How to let go correctly according to Buddhism... | Buddhism In English

Nam Bud welcome and welcome back to another video we've all heard these words more than a million times in our life and that is to let go of the attachments and then we will be happy but saying this is easy but doing this practically it is really really difficult so let's discuss about what it truly means to let go and let go of the attachments and how to approach it in the correct way oftenly the common perspective of letting go of the attachment is that people think that we have to let go of the things

that we are being attached to that means attachment is occurred by these objects around us so that to let go of the attachments we have to let go of the things and then we will be happy now I have heard this people say that oh even the Buddha said that let go of everything and then you will be happy but Buddha never said to let go of the things or let go of the things that you are being attached to and also the Buddha never said that you have to be attached to the things around

you what Buddha said is that understand and realize that one day you have to let go of the things that you are that that are around you and also one day you'll have to be separated from the things and the from and from the people that that you love and like one day and realize this and live with them while living with them you have to realize that one day this is the reality of my life that I will have to be separated from them these things are subjected to change and that is the true

understanding about letting go of the attachments one of the misconceptions about attachment is that people think oh attachment is an object so that to let go of that attachment we have to let go of that object but this is not correct because if we have to let go of the attachment and if you have to let go of the things that we have to we have been attached to then we will never be able to let go of these attachments why because as human beings when we come to this world there are so many things

that are around us there are so many things that we use right so if we had to let go of the things then we will never be able to do that because even the body that we we use is an object right this is not something that we truly own so if we have to let go of the things then we have to let go of even our body but we can't do that in reality so that understand the attachment is not an object attachment is more of a mind related thing just look at these

words from the Buddha the Buddha said they are not sensual Pleasures the pretty things in the world a person's sensual pleasure is lustful intention the pretty things remain just as they are in the world but the wise remove the desire for them so what Buddha says is just let the pretty things in the world stay in the same way and you let go of the desire to wanting to them to be in the way that you want wanting things to be permanent is what we have to let go how we should do that we should

understand that everything is subjected to change everything is subjected to impermanence where we expect things to be permanent and that is what makes us suffering so then one can ask if we let go of the desire will we be able to enjoy the things now here's the thing the Buddhist understanding about desire is that it is the mental attachment and thinking that these are mine these are myself this is me it's like dragging a cow from its Rob around its neck like the cow pulls to his side and we pull to our side and what

happens to us is that our hands get hurt the reason why our hands get hurt is not because the cow is pulling to his side the reason why the our hand gets hurt is we are gripping the Rope so tightly and it is we are not ready to let go and at first letting go of the Rope seems scary why because we think that we might lose the cow the cow might might run away but in reality if we simply let go yes the cow may run for for a distance but it will always come

back that's the nature even in the Life letting go of the attachments seems scary at first but when we realize that in this life we have gained nothing and we have lost nothing it is very very easy to let go the reality is that in life we are not owners of anything we come to this life we came to this life owning nothing and we are living this life owning nothing so in this little time we are just using these things around us so we are not true owners or we are not we haven't gained

anything so if we haven't gained anything what we have lost so how can we train our minds to let go of the attachments what we should practice now the first step of letting go is to understand the true nature of Life what is the true nature of life that everything every experience every feeling everyone in our life is subjected to this inherent nature of change we are constantly changing right here even right now when you understand this you understand that life is nothing but a bunch of changes so that when these things change that we

have nothing to hold on to as permanent and wanting things to be according to our own wish because the life is undergoing even the constant change right now right here when you realize that no one nothing no feeling no experience stays forever in Life or in another words you cannot step into the same river twice you realize that thinking about this life as permanent wanting things to be permanent is nothing but just an illusion of your mind we are being eluded from our ignorance that is what we realize by realizing the true nature of this

change in life it is something like this imagine you are going to a magic show and watching the magic show as long as you don't know how to do the magic how the magic is done then you get fooled by it and as long as you get fooled by it the magic is a magic for you but what if we become friends with the magician and we learn how to do the magic and then again you go to the mag the same magic show and watch the mag magic show now the magic is no longer

a magic for you but still you can watch the magic show you can enjoy it but you know how it happens you know how it is done so that you are not being fooled by anything in the same way when we realize that this illusion of our mind that thinking about this permanent thinking the life and experiences to be permanent is just an illusion of our mind then you can enjoy the life and also you have to you can live life in a more wiser and a more experienced and a more matured way so that

is the way we understand about the attachment this realization will make you more understanding about yourself and the world around you and it will make you more easily enjoy this World in a more wiser and a more matured way and also by understanding about this constant change in your life you let go of the attachment you let go of this mind and the thought of wanting things to be permanent and then the process of Letting Go will become much more easier so understand that when we let go we don't let go of the things we

let go of the mental and the emotional attach attachment towards things we let go of that craving towards things to wanting things to be permanent and when when you realize this you can let go of this attachment and these expectations very easily so that's a wrap for today's video I hope you got some idea about attachment so I wish you may all of you be well and happy and may all of you be happy forever namay