If She Friendzones You… Do This (She’ll Be All Over You) | Stoicism

the friend zone two words that make most men cringe you like her you want her but she just sees you as a friend the worst part she knows you want more and yet she keeps you around soaking up your attention while chasing after guys who don't treat her half as well as you do most men when they get friend zoned do one of two things either they stick around hoping she'll eventually see them differently or they walk away bitter and rejected both are mistakes because the truth is the friend zone isn't a life sentence it's

a test and if you know how to play it right you can flip the entire Dynamic making her see you in a way she never has before so if you've been friendzoned don't beg don't chase and definitely don't sit around waiting for her to wake up and choose you instead do this because once you do she won't just see you as a friend she'll crave you let's get into it one stop being her emotional support system 1,000 words the friend zone is built on one simple truth she doesn't feel the right kind of Attraction toward

you not because you're not good enough not because you're lacking something fundamental but because you've positioned yourself as something safe predictable and easy and one of the biggest reasons for for this you've become her emotional support system think about it when she's upset when she's stressed when she just needs someone to vent to who does she turn to you and the moment you pick up that phone the moment you sit there listening to her complain about another guy giving her endless reassurance you reinforce one dangerous idea in her mind he's always here for me no

matter what now on the surface that might seem like a good thing isn't that what a woman wants a man who listens who cares who is there for her yes but not like this because the truth is attraction isn't built on Comfort alone attraction is built on excitement uncertainty desire and right now there's no uncertainty with you she knows you'll be there whether she gives you what you want or not that's not attraction that's dependency and dependency that's what makes her turn to you when she's sad but chase the guy who excites her when she's

happy so what's the fix step back stop picking up her emotional baggage stop being the guy she calls to cry about another man stop letting her drain you emotionally while giving nothing back the next time she comes to you looking for support keep the conversation short shift the focus say something like man you've really got to stop letting guys treat you like this anyway I can't talk long I'm heading out no more therapy sessions no more deep hourlong talks where she feels understood but not attracted At first she might not even notice but over time

she will because suddenly you're no longer that safe predictable guy you're no longer the shoulder to cry on you're something else something she now has to work for and when a woman feels like she has to work for your attention that's when she starts wanting it more than ever two create emotional distance and Trigger jealousy if there's one thing that will make a woman reconsider everything she thought about you it's jealousy not in a manipulative toxic way but in a way that makes her realize wait why am I not the center of his attention anymore

most guys in the friend zone give all their emotional energy to one woman they're too available too eager too invested and because of that she never has to wonder never has to question never has to feel any sense of loss and without that there's no urgency no desire but the moment she starts feeling your absence the moment she sees you shifting your energy elsewhere that's when things change so how do you do it first stop being so accessible if she texts you don't respond immediately if she asks to hang out don't always be available if

she's used to you always saying yes start saying no you're showing her without words that you have a life outside of her but here's the real game Cher let her see you giving your attention to other women nothing makes a woman reassess her feelings faster than seeing another woman enjoying your company this doesn't mean you have to fake it you don't have to make her jealous in some High School drama kind of way but start expanding your Social Circle start talking to other women and make sure she sees it post a picture of you out

with friends where there just happens to be an attractive woman next to you mention in passing that you had a great conversation with someone new let her feel the shift because here's what happens when you do this her brain whether she likes it or not starts reacting wait is he into someone else why doesn't he text me back like he used to did I miss something here and once those thoughts start they don't stop at first she might act indifferent she might pretend she doesn't care but inside she'll be thinking about you more than ever

and that is the beginning of attraction third shift the power Dynamic stop seeking her validation most men who get friend zoned fall into the same invisible trap they constantly seek the woman's validation they might not say it outright but everything they do the way they agree with everything she says the way they laugh a little too hard at her jokes the way they're always trying to prove their worth screams one thing I hope you like me and that k builds attraction instantly because attraction isn't built on proving your worth it's built on a dynamic where

a woman feels like she has to earn you not the other way around think about the men women actually Chase do those guys try to win her over do they wait around for her approval do they act like they're walking on eggshells afraid to say the wrong thing number they own the room they don't chase they make women Step Up to meet them and that's exactly what you need to start doing stop over complimenting and over agreeing one of the biggest mistakes men make when trying to escape the friend zone is overloading her with validation

they say things like you're so amazing I can't believe no guy has scooped you up yet you deserve the best any guy would be lucky to have you wow you look stunning today now don't get me wrong Compliments are aren't bad but when you overdo it you sound like every other guy she's ever friendzoned because men who don't chase don't flood a woman with compliments they know their attention is valuable they don't give it away for free instead of telling her how beautiful she is all the time flip the script that's a cute dress reminds

me of something my little sister would wear now suddenly she's chasing the compliment instead of you being predictable she's wondering wait does he actually think I'm attractive and the second she starts questioning she starts wanting challenge her don't worship her another key to Shifting the power Dynamic is not treating her like a goddess who can do no wrong most guys in the friend zone agree with everything a woman says if she hates a certain type of food they hate it too if she thinks a movie is dumb they suddenly think it's dumb too why because

they think if they align with her she'll like them more wrong a woman doesn't want a clone she wants a man with his own opinions his own boundaries his own sense of self next time she shares an opinion don't just nod and agree challenge her a little you really think pineapple doesn't belong on pizza that's tragic I thought you had good taste now instead of you being just another guy guy feeding her validation you're someone who makes her think someone who has his own standards and that is what makes her Chase four Master the art

of indifference make her feel your absence nothing makes a woman question her feelings faster than a man who suddenly stops caring because the moment you stop chasing the moment you stop giving her all your time energy and attention she has to face a terrifying thought did I lose him and when that thought enters her mind everything changes the power of Silence most guys who get friend zoned make the mistake of always being available they answer texts instantly they pick up calls on the first ring they're always ready to listen always ready to be there always

making sure she knows they care and because of that she never has to miss them but when a man suddenly goes silent when he stops reaching out stops giving her constant validation stops showing up whenever she needs him that's when a woman starts to feel something she never expected doubt why hasn't he texted me is he mad at me has he met someone else and once those questions start circulating in her head she can't stop thinking about you scarcity creates value women don't don't chase men who are always there they chase men who feel like

a prize if you're always in her DMS always responding always waiting in the background you're not a prize you're a backup plan but the moment you make your presence scarce you become valuable think about it which feels more valuable a glass of water in a rainstorm or a glass of water in the desert scarcity creates desire so instead of being being readily available pull back let her notice your absence let her feel it because once she does she'll start craving your presence in a way she never did before five get comfortable walking away most men

in the friend zone stay because they're afraid to lose her they think if I stop being available she'll forget about me but here's what you need to understand neediness is the most unattractive thing you can project if a woman knows you'll always be there no matter how she treats you she will never respect you and if she doesn't respect you she won't feel any real attraction the solution be willing to walk away not as a manipulation tactic not to play games but because you respect yourself enough to not accept a one-sided relationship tell her hey

I value our friendship but I'm looking for something more in my life I don't think it's fair to either of if I pretend I'm okay with something I'm not then step back stop texting first stop being her backup plan focus on yourself your goals your life and guess what if she really values you she won't just let you walk away she'll come running after you because suddenly she realizes she's losing you and no woman likes to lose a man who's worth having sixth let her see you up upgrade here's a hard pill to swallow she

friendzoned you because deep down she didn't see you as the best option now that Might Sting but instead of feeling sorry for yourself use it as fuel instead of wasting time trying to convince her to like you become a man she can't ignore hit the gym improve your wardrobe start hanging out with new people find a passion that gives your life meaning and most importantly start dating other women the moment she sees you thriving without her looking better feeling better and most importantly being wanted by other women that's when the switch flips in her mind

because now you're not just the guy who's always there you're the guy she overlooked the guy she might have made a mistake about and when she realizes that she'll come Chasing After You the friend zone isn't about luck it's about perception women don't friendzone men because they're not good enough they do it because they don't feel that raw undeniable pull but the moment you shift the energy the moment you become less available more mysterious and undeniably high value that's when everything changes now she has to work for your attention your time and when that happens

she won't just want to be your friend anymore she'll want something a whole lot more this is stoic guide until next time stay sharp stay aware and never let yourself be anyone's second choice