how can i connect with somebody when we don't have the same interests this is a really good question it is a good question and I would like to know the answer yeah so yeah answers so like when I go to a business networking event I have no trouble connection with people because it's usually people who have a like mindset that I have it's pretty similar and even if they're not doing the same kind of business they're interested in business or marketing they're usually into health and fitness like all kinds of stuff so I'm like I'm
in my element I could talk to anybody but if I go to say like a family reunion or a wedding like I know I'm there just because of familiar familial relationships and I don't know like a lot of times I don't know what to say I'm a lot more nervous to go talk to people what do I do yeah you're such a extrovert right oh I'm definitely the opposite the most perverted yeah so I've got some stuff for this that I actually think is useful despite my introverted Ness introversion whatever language is evolving so first
I would challenge the idea that you have nothing in common people are pretty complex and you might not know what you have in common because there are a billion weird things that I like that you're not gonna know maybe you're like oh Martin likes language but you don't know any of the other weird stuff you don't know that I like my mood watch for whatever reason you do now you don't know a lot of stuff so there's that but secondly the an easy way to connect with people is not based on similar interests but your
similar situation sort of an event you've had in common where you're from what you're doing the laziest one is weather which is why it's the default because you know the person has it in common you're trying to find any sort of common ground yeah so are you in an event are you both parents do you both come from poverty do you both they have a brother named Paul for and it's the same brother are you are you sibling so you can connect now third you can connect on shared values like the mindset of caring about
business or anything else you've a use are pretty important not everybody lines up interest wise but we we often have a lot of cultural things we have in common yeah and the other one I think that is actually maybe more important than the rest here is that you do not have to have common ground because you could be invested in them their experiences their interests how do you open your mind to things if you don't talk to people who you don't have as much in common with because they're them they're the people you have the
most to learn from probably as long as you're willing to listen to stuff outside of your wheelhouse yeah and you got to be invested in them and I mean this works for everything it can work for relationships I even found an article that was called my husband and I have nothing in common and that's why our relationship works okay and I would have to point out that in addition to that Ashley and I don't have a whole lot of hobbies income and we have like a few thing we have handful of things in common but
as far as yeah big interests we diverge and that's okay because when she's doing stuff she's excited about I'm excited to hear her be excited about it and I want her to succeed in those things even though I'm never going to be a designer in that sense I don't really care I don't have the patience and I don't know who she's talking about other than the fact that I've slowly learned some of them like I don't care about these people that she looks up to in the same way but I'm excited that she cares about
it she's passionate about it yeah and she cares that I'm she'll listen to me ramble on about some nonsense linguistic words that don't mean anything to her but she's never going to care about it yeah and I know that but she cares that I care you couldn't be invested in the person themselves so a family reunion you gotta actually you got to be like what are you what are you doing uncle I I have no interest in it but I'm interested that you are interested in it they're passionate about something for a reason yep
