How To Actually Be Disciplined (Consistently)

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Kenny Bender
How I became disciplined without willpower or motivation. Mental Mastery - https://www.kennysfit.co...
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I struggled with discipline for the majority of my life I couldn't wake up early unless I absolutely had to because of work I couldn't get myself to do things I knew were good for me such as meditating and going on walks every day I couldn't get a noof fap streak past like 3 days and I could not stop wasting hours of my day on YouTube and social media and keep in mind this was during a period of my life where I was aware that I needed to change I wanted to change I wanted to improve
myself so the longer this went on the more and more I struggled to be displine on these things the lower and lower my self trust became which that alone wrecked havoc on my mental health I mean I thought that I wanted to do these things and yet I just couldn't do it and the thing about discipline is without it you stay exactly where you are just continuing to struggle with the things you're struggling with in this endless downward spiral and because of this you will never reach consistency with the efforts you're trying to make and
therefore that life that you wish to have that the discipline is the vessel to get to will just remain Nothing More Than Fiction but it doesn't make sense right we have all these super disciplined alpha male gurus telling us that we just need to be more disciplined and we look at their lives and they accomplish many of the things we wish to accomplish and they accredit it all to their Supreme level of discipline and I like many people watching this video didn't know that these discipline gurus these Role Models these motivational speakers were actually making
the situation worse for us because we're constantly consuming this content that tells us well you just don't want it bad enough you're not working hard enough you just need to be more disciplined bro while simultaneously they're flashing their lifestyle their success their money their relationships and telling us that if you were disciplined by me you would have this too and what this does is all the guys that are consuming this content and that are trying to be disciplined and failing it just increases their sense of hopelessness it lowers their self-image which and I'll get into
this more later but it is actually further programming their mind mind to be less disciplined what if I told you that these businessmen these athletes that got there didn't actually get there through sheer Brute Force willpower well that is the case because that would be impossible because willpower is a limited resource imagine you're in a room and you are overwhelmed by this smell of the most delicious chocolate chip cookies you have ever smelt in your entire life the sweet Savory Aroma fills the air and you look across the room and see all of those cookies
there not only cookies but all other kinds of delicious chocolate treats but instead of being able to walk over and eat them you have to sit and eat a [ __ ] radish well there was actually a study that did exactly this they threw a bunch of participants in this very room and while some of them were perfectly allowed to go and eat whatever they want they didn't have any instructions others were instructed to sit in there and just eat the radish and resist the temptation and the smells and the yumminess of the chalky chip
cookie over there and after this happened all participants were taken into another room where they had to work on this seemingly unrelated puzzle a puzzle that required persistence AKA willpower and what they found is that those who had to sit in that room and eat the radish while resisting all the treats gave up way earlier than the people who were allowed to eat whatever they want and then just came and worked on the puzzle because the radish people already used up so much of their mental energy their willpower trying to resist the cookies therefore they
couldn't last very long with the puzzle so right off the bat with this information the first thing we can do is just start to be more greedy with your mental energy with your willpower with your decision- making this is why so many millionaire entrepreneurs wear the exact same clothes and eat the exact same foods every single day because that's one less thing to try to think about or use up mental energy on but while that's a great place to start it's not enough so as we now know if all of those successful people actually just
relied on Willpower to get where they are it would have ran out just like it does for the rest of us but if willpower isn't the answer then what actually makes the disciplined disciplined is because the real reason they have this seemingly effortless discipline is because their minds are programmed to do so and when something is part of your subconscious programming your mind's programming it becomes the default therefore willpower isn't actually always required from them because they aren't actively resisting anything compared to you which has to actively resist your current programming to do do the
disciplines you wish to do but imagine if something like working out or being productive felt as effortless as tying your shoe for example combined with most of those urges you get to do the bad habits do the bad things disappearing because most of these urges are just surfacing into your Consciousness from the subconscious programming and finally since most of the discipline is coming effortlessly you now have a much higher reserve of willpower that you can tap into if something comes along your way that you actually have to use willpower on so what if this bottleneck
of discipline was removed from your life would there be anything else really standing in the way besides time from you and your goals or would it just be a seemingly effortless progression to what you want out of life this is the level that the elite High performing men are on same with the gurus that preach discipline they just don't understand that the reason they're so disciplined is because of this mental programming therefore they think preaching just be disciplined bro is more than enough advice for you but after you watch this video you're not going to
have to listen to them anymore you're not going to have to deal with all that shitty advice cuz you'll know how to actually reprogram your mind to be disciplined so the first reason why you haven't been able to be as disciplined as you like to be is because your reasons suck and I know what you're thinking no no I I do have good reasons to be disciplined I do have a strong why to do all this that is exactly what I thought too when I was sleeping in and playing with my wiener and watching YouTube
all day because one thing our egos are very good at is convincing us the reasons we have to do the things we do are perfectly valid and good good enough but in reality that's not the case if it was the case you wouldn't have clicked on this video so we need to understand that our brains will find the quickest path to the outcome it desires so if your reasonings for doing the things you do is for example well I want to be successful so I can have time Freedom so I can do the things I
want to do which is hang out and play video games or be successful so I can track beautiful women and have sex with them your brain's going to go well you can play fortnite and watch porn right now and you trying to resist doing those things is using up that willpower Reserve this is why a lot of guys have to just keep watching those same motivational videos over and over and over because they don't have good enough wise within them so they need to hear something blasting why they should do something and be disciplined and
work hard into their Consciousness just in order to be disciplined for little bursts here and there and the best way to detach and combat these urges when they appear is by building the skill of mindfulness and the best way to do this is through meditation I have a free 5day guided meditation Series in the description below you can check out after this video so in order to actually rewire your mind to be disciplined on these disciplines you wish to do you need to alter your reasonings now there's two types of reasonings there's two types of
why you can have what you're working towards and also what you're running away from right now let's start with what you're running away from because often it's more powerful the mouse that's running away from a cat that wants to eat it is going to run faster than a mouse just running to some cheese so in order to develop this an anti- reasoning you need to figure out what happens if I don't get disciplined what happened if I don't do these things what happens if I don't change and not just a week from now a month
from now 6 months from now but 1 2 3 4 5 20 years from now if you do not change what does your life look like spoiler alert it does not remain the same it is going to get worse and worse and worse over time and then you have to take that and ask yourself why is that bad and you have to think about all the mental suffering the lack of fulfillment the [ __ ] excuse of a life you're going to be in and generate those negative emotions that creates the cat that you're going
to run away from and then you need to figure out what you're moving towards what are your goals in life and whatever they are I promise you they're not good enough why do you want that goal why is that take your goal and ask yourself why at least five times in order to get to a core goal like something that is truly what truly drives you and you may not even know what that is right now and it may surprise you to discover that for example I was in a call with one of my mental
Mastery students and he was telling me how he was struggling to wake up early in the morning he always would get up hit snooze and go back to bed and at first he was trying to ask me if there's any sleep tactics or any hacks to once you wake up stay up and go about your day but I asked him why do you want to wake up early and his answer was super generic well it's productive I'll have more time in the day and then I asked him why do you need more time in the
day why do you need to be more productive and he couldn't Give Me A Reason so it's like no [ __ ] you don't have the discipline to wake up early you have no actual reasoning to be up early compared to how I developed my discipline to wake up early and it was because I need more time in the day to be productive and to get work done because I need to reach a certain level of Financial Freedom and success because I want to retire my mother and I want to be an amazing role model
for my baby brothers as they're growing up I need the money that success will bring because I want to achieve the best human experience I possibly can and the other side of that is if I don't I will feel like I have wasted my life and it will send me into a depression and I will just every time I see my mom continuing to work unretired continuing to struggle to pay bills my baby brothers don't have a role model to grow up and watch it would cause me so much immense depression and suffering you see
why it's so easy for me to get up early because I need to there is no negotiating my way out of it so do this as an exercise go on a piece of paper a document a journal and write these things out and I promise you whatever your reasons are at first they are not good enough over time keep prying and prying and prying until you can get to the source of why you want to do something get that Crystal Clear Future Vision of the life you want for yourself and those you care about and
get a Crystal Clear Vision of the life that you are [ __ ] terrified of ending up in and what's going to happen is over time as you dwell on these things as you read these things over as you visualize these things you are going to begin to program that subconscious part of your mind to work towards that and when you're able to gain the clarity on why waking up early working a couple extra hours a day eating healthy going to the gym quitting pornography quitting video games quitting drugs is required to get to that
future you want they are the vessels that will carry you there your brain is going to realize that and be like okay this is what we do now we need to do this and that is going to become your default and once you start doing this and you're doing all these disciplines you want to do it is going to enter the second phase which is Shifting your identity there was a study done in 2011 that tracked 205 people for a week they all had these blackberries that would constantly ping up and ask them questions throughout
their day regarding discipline and motivation and willpower and this research found a huge Paradox in human psychology all of the people who would answer these surveys and say things like I'm very disciplined and I have a lot of self-control had fewer instances throughout their day-to-day life in that week where they had to be disciplined where they had to resist temptation compared to the people who didn't see themselves as very disciplined who didn't see themselves as in control they reported way more instances of having to resist Temptations and use willpower and try to be disciplined which
means the people who believe that they are super self-controlled and have strong willpower didn't have to use as much self-control and willpower therefore for people who have an identity of a disciplined person actually use less willpower than other people and this is because as we know their unconscious default is to just be disciplined so what you need to do as you begin getting rid of these bad habits and doing the disciplined things is view yourself already as a disciplined person and let every single disciplined action you take further justify that identity to yourself plus our
brains love doing things that reinforce our previously held beliefs it actually releases dopamine from doing so this is why people are addicted to consuming content online that's about their political beliefs what I didn't mention earlier is when I was going through that period of having absolutely no discipline to do these things I still went to the gym and worked out almost every single day it did not take an ounce of discipline from me to do so because going to the gym was just part of my identity it was just something I did and there was
no rationalization there was no resistance to get there it was just effortless so in your day-to-day life whenever you feel lost just zoom out to your reasons gain the clarity on why these disciplines are the vessel to where you need to be and what that's going to do is that's going to cause you to do every single disciplined thing and not do every single bad habit with intense levels of intention because you are doing the things that you know you need to do to get the life you want and and avoid the life you'd hate
plus it is going to be easy to remain consistent in this because it is who you are if discipline is the biggest thing you're struggling with right now and you would like to know my exact protocol to unlock that effortless discipline that authentic confidence that Elite level of focus every single day through my exact mental reprogramming protocols exactly how to transform your identity exactly how to reprogram the subconscious consider checking out mental Mastery in the description below but even when you do get disciplined you know you stop consuming all the bad content and start consuming
all the good content you could still be negatively impacting your brain in performance by consuming content the wrong way so if you'd like to learn more about that I have this video on the screen right here where I explain exactly how to fix that that's it I really hope you learned something from this video I hope you're inspired to do the things I said to be disciplined thank you for watching bye-bye
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