17 Life Lessons for Young Men | The Bedros Keuilian Show E027

most people are a part of some kind of herd they see what the herd is doing and they do what the herd is doing and the reality is and Tony Robbins says this he says if you want to be successful in life watch what everybody is doing and do the opposite welcome to the bedrose coolian show hey friends welcome to the bedrooms cooling show my name is bedrose coolian and I want to lead off by telling you this one thing right now and that is that you guys are helping us grow this show on YouTube faster than ever we are currently adding about 1300 new subscribers per day on YouTube so thank you so much for all of you that are watching and listening to this on YouTube and I appreciate you guys subscribing I don't know if you know this or not but about 74 of you according to YouTube stats are not subscribed even though you're watching this it would mean a lot to me that if you would watch this I've always told you that I will not advertise anything that I do not personally sell on this show what 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kick off this show and this show was really about the advice that I would give to young men right so my advice that I would give to young men and I started thinking if if there was some advice that I could have gotten between the ages of 15 to 25 that would have put me on this success trajectory faster with less frustration in my life with less time wasted with less anxiety with less friction what would that advice be and I came up with 17 pieces of advice that I want to share with you here and so if you're 15 to 25 years old this is what I would share with you as a young man to me you're a young man if you're 15 to 25 and the things you do now in this phase of life will determine how your 30s 40s 50s and Beyond look like if you want to live a life with no regrets you want to make it to your deathbed and be like [ __ ] man I lived a life well lived I would start with these 17 things if you're a young man and by the way this doesn't mean that it doesn't apply to you if you're beyond 25 years old because truth is I started getting my [ __ ] in order when I was in my early 30s and really after 38 years old I really dialed in these things that I'm telling you about and my life got infinitely better but if I can give you a decade or two decades of advantage that I didn't have then I want to give you that Advantage so let's get started um so thing number one I want to share with you is to wake up early and stack wins right wake up early and stack wins what I mean about waking up early that doesn't mean you have to wake up at 4am but if you're waking up at you know eight or nine a. m consider waking up at maybe 5 30 6 o'clock in the morning and when you do I want you to stack wins the first win is going to be to not hit the snooze button right the second win is going to be to maybe drink 30 ounces of water and I'm just kind of describing my morning routine to you the next one is going to be to not dive into your social media but instead to shower and you know get get get to your get to your next thing that you're going to do what I mean is we need to start stacking little wins most of you out there think that success in life is a byproduct of big wins like I gotta make that deal I gotta get that sale I gotta start that partnership and the big wins are important too make no mistake about it but I'm here to tell you that the little winds stacked every day every hour over time over days weeks and months make you a [ __ ] gangster of a human being so I want you to wake up early and stack wins and what that does is it begins to compound and helps you with thing number two that I'm about to share with you which is to build confidence right thing number two is to build confidence and how do you build confidence to me it's simple you keep the promises that you make to yourself and to others all confident people are is there are people that have high reputations with themselves and so if you're the type of person that says well I'm going to wake up at five in the morning and so you set your alarm to wake up at five in the morning but then you hit the snooze button when the alarm goes off guess what you lied to yourself right you didn't keep your promise and so you are eroding your confidence with yourself you are reducing your reputation like if you had your own credit score with yourself your credit score going down is the equivalent to your reputation and your confidence going down so if you can make the promises and keep the promises you will find that you start stacking wins and as a byproduct confidence begins to soar and why I say that is if you are a confident person something else happens you gain competence meaning when you have to learn something new when you start a new job start a new business take on a new partnership go into a new relationship a competent person is going to have a better run at it than someone who is not competent right like who wants to be incompetent that's kind of stupid well low confidence people are incompetent in many areas of life high confidence people are competent people in many areas of life and when you're competent and you have confidence you become the type of person that no longer seeks the approval and validation of others thing number three my advice to young men would be to exercise daily listen you have got to exercise daily because when you exercise daily you begin to train your muscles you begin to train your cardiovascular system but above and beyond that you begin to get results those results are more wins that you're stacking and those results are a byproduct of discipline of consistency of effort of focus of delayed gratification right because you and I both know this one awesome workout is not going to give you the results you want one week of awesome workouts won't give you the results you want one month you might start seeing some results one year or six months dude now you're seeing some results and what did that teach you that taught you that even if you're not feeling like it even if you're not motivated that day you are going to go into the gym you're going to hit the trail you're going to do your exercise routine even if no matter what because you are a disciplined consistent focused individual and that individual is a confident person who Stacks wins and that's what you want thing number four of my advice to young men would be eat clean listen I treat myself like an athlete I'm an entrepreneur but I treat myself like an athlete and an athlete exercises daily and eats clean think about how much self-control it takes to eat clean what does eat clean mean eat clean means eat in a way that you are showing respect to your body imagine this for a moment if I said I'm gonna buy you one car that you're going to own the rest of your life you don't have to buy this car I'm gonna buy this car for you however you're going to own this car the rest of your life and there's no other car that you can have other than this one car wouldn't you then maintain that car well wouldn't you make sure that you rotate the tires change the oil if there's any dings in it you fix the dings you're always looking after that car you're washing it you're vacuuming the inside because it's the one car that's going to last you the rest of your life guess what that body and that beautiful brain of yours is the only one you get so how do you eat well eat high protein foods eat Pro foods that are also green like fibrous right keep your carbohydrates to somewhat of a minimum to moderate and then keep your fats low Google macros like how do I track my macros and learn to track your Macros if you track your Macros your proteins your fats and your carbs and you know exactly what your Macros should be in other words how many carbs how much fat and how much protein in grams you should get per day to maintain a [ __ ] sexy Stellar body then you would be a confident competent person who respects himself and therefore you would get respect from others as well advice number five for young men is to develop core values when you develop your core values you now have non-negotiables like for me I won't stay awake past 10 pm now I get it if I'm doing the project obviously we're going to be awake Around the Clock if I'm doing my annual suck Fest experience where I I'll hike 30 miles from Sundown to Sun up obviously I'm awake past 10 pm but outside of that I have core values and non-negotiables and by having core values and non-negotiables like I know I'll never put myself in a position to go against my core values right it's almost like having having Lanes in your life you ever hear people say hey man stay in your lane well stay in your lane also means have your core value so that if someone drank and they're going to drive I'm not getting in the car with you you want a party after 10 pm I ain't the one to hang out with oh you got a joint I ain't smoking that not anymore I'm done with that right oh you want to sit around and gossip about things part of my core values is I don't gossip oh you want to complain about things part of my core values is I don't complain I just solve problems right and so because I have core values the people I hang out with they share similar core values and allows me to eliminate the negative people that don't belong in my life that I don't want to influence me so when you have core values and when you have non-negotiables you have Lanes in life that you can stay in which really guides you to a better place in life you get to a higher trajectory of success faster thing number six is to dream big and to protect those dreams I'm telling you right now not everybody wants to see you win and the reality is the bigger your dream the more they want to [ __ ] on it but that doesn't mean everybody wants to [ __ ] on it you might have a tight group of family members or friends who really root for you but beyond that most people that you share your dreams with they're going to be so intimidated because you're going to have to change and become your higher self if you have this big dream you're going to have to change and become your higher self to achieve that dream you're going to have to become different you're going to have to have more commitment you're going to have to dedicate more time and that means more time away from them and that's why most people are like the crabs in a bucket they want to pull you down and they want to hold you down because they don't want to see you thrive because you are now going to have to disassociate from them you better set Big Drams you better set big goals and you better work like a [ __ ] monster to chase those Big Drams down and Achieve them otherwise you will have a life time of regret thing number seven go the other way most people are a part of some kind of herd they see what the herd is doing and they do what the herd is doing and the reality is and Tony Robbins says this he says if you want to be successful in life watch what everybody is doing and do the opposite and you will be successful in life and I'm telling you right now go the other way more often instead of blending into the herd and you will see that yes you will stand out yes they will think you're weird yes they will call you out I've had all of that happen to me my whole life I've been the black sheep because I stand out I did things differently because I listened to an audio CD of Tony Robbins back in the 90s like in the late 90s and I was like holy [ __ ] this guy's speaking the truth and the truth is most people are intimidated by people that have big goals Big Drams and want to do big things and if I have big goals and Big Drams that I have to do the opposite of what everyone else is doing and if you're doing the opposite you're going to stand out and you know what they say the nail that stands out gets hammered I'd rather get hammered for having Big Drams because all the hammering does is Forge me into a stronger human being number eight avoid vices and addictions I'm telling you right now uh if you're watching the show then you know especially if you've been watching the show for any length of time that you know that I I gave up even social drinking on November 12 2022 I gave up Social drinking I'm talking drinking three to four times a year having two cocktails at each one of those events I gave that up because I was like you know what I'm not going to have any level of dependence on any outside chemical on any outside drug and so I gave up Social drinking because I was like you know what I don't need to take the edge off just so I can socialize with people I'm a grown ass man and I'm going to figure out how to socialize with people without taking the edge off and it was one of the best things I did and I'm asking you that if you have vices and addictions I don't care if it's pornography if it's gambling if it's infidelity if it's Vape if it's weed if it's alcohol whatever that Vice and addiction is kick it stop it give it up it is not going to serve you in your trajectory to become a higher level human it's simply not thing number nine that I want to share with you in my advice to young men is to develop the high income skills right there's four high income skills there's several but we're going to stick to the core 4 here for a moment if you can develop one or all of these high income skills you will literally put yourself in a position to be able to print money and high income skill number one is to be able to Market learn how to drive leads and and market and get leads to a business if you know how to get leads to a business whether you're on your own business what so it's Facebook ads Instagram ads YouTube ads building social media platforms and building a brand of yourself like this information is out there for free if you Google it and you YouTube it you will learn how to drive leads get traffic get more customers eyeballs or lead eyeballs onto your website but if you're not doing it you're leaving a lot of money on the table number one number two even if you don't own your own business all of these four skills that I'm able to share with you like Marketing sales copywriting leadership right every single one of these are going to help you in your business if you decide to start a business or if you decide to work for someone all four of these high income skills will allow you to make more money than just good or average right think about it if you're a marketer and you're driving leads you're going to get paid some kind of a salary plus some kind of a bonus on top of your performance if you're a salesperson you might get a base plus commission in fact there's a sales person in this very building in my headquarters he's so good at what he does that he made half a million dollars last year in 2022. that is [ __ ] awesome right and he's a he's a young dude he's under 30 years old and I share this with you because if he didn't master that high income skill of sales he would not have done that and so I want you to put yourself in a position whether you own a business or you're going to work for someone learn to Market learn to sell learn to write copy as in sales copy words that influence and persuade and learn to lead number 10 do not complain I'm telling you right now no one likes a complainer if you're the type of person that complains man I'm not having a good day things didn't work out for me this went wrong that thing happened listen bro don't be a complainer I don't care if you're 15 or 25 or anywhere in between complaining is like Kryptonite man it repels people away from you be a problem solver be an optimistic Problem Solver right you know how to be optimistic you know how to solve problems you know how to figure things out the sad truth is people want to half the people are going to give you some [ __ ] sympathy when you complain and the other half of the people are going to be secretly happy for you when you complain about your life's problems and I don't want either I don't want [ __ ] sympathy and I don't want I don't want people to be happy for my misery so why complain if you are having life problems don't complain instead learn to solve problems learn to ask for help learn to figure things out learn to show up as an optimist and not a pessimist because the optimistic Problem Solver who can figure things out is going to be like honey man you're just going to attract good people to you and then the pessimistic complainer the person who complains but never does anything about it you're like Kryptonite you just repel people away from you you're going to repel hot chicks you're going to repel awesome dudes you're going to repel future business partners you're going to repel great Karma you're going to repel everything from you if you're a [ __ ] complainer thing number 11.

don't marry and don't date crazy I'm telling you right now the number one influencing factor to a man's success or failure in life is who they choose as a spouse so if you're not going to choose a crazy woman to get married to then you ought to be dating any crazy women right why would I want to marry someone or date someone who is constantly emotionally unpredictable they are mentally unstable they constantly require savings and if you're one of those guys that like you're like man I like chicks who need to be saved I'm a Captain Save A Hoe don't be a [ __ ] Captain Save A Hoe because when you get married to this chick and when you try and start a life with her she's gonna constantly be this tornado of problems each time you're trying to do something big and you're going to realize I can't start that company I can't make those Millions I can't transform people's lives I can't serve Humanity because each time I try she is taking a massive [ __ ] on my life then I'm gonna tell you when you're going through a divorce 10 to 15 years after marrying crazy chick hey bro remember on that podcast when I told you so so I'm telling you right now don't be a Captain Save A Hoe don't try and save crazy don't try and save someone who is an unsavable instead find someone who's equally yoked to find someone who shares your core values find someone that will back you up find someone that will say they believe in you they will advocate for you and when you do be so [ __ ] awesome to her that all she wants to do is support you and be your one woman pit crew and if you can do that I'm telling you man that you will force multiply the impact and income that you will make in life number 12 impulse control fellas listen if you are the kind of dude that can impulsively Reach For The Vape stop working let me see what's happening on social media don't be that guy if you make a plan execute the plan to its full completion I know so many dudes that have started these half-baked ideas across many things either a relationship diet plan workout plan business plan and guess what they don't execute the plan they got all these half-baked plans because impulse control takes the best of them or lack of impulse control I should say gets the best of them and before you know it they're now going down another path because they impulsively thought this would be a good idea I'm gonna do this I'm going to do this I've never known anyone who has impulsively made a decision and that decision has served them well most people who make great decisions and who have great ideas are the type of people that put impulse aside and they logically pragmatically Pro and Connor situation and then make the decision that's best for them number 13 fellas make a bunch of money one of the First episodes of the bedrose cooling show we talked about this and we said make a bunch of money and get jacked right which effectively means if you're healthy and fit and you're making a lot of money you're going to be an asset to humanity you're not going to be a liability where people have to take care of you if you're making a lot of money you're not going to be dependent on the opposition the opposition being mainstream media corporate media being social media being big government being the IRS if you're making a lot of money then you put yourself in a position to have Financial sovereignty you put yourself in a position to be able to be generous with that money and be able to help people who need it I think the most selfish thing any dude can do any human can do for that matter is to go I only need x amount of dollars I only need to make four hundred thousand dollars in your own you need to make 500 000 a year and I'll be set me and my family will be set really what a selfish [ __ ] move that is so what about your neighbor whose house burns down what about if your mom or your dad get dementia like my mom did or your dad has a stroke like my dad did you're going to be like oh well I'm gonna put him in an old folks home are you going to be able to Pony up the money to get the experimental medication they need so that they don't die of of Alzheimer's instead my mom will die of old age right because if you know anything about dementia it eats away the part of the brain that controls breathing and the way you die of Dementia or Alzheimer's is by by your your you're basically suffocating to death I don't want that from my mom and so I was able to get her experimental medication that has been helping her and slowing down the erosion of her brain and being that she's in her mid-80s she'll die of old age instead of suffocating to death think about that number 14. find out what you're passionate about and go all in on it listen man you only get one run at life and there's one run at life you might as well find your passions and go all in on it not every passion do you have to make money with by the way you might find a career that is fulfilling to you and then you might be like hey I also like this right like I have several passions I love working out I love riding the one wheel with my son I love going on vacations with my family I love playing ping pong with my son there's a lot of things I love doing there's a lot of passions that I have one of my core passions is drumming I'm a drummer I'm not on some [ __ ] in some band I'm not going to be on some [ __ ] Rock Tour however I'm a pretty decent drummer it's a passion that I have and I go up into my guest house and I'll drum because I'm passionate about it and I love my career I love what I do but I also have a passion that is very fulfilling and therapeutic for me and I'm telling you whatever your passion is if you can make it part of your career make it something that you can literally make money from and serve Humanity with but if you can't still chase that passion man don't just be that person that works for money comes home and watches TV like groundhog day goes to sleep unhappy wakes up with no real sense of purpose or meaning repeats the same day over and over again that is [ __ ] slavery that is slavery to the system like there is no lower form of vibration than just having this Groundhog Day of a life and you're like yeah but the economy the inflation and the government and and what about big Pharma in the world world financial whatever they're called the world financial forums you know what listen listen if you can solve problems you can make money if if you have a passion you'll find a way to experience that passion if you don't find a passion you don't find a way to make money you don't find a way to have health you don't find a way to eat clean because you can also give me that same objection why can't eat clean it's too expensive really have you checked the price of bad health if you don't eat clean have you checked the price of bad Health have you checked the price of shitty medication shitty Medical Services I mean you know most people going to hospitals these days and unfortunately never come out I don't want to [ __ ] go into a hospital for that reason alone I'm going to take care of my body like my health is my passion find a passion and go all in on it man because if you don't this life on this planet becomes so monotonous and boring number 15 that if you're a young man is to learn to communicate learn to tell stories learn to articulate a message learn to draw a word picture and if you're like man I don't know how to speak well and I'm not a public speaker and I don't know how to articulate a message and draw a word picture and story tell let me remind you that I'm a foreigner to this country I came to this country speaking Armenian not English English is a second language for me I not only had to learn the language I had to lose my accent then I had to learn words that allowed me to draw word pictures influence persuade and get people imagination activated because it was only then that I could impact lives and so if you can't communicate you're going to be that person that's always frustrated you're going to feel like man they just don't understand me people don't get me even with your spouse if you can't communicate well with your spouse with your girlfriend with with a friend you're gonna be frustrated all the time because they don't get me they don't understand me they don't see my point of view well that's because you are not communicating a message well you are not storytelling you're not articulating your feelings you are not transferring your feelings and so if you want to be a better Communicator go to Toastmasters International learn how to speak right go and start reading books I'm not just talking about listening to audiobooks I'm talking about start reading books because when you start reading books you start learning words that you never knew and those words later get used in your vocabulary as you're speaking when you read books that are well written you will also develop this pattern a pattern of speaking that actually makes sense to people instead of being everywhere in your ideas and people are like [ __ ] bro your words are confusing me I don't get it so if you don't know how to communicate you're doing yourself a disservice thing number 16.