How to Actually Attract a Girl Who Doesn't Like You

relationships between men and women go through three stages the first stage is mutual attraction where you like the girl and she likes you this is the beginning of the relationship then comes the second stage which is the relationship where you love her and she loves you finally the third stage is the breakup since I started this series I've noticed that most of you in the comments are facing this issue people don't know how to turn a girl from I don't like you to I like this guy and want to know more about him in this

video I'll explain exactly what you need to do but before that let me let me tell you a story a young legislator in Pennsylvania once faced a political rival who openly opposed him instead of confronting him as an enemy he used a clever strategy to win his favor he learned that this rival owned a rare and valuable book so he sent him a polite letter requesting to borrow it for a short time the man agreed and sent him the book after reading it the legislator returned the book with a thank you note something surprising happened

after that the Rival who had previously disliked him began to treat him kindly and eventually became one of his friends and supporters that young legislator was Benjamin Franklin and from here we got the concept of the Benjamin Franklin effect the Benjamin Franklin effect is the fastest and easiest way to make any girl like you regardless of her initial feelings all you have to do is ask her for a favor let's see how this works when you ask a woman to do something for you and she agrees it triggers a subconscious reaction she starts to like

you a little more why it's simple when we perform acts of kindness or do favors for others our brain tells us that we must like them because we're going out of our way to help this method also relies on a concept called the consistency bias once someone has done you a favor several times they're more likely to continue doing so to maintain a consistent image of themselves after all we all like to think of ourselves as reliable right here's a tip ask for small manageable favors like picking up a pencil sharing class notes passing a

paper to someone or running a simple errand but the reason I wanted to talk about the Benjamin Franklin effect in this video is to explain a much deeper concept something I like to call the investment equation we were raised in a society where from a young age we were told if you want a girl to like you you have to be nice and keep doing favors and buying her gifts this is all nonsense and I want you to erase this idea from your mind and replace it with this rule a girl will start liking you

when she invests in you not the other way around how think of it like gambling the more money you lose in gambling the more you want to keep going and not stop the same thing applies to a girl the the more she invests in you the more she will like you and become attached to you but if you're the one investing in her you're the one who will become more attached this doesn't just apply to girls but to all people the more you invest in someone the more you value them than they value you so

I want to send a message to all the overly nice people my friend just because you're being nice and helping someone with everything they ask doesn't mean they'll appreciate you in fact you'll end up appreciating them more let's get back to women here's a golden piece of advice if a girl asks you for a favor and you agree to do it and help her then welcome to the friend zone you must understand that this might seem strange but unfortunately it's the reality if a girl asks you for something even if it's small try to find

a way to refuse why because the moment you do a favor for a girl she interprets it in one of two ways either you're doing it to win her over and get her approval and if you've been following this series on how to attract women you'll know that this is an attraction killer or she'll see you as a friend because friends are the ones who help look my friend when a girl is beautiful every guy is trying to win her over and whenever she asks for something they rush to do it for her if you

agree to do her a favor you're just like everyone else and this is not because women are bad it's just their nature but if you say no to her she starts seeing you differently she won't understand what's going on and she'll want to know more about you so in summary we've learned about the Benjamin Franklin effect understood the investment equation and seen that you shouldn't agree to do favors for her and all of this can be summed up in one sentence change your mindset from what do I need to do to make her like me

to what does she need to do to make her like me now there's one last thing I want you to know and if you combine it with everything I've explained to you you'll have the perfect formula but before we continue let's get this video to 4,000 likes this last point is about raising your value let me explain how I want you to imagine that dating is like a Marketplace well in a financial Marketplace when the supply of something is scarce it is perceived to be more valuable in the dating Marketplace when your time and attention

are scarce you are perceived to be more valuable this means in the beginning stages of dating you never want to seem too available for a girl for example tell me if this situation sounds familiar you hey I had a great time the other night are you free to get drinks this Thursday I'd love to but I'm busy on Thursday okay how about Friday can't do Friday either Saturday busy all weekend maybe sometime next week okay when are you free nothing has this kind of thing ever happened to you and did you realize the crucial mistake

you were making you were too available and it lowered your value look if you don't understand the game of dating this situation will make you angry it's going to feel like she's stringing you along and playing games with you that's all logical but dating isn't logical it's emotional here's what's really happening when you suggest a time and get told no you are devaluing your time relative to hers even if she doesn't realize it on a subconscious emotional level you are losing points with her and when you keep asking and you keep chasing it reinforces that

you are more available than her that your time and attention are easier to get than her time and attention therefore you're less valuable than her yeah I know it's not Fair it shouldn't be that way people shouldn't play games with each other like that but they do and no amount of wishing things were different is going to change basic human nature don't judge it just embrace it and I'll tell you how to flip that game on its head embrace the concept of scarcity meaning you want to limit the supply of your time and attention in

order to keep it valuable for example when you're texting back and forth setting up a date always get her availability first before revealing yours that way you only have to ask once and you know the answer is going to be yes yes it's easy instead of asking her if she's free on Thursday just ask her what's your week looking like when are you free to hang out um and have the most fun ever when's a good time for us to have our epic Whiskey Drinking Adventure then she'll tell you when she's free and you pick

the time you get her to reveal her availability first another example when you're talking to a girl you like at a bar or you're texting back and forth with a girl who recently gave you her number always be the one to end the conversation first and do it before you think you should especially if it's going well even if the conversation is going really well and you don't want it to end trust me the longer you keep talking the more she's going to get the feeling that you're not that special so make it a rule

for yourself that you always say goodbye first it's for the good of you both it's easy just say getting dinner with friends and I hate being that guy on his phone talk again soon got to run try not to miss me too much I got to go say hi to some friends let's talk again soon your best bet is to end it on a high note so she's left with good feelings about you and she misses the hell out of you and even though you're not going to say it you want wondering if there are

other girls who are getting a piece of your time when she's not getting it trust me this is a good thing look you're a busy man you've got lots of cool stuff going on in your life and lots of cool people who want a piece of your time there's a huge demand for you and not that much of you to go around which means the people who receive your time should value it and feel special when they get it and here you will have the perfect formula to make any girl like you but there is

one thing left I want you to do act like you are already taken by someone else do you know that women find married men much more desirable than single men why is that well simply due to the fact that married men are beyond their reach they know that these men are already taken and that makes it even more of a desire for them you should cultivate the same actions in your personality when you act as if you are already taken she will always go that extra mile to keep your attention this is the reason why

you should act like you're already taken that way she will always chase you for attention but at the same time you shouldn't show her that you're already taken by someone else to the point where she feels you're not interested in her and has no chance with you so how do you do that it's not difficult but let's talk about it in another video this was the dark needle take care [Music]