oh my God I lost this friendship and now this friend's probably everywhere saying this this this and blah blah and they will do this and expose this or like oh my God I I lost this boyfriend because probably I was not great enough and probably I didn't have shut up quiet your mind literally what are you doing to yourself take the situation for what it is if someone left your life just think like okay great like he wasn't the one for me I wasn't the one for him and I

will find someone that is the one for me okay if your friends left your life I always say thank God like thank God I saw who that person was and they're gone now because God has a great plan for me start thinking like that and stop overthinking situations because the only person you're torturing is you honey if you lose yourself you lose everything if you lose your mind you lose everything look at people that lost their mind other thing is do not allow your emotions to get the best of you often times when we are

in an emotional state we think very irrational that's why a lot of people sometimes when they go to the extreme they even un alive people when they're so emotional but when they're out of the emotions they're like oh my God I would I would literally never do that that is really sad you cannot allow all these emotions take you over and completely take you out of your rationale in this moment you should think okay am I thinking emotionally or is this what really happened is this what is really happening oh my God my life is

going to end I'm never going to is that is really happening or is that you thinking emotionally really ask yourself you have to be able to calm yourself down because once people see that you are so emotional and you react so emotional to things you're very easy to manipulate you're very easy to control when even if you are this emotional of a person that's very beautiful because I'm very emotional do not publicly go and cry about haters or whatever cuz now you gave them what they wanted uh-uh honey do not show those emotions G grieve

in private grieve in silence and in public make sure you are composed because all these toxic people are just waiting for someone to be as emotional as you and to get what they want from you understand energy exchange look people that uh are celebrities they love to be talked about whether it's negative or whether it's positive because people are giving them energy they will even pay publicists to plant fake stories that are not true and that are even negative so that people talk about them create more drama around them whatever you engage in is an

energy exchange when you look at these rumors when you look at this hate you're exchanging energy with that person you are giving that power as long as you don't not [ __ ] care because at the end of the day these people would literally un alive someone to be in your position and that is just the truth okay no one is so invested in you for no reason who do you think God sides with at the end of the day you think that God sides with people that are inciting pain and hate on someone and

gossiping about them trying to tear them down of course not God sides always with the person that is on the receiving end of that so you are only getting more blessings you are getting all of their energy honey you are winning what you do now is you transmute the energy my sister actually told me this she's like Liz you are actually like an alchemist anytime you get angry anytime you feel happy whatever you feel you transmute that into a creation so I will start making a video I will start making art I will do all

of these things but I always transmute my emotions into something that is how you should work anytime someone says something to put you down it should give you motivation to transmute M that energy all the energy that you get from drama negative energy it's a lot of Penta frustration right put it into something that you can create with it like study harder work on your business do anything that literally is going to benefit you more and more whenever I see a comment that says like oh she's not going to achieve this blah blah that's it

more motivation I'm like thank you thank you God for sending me haters because now I want to do it even more the way you detach is by understanding that whatever is meant for you will enter your life no matter what you do this with my life like so many times I try to do things on my own where I like I look for a 9o5 job when I was younger and all these things and always I would get pulled out of it no matter what I do it wouldn't work out or in my previous relationship

it just wouldn't work out no matter how much I try to work make it work or whatever it's because when something else is meant for you you have to arrive there so when you have that faith in God and you say you know what if this friendship left my life it wasn't meant for me or it's time to end for this friendship now you know we both did our part in each other's life now you're meant to go if this relationship is ending okay great we both did our part in each other's life now you're

meant to go but whatever is meant for you no one will ever be able to take your blessings God played very fair in that God is very fair whatever is meant for you will always come your way in the most miraculous ways in the most unexpected ways you just have to be willing to receive that because when you are just literally thinking about oh no but I wanted this ex even though he was abusive it's like yeah but what was meant for you is trying to come in but you're not letting go and you're just

attaching yourself constantly to something that you're already meant to let go of so when you do that then what is meant for you can come in you know how many times I've told this to friends like just let it go and watch and they wouldn't do it wouldn't do it the minute they let go like this something new comes in a whole new reality have faith guys have faith also think often times in life when you attach too much to something God tests you in a way where they will take that thing from you because

we will leave this earth by ourselves and I honestly think death is a beautiful thing and I think when I die I want it to be celebrated I don't really want it to be like a funeral and Everyone crying but I think we should celebrate people's life that the souls had a chance to come to Earth and experience this it's beautiful you know um but that is the case though you are meant to leave this earth alone so when you attach to something you are not ready to experience the the life that God gave you

which he said this is all temporary you came here to learn your lessons but see you cannot attach to something so hard that when you lose that thing you're going to lose yourself because if you allow that to happen that person that friend those people that are hating on you whatever they're going to continue with their lives and now your life is destroyed why give them that power you are such a powerful human being when you just understand that whatever comes into this life is beautiful I'm meant to experience it but when it leaves it's

still as beautiful because I learned from it take your lessons and move on like it's a beautiful new beginning it's like being born again you know we constantly in our life let go of things we let go of our childhood version of ourself of our teenage version of ourself one day we will be old and we let go of our adult version of ourselves you know but isn't that a beautiful process isn't it beautiful to to be able to experience these things don't give people power to take all your energy to take your your mind

and take your honey you are glowing honey you are powerful you are so spectacular and I know you cannot see it right now and it's okay to grieve things it's okay to feel really bad right now and it I know it sucks but this cannot take you over you can grieve you can cry you can do all of that but it shouldn't completely take over your whole life know that you cannot see it for yourself right now but life changes so fast in one week week you can have a new life even in one second

you can have a new life just by the decisions that you make you can decide for yourself will I continue to just put myself down feel bad about myself or do I today decide that oh my God this is the last time that I'm going to constantly cling on to this I let this go and you will you'll feel like once I let this go oh my God such a relief I'm free now I can go on and I can do something that fulfills me that pours into me as much I pour into to that

and not just you pouring into that thing and not receiving anything back and I promise you when you have something in your life where you're giving more than you're receiving it will be taken from you because that is not fair that is not fair there's always an energy exchange happening where you should receive something back anyways guys I hope this video helped you guys and yeah I see you in the next video I love you guys so much bye-bye