Andrew Tate: Become The Man She Regrets Leaving | Masculine Motivational Advice On Heartbreak

hey can you please explain uh exactly how to get over a breakup I just went through a major breakup and you have never explicitly spoken about the topic sure I'll talk about it first things first is that going through a breakup sucks and every single man out here no matter what they say understands how bad it is to go through a breakup and understands what heartbreaks like it's difficult it's not easy I'd actually like to argue that men feel more heartbroken than women I think that's I think it's true and I think it's because one

of the possessive element that we have the idea of the idea of her being with someone else hurts more than the idea of you being with someone else to her and secondly because you have a lot less options than she has instantly so I think that breakups are worse for men than they are for women and I understand how difficult and hard they can be However unfortunately the unfortunate reality is that chasing her and and and being dedicated to her and saying you're going to do whatever she wants Etc is very unlikely to work when

I get a message from whoever and he goes my wife left me I'm devastated I say I understand I completely understand how hard it can be to l is a woman that you've given your entire life to and you've been done so many nice things and then because of one thing you did her innate and absolutely insane level of ungratefulness has turned her bitter and she Now talks to you like she hates you over one thing you've done after thousands of efforts showing how dedicated you are to her and even now that you're prepared to

die for her she doesn't give a [ __ ] about you I understand that pain but my answer is good it's still good when bad things happen to me I just you love it yeah I I I kind of enjoy it and I think that maybe is perhaps I just enjoy it for the story perhaps my whole life is not about trying to find Comfort it's trying to find challenges and it's trying to find stories I'll be very I'll be very honest with you e even in jail my brother and I kept saying this is

this is the probably the best story one of our best ever stories that's what life is about to me and if you were to say to me right now Andrew do you want to spend a year living in comfort and flying around the world and sleeping with girls and doing whatever or do you want to spend a year in a in a jail in Mongolia I'd probably choose the jail maybe I'm a sadist maybe I'm maybe I'm nuts but for me it's all about the challenges it's not about the Comforts that's what I'm interested in

and I want to have stories to die with life the purpose of it is to learn and it is to struggle and it is to suffer and I don't think that we are put on the planet to be happy I actually genuinely believe we upon the planet to learn things and to struggle and to genuinely suffer I think that life is suffering and I'm not saying this in a negative way I think that if you want to be any kind of man of caliber your life needs to be full of suffering if you don't have

that story of Pain you don't have a story at all it's just the way the world Works you're not going to be a credible man who is respected if you don't have a bunch of pain and problems in your past if you wake up and you're born as a man and everything goes exactly to the way you want it to and everything's nice and easy nobody's going to respect you and you're not even going to be happy yourself I believe that also the masculine imperative not only is to give like we said earlier but it

is to overcome struggle we look at struggles and we look at problems and we want to overcome them when you're truly heartbroken you can't even sleep and your mind is constantly preoccupied and instead of seeing that as a negative what you need to do is use that as a source of unlimited power if I was truly heartbroken today let's imagine and I could barely sleep I'd be in better shape than I've ever been I'd train like a [ __ ] animal you have to just take the energy inside of you energy cannot be destroyed it

can only be converted whether it's heat into light or uh momentum into friction or whatever whatever you however you want to put it right energy cannot be destroyed it can only be converted from one form to another and you have to look at that and understand that the sadness inside of you is energy you can't destroy it but you can convert it into something else which is constructive and you just going have to suck it up butter cop and get over it and there's no other way to do it and obviously having abundance of women

makes that easier but I wouldn't even put it that way I'd say if you were with a woman and you lost her and you're now lonely and she's going to be moving on and you're absolutely notely heartbroken and you're destroyed inside I understand how difficult that is but now you have genuine sadness inside of you which is unlimited motivation for you to become a [ __ ] beast become an animal and by the time you're finished becoming an animal you won't care anymore so if you really want to cure yourself you need just say I'm

going to get a six-pack and I'm going to get bigger arms and by the time my arms are this size and I have a six-pack then I'm going to think about that [ __ ] and you'll realize you don't give a [ __ ] about her anymore think about the biggest transformative stages in your life think about the times you got the most work done it was a bad part of your life you were heartbroken or you know you lost a house or broke or whatever that's when you did [ __ ] when everything was

fine when the woman's still sucking dick the the the mortgage is paid dinner's on time it's kind of doopy doopy dooo little by little do a little bit of work do a little bit of relax but the big events come from trauma this is it so it's a cheat code it's a cheat code to climb the mountain anything in the world that makes you happy that you currently have whether it's a person whether it's a job whether it's a scenario whatever it is also has the exact inverse capability to make you extremely angry so you

have to accept this about life you're quite detached man you're quite detached from everything that you also own you you say you love it but at the same time you're okay with letting go well that's because I think I have confidence in myself to get it all back and that's also because I have quite a lot of emotional control adult happiness for me is just a lack of absolute sorrow like there's no such thing as cold there's only a lack of heat scientifically cold doesn't exist heat exists and a lack of heat creates cold well

I think it's the same thing with happiness there's no such thing as happiness there's just a lack of Sorrow if I'm not grief stricken if I'm not sitting here and I'm and I'm really devastated if my family members haven't died if I'm not balling my eyes out if I have you know if I'm not really struggling then I'm a happy person because I'm not completely sorrow filled but I think a lot of people are are somewhere in the middle and and they think because they're not at that giddy childish happiness there's something wrong with them

no no grownup adult is supposed to live in the [ __ ] absolute peak of life's great I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy no one's supposed to live that way and we're told we're supposed to live that way and that if you ever feel a little bit sad there's something wrong with you that's not true we're human beings It's Perfectly Normal to wake up and be pissed off and be sad or be this or be that because there's nothing wrong with it the only thing that's wrong with it is to sit there and believe that

you need to start taking a pill to fix it life as a man is pretty [ __ ] and you're going to feel [ __ ] for a pretty large percentage of the time but you're only going to ever escape that if you just perform regardless you have to perform when you feel bad as a man you can't say I will perform when I feel good it doesn't work that way cuz our heads are too complicated and life's too complicated there's too much on our shoulders we have too much stress and too much pressure our

heads are [ __ ] you have to be the kind of person who says I perform regardless her revenge on you is instant her revenge on you is running getting on a boat and [ __ ] five guys and going out to party and you're sitting at home alone her revenge is instant your revenge takes a little bit longer but it's but it is a but it is a better Revenge overall it takes like all good things in life good things come to those who wait good things don't come instantly your revenge is going to

be be you that sadness using that sorrow to become such an amazing man that she realizes she [ __ ] up every single one of my exes realizes they [ __ ] up there's not a single person who's close to me whose life would be better if I wasn't in it every single one of my exes looks and goes I wish I had top G still now I just text my boyfriend my problems he can't fix him but Andrew [ __ ] good I'm sitting here on economy tapes on his jet I [ __ ]

up and so if you get to take that Sadness and Sorrow and truly become the man that you know you can become then your then your your Victory comes it's may be a little bit delayed but it's certainly not least coming and you should be excited by that you need to look that there will be a day where she regrets the decision she made there will be a day where she understands that she [ __ ] up and her life would have been better if she kept me and I'm going to prove it to her

if you were to find the best men on the planet I guarantee they've been through a bunch of terrible things uh and if you listen to podcasts from any of the most interesting people on the planet usually they've been through they've had hard terrible lives and you can use that trauma to become a better person or you can let that trauma consume you and destroy you but I thank God for all of it because it gave me endless power to become the person I am if if you're truly if you're truly angry or truly unhappy

then you can't sleep and if you can't sleep then you get twice as many hours as everybody else