How Your Trauma Explains Your Coping Mechanisms

renowned psychologist Carl Young once until we are able to make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate that's the value of self-awareness the more aware we become of our own flaws struggles and shortcomings the better we are at adapting evolving and flourishing in life but introspection can be scary because it forces us to confront things about ourselves in our past we may not know how to deal with but as they always say the first step to overcoming any problem is to acknowledge it and the same is true for

a lot of emotional baggage we still carry with us today so if you'd like to take that first step here are some of the most common types of coping mechanisms and how they relate to certain types of traumatic experiences there's been a huge decline in mental health around the world which is why we're so committed to creating more content than we ever have thanks for being a part of our journey number one abuse exploitation have you ever had someone you trusted purposefully hurt abused or took advantage of you have you ever been humiliated cheated on

lied to or manipulated by someone you once considered a friend or a loved one for most people who have had and still have unhealed trauma because of this their coping mechanism is likely to mistrust or always be suspicious of other people and their intentions does this sound like you number two abandonment whether it was a parent who walked out on you a romantic partner who ghosted you out of the blue or growing up in the system and moving around from one family to another experiences of being abandoned especially at a young age can easily leave

us with lasting emotional damage they often erode our sense of self-worth and negatively impact our view of others as well so if you have a deep-seated fear of abandonment it's most likely that your Kobe mechanism is to keep people at an emotional distance and leave before you get left number three emotional deprivation similar to the last Point even if the significant people in your life are physically and actually there for you their emotional neglect and deprivation can be just as traumatizing too where they never attentive or affectionate towards you did they deprive you of empathy

understanding and emotional connection did you often feel alone and unsupported experiences of emotional deprivation often lead to an over-reliance on oneself and inability to ask for help or show weakness to others number four shame unworthiness anyone who's had to deal with a difficult person in their lives knows the psychological and emotional toll it takes to listen to their criticism every day and when we're constantly made to feel like nothing we do will ever be good enough it's hard not to internalize their rejection and resort to self-blame people who have had this particular trauma tend to

be timid overly apologetic and hypersensitive they are often prone to perfectionism and overachieving and are likely to be overly self-critical as well number five dependence incompetence being cuddled and overprotected can also tear down self-esteem when everyone in your life is acting like you can't ever do anything by yourself and exaggerate how much you need them it can lead to enmeshment and an underdeveloped sense of self that's why people who are spoiled and entitled also have very fragile egos those who've experienced this are most likely to struggle with a lot of self-doubt hidden insecurity and easily

fall victim to emotionally codependent relationships number six approval or recognition seeking while it might not seem so traumatic at first glance an overemphasis on one status appearance or achievement can make us overly approval and recognition seeking making our sense of self-worth entirely dependent on external rather than internal validation thus those with this kind of emotional trauma often end up people Pleasers and pushovers and tend to struggle with a lack of authenticity in their sense of self and unsatisfying relationships and number seven emotional inhibition last but certainly not the least people who have been punished or

invalidated for their emotions told things like that's nothing to get upset about just get over it or why are you even crying it's not a big deal you're just a crybaby often end up emotionally stunted and resort to suppression avoidance and denial to deal with their problems because they were taught early on that expressing one's emotions is inherently negative they will often just bottle up their feelings and ignore them until they can't anymore these people are prone to emotional outbursts anger management problems and difficulty expressing or communicating their feelings so do you relate to any

of the things we've mentioned here has watching this made you realize how your own traumatic experience has influenced the ways in which you try to cope if you feel overwhelmed right now and would like to begin healing from your trauma then learn better healthier ways of coping the best thing you can do for yourself is to reach out and talk to someone about it seeking help from a mental health care professional can provide you with the support and information you need to improve the overall quality of your life you found some insight or new ideas

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