why we should fall in love slowly...

hello my dear so I had the interesting topic brought up to me about the difference between Slow Love versus Fast Love let's look up the definition of slow love according to AI overview Slow Love is a romantic orientation that involves taking a gradual approach to relationships rather than rushing into commitment AI overviews definition of fast love is a term that describes a culture of superficial expressions of affection and fleeting emotional connections it can also refer to the idea of falling in love quickly which is sometimes called Emilia I didn't know that known as emotional promiscuity

this is a term for people who tend to fall in love quickly and often people with emop may feel an all-encompassing pass for romantic interest in a short amount of time huh I'm going to start off with saying that there is nothing wrong with wanting to experience a fast love there's nothing wrong with wanting to be understood but there are the side effects of being understood too quickly it shows a level of curiosity that wow this person really wants to get to know me on such a deep de level and curiosity is important there is

a difference between cramming for the exam versus fully understanding the subject I'm going to use an example there is a person that can get to know you within weeks they ask all of the right questions they start to really understand who you are but who they are studying is the person that you are at that exact moment versus the person that has gotten to know you over a span of years and this person has witnessed seeing you change instead of the first example of where they asked all the right questions and they found out who

exactly you are it's so much easier for them to kind of put you in this box of what they studied you to be versus the second example of where they witness the Box keep growing the first example that person may feel like whoa you're changing it up a little too much what happened to the person that I used to know you to be but the second example is able to understand you to such a fundamental level of throughout all of the changes that I have witnessed you go through these are the points that have stayed

the same and I know this is you to your core to be honest rushing love is actually very simple all you have to do is just lean into the crush of this person or lean into the few things that you do like about them and just exploit it and keep using that as a carrying vessel for the rest of the relationship it's very easy to do the common denominator between slow love and fast love is that there is the chemistry I'm not going to take away from The Fast Love that there isn't a connection there

there definitely is it's just what you do with the connection is extremely important I'd say with maturing you start to understand how to stop being as indulgent with love the same way how you would with sugar we love sugar it's delicious it's a nice treat love is like a nice sweet treat but we want to be able to learn how to Pace our ourselves because when you take so much of it all at once for an extended amount of time you're going to feel sick we want to avoid feeling sick from our loves so with

slow love we are practicing patience continue on your life as you would because you still want to put time and effort into the goals that you have outside of the relationship I'd say that's what I notice a lot with the fast loves that I've experienced as well as observed a fast love usually puts the rest of our life on hold while the slow loves they take such small chunks of time out of our days and we can still eat the rest of what's on our plate like they are the sweet treat at the end of

the day but we still fulfilled the main course which were our responsibilities and our Ambitions and I'd say that's a well balanced meal we would love to have well balanced meals as our well balanced loves but with the fast loves it gave us no room left in our bodies to have that love for other things that actually correlates to one of the main reasons as to why I'm scared to fall in love again um Love is consuming it's not to say that I don't want to give this time and energy the problem is that I

do from the first time that I fell in love I didn't know any part of how to keep a well-balanced meal I only knew how to keep indulging in what felt great and a couple heartbreaks later there's someone here I was just young and that was to keep leading into this love and forget everything else but to live a little too present we love living presently but you know when you're eating a cake it's like oh this feels great but you're not thinking about how it's going to make you feel bad later you're just completely

indulging into the present and just wanting more of this until your satisfaction isn't actually satisfying it's sickening with a slow love sure it's not going to be it's not going to be overwhelmingly Magic IAL but I'd say it's the small bits of magic that continues to prove to me it is sustainable and it will be there through my thick and thin because it already has versus the fast loves it's like who are you and a lot of the answers to this problem I wouldn't even call it a problem it's just this ride of passage in

life is learning how to be more patient we all have different styles of being patient too it's it's truly just further understanding yourself and what your well-balanced meal looks like at least definitely with the times that I've experienced fast love I was running away from something whether I knew it or not I was running away from something one of my fast loves I was running away from what my purpose was in life I didn't know what I wanted to be when I grew up and the fact that I had already been at the age of

growing up and I wasn't in the career that I wanted to be and yet it was agonizing to admit I was lost so then I fell into a really fast love there goes the well-balanced meal I avoided the vegetables and I just went straight for the sugar I didn't want to confront that I hadn't had eaten any vegetables so yes the slow loves that I have been experiencing as of late I am just truly ever so in love with the fact that you exist I didn't know that slow love existed until I found my best

friends I think my abandonment issues really really subsided When I Found Love within these people they have been there through the thick and then I believe that my soul is tied to them and it truly took time in order for that tie to be created with a not so strong over time and weather and erosion the knot will still be there versus with the fast loves a a knot is still tied but it can become so undone so quickly with extreme ease it is upsetting it's very upsetting that oh my gosh I thought that I

tied such a beautiful bow with this person and you probably did but the bow is made of silk and although it had the most beautiful presentation it slipped right from underneath itself versus the shipping rope that I have with my slow loves I have no fear and only trust for the slow loves that I have accumulated in terms of how to get slow love I would say it is paying attention to the other aspects of your life and that is how you can start practicing a slower love you want to divide and experience life in

moderation especially the good and the bad parts it's the balance it's it's the balanced meal I have to go now but I hope you enjoyed this video and I love you so much my Romantics I wish you to find all the pairs of your socks and all the quarters in your pockets thank you so much my Romantics I have to go now bye [Music] guys and a couple heartbreaks later I started to understand and a lot of the answers to please let me know guys