Final Update: Brother Hooked Up With My Fiancée & Got Her Pregnant Just Before Our Wedding, So I...

brother hooked up with my fiance and got her pregnant just before our wedding so I broke his face and kicked her out now my parents want me to forgive them but I told them to f off and moved away this is going to be a long one and it's as messed up as it sounds I'll try to keep it as concise as possible but there's a lot to unpack here I don't care if anyone believes this or not it's just so insane that I need to get it off my chest also I'm not going to

sugarcoat anything but I'll avoid any details that could identify me to those who don't already know the situation I'm a 32-year-old guy and up until a few months ago I was engaged to my girlfriend of 5 years we'll call her Sarah my younger brother let's call him Mike is 29 and has always been the Golden Child in our family to really understand the depth of this betrayal and why it's hit me so hard I need to give you some background on my family and how we got to this point growing up Mike could do no

wrong in our parents' eyes while I was constantly criticized and punished for the smallest things this wasn't just typical sibling rival or slight favoritism it was blatant and extreme Mike would break something and I'd get blamed he'd start a fight and I'd be the one grounded if we both got straight A's he'd get a new video game console while I'd get a pad on the back and be told to keep it up our parents let's call them Tom and Linda always had an excuse for their behavior Mike's younger he needs more attention or you're the

older one you should know better or Mike's just more sensitive we have to be careful with him it was a constant barrage of double standards and gaslighting that left me feeling worthless and unloved in my own home as we got older the favoritism only grew more pronounced when I got into a good college on a partial scholarship my parents barely acknowledged it but when Mike decided to go to Community College they threw him a huge party and bought him a car to commute with never mind that I had been biking 5 miles each way to

my part-time job for years I moved out as soon as I could to escape the toxic environment at home I put myself through college working two jobs and taking out loans meanwhile Mike dropped out after a semester claiming College wasn't for him our parents supported his decision fully praising him for knowing himself and not conforming to societal expectations they even bankrolled his series of failed business mentors over the next few years despite the distance I tried to put between myself and my family they always found a way to pull me back in Holiday dinners were

a nightmare of subtle Jabs and not so subtle comparisons oh you're still at that entry-level job well Mike's thinking of starting another business he's so entrepreneurial never mind that I was actually building a stable career while Mike was burning through our parents retirement fund I tried to maintain a relationship with Mike despite everything he was still my brother after all but it was always one-sided I'd reach out try to connect and he'd either ignore me or find some way to turn the conversation into a competition he could win if I got a promotion he'd suddenly

have a big opportunity coming up if I started dating someone he'd miraculously be in a serious Rel relationship too it was during one of my attempts to reconnect with Mike that I met Sarah she was a friend of one of his short-lived girlfriends and we hid it off immediately Sarah was everything i' had ever wanted in a partner smart funny kind and absolutely gorgeous we started dating and for the first time in my life I felt truly happy and valued my parents predictably were less than thrilled they made snide comments about how Sarah was out

of my league and questioned what she saw in me Mike on the other hand suddenly became very interested Ed in my life he'd ask about Sarah constantly wanting to know everything about her at the time I was just happy he seemed to care about something in my life looking back I should have seen the red flags Sarah and I moved in together after a year of dating and things were great we both had good jobs we traveled and we talked about the future I started to feel like maybe just maybe I could have the life

I always wanted a successful career a loving partner and maybe even kids someday I proposed to Sarah on our fourth anniversary it wasn't anything flashy just a quiet dinner at home and a heartfelt speech she said yes and I felt like I was on top of the world we decided to have a long engagement take our time planning the wedding we were in no rush we had our whole lives ahead of us or so I thought when we announced our engagement to my family the reactions were mixed to say the least my mom plastered on

a fake smile and said oh how nice in a tone that suggested it was anything but my dad grunted and said good luck with that before turning back to the tv Mike though Mike's reaction was the strangest he congratulated us but there was something off about his smile something almost predatory I brushed it off at the time chalking it up to my own insecurities the next year was full of wedding planning and work stress Sarah and I were both putting in long hours at our jobs trying to save up for the wedding and a down

payment on a house we didn't see each other as much as we used to but I figured it was just a phase every couple goes through rough patches right looking back I should have noticed notic the signs Sarah became more distant always on her phone smiling at texts from someone she'd quickly say was just a friend from work she started going out more with her girlfriends coming home late smelling of alcohol and cologne but I trusted her completely I never even considered that she might be cheating let alone with my own brother about 4 months

ago Sarah started acting even stranger she was Moody irritable and constantly nauseous I thought maybe she was pregnant and I was thrilled at the idea we hadn't been trying but we talked about wanting kids eventually I started planning how I'd support her imagining Nursery colors and baby names then one night she sat me down with tears in her eyes and dropped the bomb she was pregnant but it wasn't mine I was stunned we hadn't been intimate in a while due to our busy schedules but I never imagined she'd cheat on me when I asked who

the father was she broke down completely and whispered it's Mike in that moment my entire world shattered everything I thought I knew everything I had built my life around Came Crashing Down I couldn't breathe I couldn't think all I could feel was this overwhelming sense of betrayal and loss Sarah tried to explain her words coming out in a rush between sobs apparently it had started at our engagement party Mike had cornered her told her she was making a mistake marrying me he played on her insecurities telling her she could do better that he could give

her everything I couldn't it wasn't just a one-time thing they'd been having an affair for months I kicked Sarah out that night I couldn't stand to look at her couldn't bear to be in the same room is the woman who had betrayed me so completely she begged me to forgive her said it was a mistake and that she loved me but all I could think about was how many times she'd lied to my face how many times she'd been with my brother while wearing the ring I'd given her after Sarah left I called Mike I

don't even remember what I said it was all a blur of rage and pain he tried to play it cool at first saying it was just a drunk mistake and that it didn't mean anything but when I pressed him he got defensive and said well maybe if you'd been a better fiance she wouldn't have come to me I saw red I got in my car and drove to his apartment ready to do something that would make him regret what he said I don't know what I was planning to do but when I got there our

parents were already there apparently Mike had called them first spinning some story about how Sarah had seduced him and how sorry he was and you know what they believed him they always do my mom immediately started lecturing me about forgiveness and family while my dad just stood there with his arms crossed looking disappointed in me of course not in his precious mic I tried tried to explain what really happened but they wouldn't listen they kept insisting that I needed to forgive Mike and support Sarah through the pregnancy because family comes first I lost it ears

of pent up resentment and anger came pouring out I told them exactly what I thought of their Twisted sense of loyalty how they'd always favored Mike at my expense how they'd never once taken my side or supported me I told Mike he was dead to me that he was no longer my brother I told my parents they could have the son they'd always wanted because they no longer had me I stormed out ignoring their shouts and pleas I drove for hours no destination in mind just needing to be away from everything and everyone when I

finally went home I had dozens of Miss calls and messages some were from Sarah begging for another chance some from Mike alternating between apologies and accusations but most were from my parents demanding that I grow up and make amends I ignored them all barely eating barely sleeping I called out of work using all my saved up vacation days I couldn't face anyone couldn't bear the thought of having to explain what had happened I just sat in my apartment replaying every moment of my relationship with Sarah every interaction with Mike trying to see where I'd gone

wrong it's been 3 months now I've moved to a new apartment changed my number and started therapy to deal with all this mess but my family won't let up despite my efforts to cut contact they keep finding ways to intrude on my life they've started showing up at my workplace trying to Ambush me in force a Reconciliation my mom Corners me in the parking lot crying about how I'm tearing the family apart my dad leaves Gruff voicemails about how I need to man up and forgive Mike Mike himself has tried to approach me a few

times but I've managed to avoid him so far they've even sent flying monkeys in the form of extended family members to Guilt Trip me into forgiving Mike Aunts Uncles cousins I haven't spoken to in years are suddenly blowing up my phone telling me how important family is and how I need to let bygones be bygones it's like they're living in some alternate reality where what Mike and Sarah did is just a small mistake not a life-changing one the latest development I got a message from Sarah yesterday she's keeping the baby and wants to co-parent with

Mike and guess what my parents are over the moon about becoming grandparents completely ignoring the circumstances of how it happened and the sned remarks they used to make when Sarah was with me the letter was full of apologies and explanations talking about how she and Mike had found real love through this difficult situation she even had the audacity to say she hoped we could all be friends someday for the sake of the child I'm at my wit's end part of me wants to just cut ties completely and start fresh somewhere else maybe move to another

state change my name build a new life where no one knows about this mess but another part of me is so angry that I want to stay and fight to make them see how messed up this whole situation is I don't know what to do anymore the Betrayal has affected every aspect of my life I can't stand to be alone with my thoughts I haven't even considered dating again the thought of trusting someone like that terrified me I've lost friends over this too people who think I should take the high road and reconcile with my

family as if I'm the one in the wrong for not wanting to play happy families with the people who hurt me the most the thought of Sarah and Mike raising a child together a child that should have been mine is like a constant knife in my gut I know logically that the child is innocent in all this it's not the baby's fault that its parents are lying cheating scumbags but I can't bring myself to have any positive feelings about its existence my parents have started talking about how I need to be involved in the child's

life how I'm going to be an uncle the thought makes me physically ill how am I supposed to look at this kid and not see the ultimate symbol of my brother's betrayal so Reddit I guess what I'm asking is am I the idiot for refusing to forgive my brother and ex fiance am I wrong for wanting to cut ties with my family over this any advice on how to move forward would be appreciated because right now I feel like I'm drowning in a sea of betrayal and gaslighting I know this was long and if you've

read this far thank you just writing all this out has been cathartic in a way I don't know what I expect to gain from posting this validation maybe advice or maybe just the chance to scream into the void and have someone anyone hear me edit holy crap this blew up overnight thank you all for the support and advice I'm overwhelmed by the response and it's going to take me some time to read through all the comments however I wanted to address some common questions one yes I've spoken to a lawyer about a restraining order against

my family it's a in progress two though I'm not planning on having any contact with the baby it's not the kid's fault but I can't be involved without losing my sanity three for those asking about my job I've already spoken to HR about the situation they're aware and supportive they've increased security at the front desk and given me the option to work from home more often I'm grateful for their understanding four many of you have asked if I've considered moving to another city or state it's definitely something I'm thinking about my company has offices in

several other cities so a transfer might be possible I'm weighing the pros and cons five to those suggesting DNA tests Sarah admitted the affair and the timeline matches up I have no reason to believe the child isn't Mike's even if by some miracle it turned out to be mine I'm not sure I could ever look at that child without thinking of this six I've been overwhelmed by the number of people sharing similar stories it's heartbreaking to know how common this kind of betrayal is but it's also oddly comforting to know I'm not alone thank you

all for your vulnerability and sharing seven to the person who asked if I've considered legal action against Mike for alienation of affection I looked into it but unfortunately it's not recognized in my state even if it were I'm not sure I have the energy for a legal battle right now eight several people have pointed out that Mike's behavior sounds narcissistic I've started reading about narcissistic personality disorder and a lot of it rings true it's helping me understand though not excuse some of his actions nine for those asking about Sarah's family there is shocked and disgusted

as you'd expect they've cut contact with her and have reached out to offer their support to me it's a small Comfort but I appreciate it 10 to the person who asked if I've thought about having kids of my own someday honestly this whole experience has made me question whether I want to have a family at all but I'm trying not to make any big decisions while I'm still processing everything I'll update if anything significant happens but for now I'm focusing on healing and moving forward thanks again Reddit you've helped more than you know your support

and advice have given me a lot to think about and have honestly been a Lifeline during this difficult time I may not be able to respond to every comment but please know I'm reading them all and they're helping me feel less alone in this update hey Reddit it's been about 2 weeks since my last post and it's been a complete roller coaster first off thank you all for the overwhelming support and advice I never expected my post to blow up like that and reading through all your comments has been both heartbreaking and oddly comforting it's

messed up how common this kind of betrayal is the past couple of weeks have been intense to say the least remember how I mentioned I was working on getting a restraining order well that turned into a whole ordeal my lawyer submitted the paperwork and we had a hearing scheduled I thought it would be straightforward given the evidence and the constant harassment but I was wrong my parents showed up to the hearing with their own lawyer some fancy guy in an expensive suit who probably charges more per hour than I make in a week they they

tried to paint me as the unstable one claiming I was tearing the family apart over a simple misunderstanding as if Mike accidentally tripped and fell into my fiance the judge thankfully wasn't buying it she granted the restraining order against Mike and my parents but not without my mother bursting into tears in the courtroom and my father glaring at me like I had just committed Slaughter the look on Mike's face though I swear if looks could Slaughter I'd be 6 ft under as we were leaving the courthouse Mike tried to approach me my lawyer stepped between

us reminding him of the newly instated restraining order Mike just sneered and said this wasn't over that I couldn't hide behind a piece of paper forever I'd be lying if I said his words didn't shake me a bit but for now at least I have some legal protection the workplace situation has been another nightmare remember how I mentioned my family had been showing up at my workplace well that came to a head last week I was in a meeting with a client when my assistant buzzed in saying my mother was in the lobby and causing

a scene apparently she brought a photo album and was trying to show my co-workers baby pictures of Mike and me all while sobbing about how her boys used to be so close I excused myself from the meeting and went down to the lobby where I found my mom surrounded by a group of uncomfortable looking co-workers she was in the middle of telling a story about how Mike and I used to take baths together as todlers when she saw me she tried to rush towards me talking about a baby shower but I cut her off I

told her she needed to leave immediately or I'd call the police and have her removed for trust tping and violating the restraining order the look on her face was like I'd slapped her but after everything they've put me through I couldn't bring myself to care security escorted her out and I had to spend the next hour doing damage control with my boss and co-workers thankfully most of them were understanding but I could tell some were wondering what kind of drama I was bringing into the workplace the confrontation with Mike though that's where things really went

off the rails last satday I was at the gym trying to work out some of my anger on the punching B I was so focused on my workout that I didn't notice someone come up behind me until I heard his voice I spun around and there was Mike smirking at me like he hadn't just violated the restraining order he started running his mouth loud enough for nearby people to hear I told him to get out before I called the cops but he just laughed saying he'd tell them how I'd been threatening him and Sarah that's

when I lost it I swung at him my fist connecting with his jaw he stumbled back before lunging at me we ended up on the floor trading blows like we were kids again except this time there were no parents to break us up no one telling me to be the bigger person and let Mike win I got in a few good hits before the gym staff pulled us apart Mike's nose was bleeding and I could feel mine swelling shut we were both yelling trying to break free and get at each other again the gym manager

threatened to call the cops and that finally snapped me out of it I grabbed my stuff and left as I was driving home still shaking with adrenaline I got a call from an unknown number against my better judgment I answered it it was was Sarah screaming at me about how I had broken Mike's nose and he might need surgery I laughed I couldn't help it the absurdity of her being angry at me after everything they'd done was just too much I told her I was sorry if I hurt her little boyfriend the one she'd been

sleeping with behind my back for months she started sobbing then going on about how stressed she was and how the baby could sense her distress and how could I be so selfish I hung up on her and blocked the number The Fallout from the fight was intense news had spread like wildfire through our Social Circle my phone was blowing up with texts from friends and family members some taking my side others calling me names for hitting my poor defenseless brother Sarah's parents reached out again reiterating their support for me and expressing their disappointment in their

daughter it was a small Comfort but at this point I'll take what I can get the restraining order doesn't feel like enough anymore Mike's shown he's willing to violate it and I'm worried about what he might do next the legal aftermath has been a nightmare the day after the gym incident I got a call from my lawyer apparently Mike had filed assault charges against me I explained what had happened how Mike had violated the restraining order how he' provoked me my lawyer sighed and said we'd fight it but it might be an uphill battle given

that I threw the first punch we're in the process of filing our own charges against Mike for violating the restraining order my lawyer seems confident that this will help our case but nothing's certain I've had to give statements to the police show them the bruises on my face and Knuckles it's humiliating having to justify defending myself against my own brother the gym has banned both Mike and me for life I can't say I blame them but it sucks that the gym was one of the few places I felt like I could let out some of

my anger in a healthy way my cousin Amy who I've always been close to called me the other day she's been catching a lot of heat from the family for supporting me but she's standing firm she told me some of what's been going on behind the scenes apparently my parents have been telling everyone that I'm having some kind of mental breakdown they're saying that Sarah and Mike's relationship only started after Sarah and I had broken up and that I'm just jealous and can't let go Amy says a lot of the family isn't buying it but

some are it's infuriating knowing that they're out there spreading lies about me while I'm trying to keep my head down and heal things at work have been to say the least challenging after the incident with my mom in the lobby and the fight with Mike making the rounds on local social media I can tell my co-workers are walking on eggshells around me my boss called me into his office earlier this week he started by saying he values me as an employee and understands I'm going through a difficult time but then he hit me with the

kicker he thinks it might be best if I take a leave of absence until things settle down he said we could call it a personal sabatical if I'd like paid of course I wanted to argue to tell him that work is the only thing keeping me sane right now but I could see the decision had already been made so I agreed thanked him for his understanding and started packing up my office as I was leaving I overheard two of my co-workers Whispering about how my brother had gotten my fiance pregnant I slammed my office door

louder than necessary as I left taking some small satisfaction and seeing them jump I'd be lying if I said all of this wasn't affecting me I've started going on long drives at night just to get out of my apartment sometimes I find myself parked outside my old place the one I shared with Sarah wondering how the hell my life turned into such a mess in all of this chaos I found support from an unexpected Source Sarah's younger sister Emma Emma reached out to me through social media apologizing for her sister's actions and offering her support

at first I was wary what if this was some kind of trick but after talking with her I realized she's just as disgusted by Sarah's Behavior as I am she's been feeding me information about what's going on in Sarah and Mike's World apparently they've moved in together playing house as if they didn't just blow up multiple lives to be together Emma says Sarah's been trying to paint herself as the victim crying to anyone who will listen about how she never meant to hurt anyone and how she and Mike are soulmates who found each other Against

All Odds it makes me sick to my stomach but I'm grateful to Emma for keeping me in the loop knowledge is power after all even if it's knowledge I'd rather not have the social media situation has been another nightmare I've always been a pretty private person but this whole situation has thrust me into an unwanted Spotlight someone I suspect one of Mike's friends posted about our Jim Feud on a local Facebook group The Post didn't use our names but it described the situation in enough detail that anyone who knows us could figure it out the

comment section turned into a Battleground some people were defending me saying Mike got what he deserved others were calling me unstable and saying I need to be locked up I made the mistake of reading through some of the comments one night after a few too many beers a big mistake I ended up throwing my phone across the room hard enough to crack the screen AB since deactivated most of my social media accounts I can't deal with the constant notifications and messages from people I haven't talked to in years suddenly wanting to know all the juicy

details of my personal life with everything that's happened I've realized I can't stay in this city anymore there are too many memories too many chances of running into Sarah Mike or my parents I've started looking into transfers within my company there's an opening in our Seattle office that looks promising it's not ideal I've never been a fan of constant rain but at this point I'd move to the Moon if it meant getting away from all this drama I haven't made any final decisions yet but the idea of a fresh start is becoming more and more

healing new city new apartment New Life a place where no one knows me as the guy whose brother knocked up his fiance my parents have been suspiciously quiet since the restraining order was granted I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop for them to find some new way to try and force their way back into my life Sarah's been spreading the news about her pregnancy far and wide Emma tells me she's been posting constant updates on social media ultrasound pictures belly shots The Works always with a caption about how blessed she and Mike are and

how excited they are to start their family each new piece of information feels like a fresh wound reopening the hurt just when I think I'm starting to heal so that's where things stand now 2 weeks ago I thought my life couldn't get any more messed up but somehow it has I'm still angry I'm still hurt but I'm also tired tired of defending myself so Reddit I guess this is less of an update and more of a I don't know a cry into the void I'm not even sure what I'm asking for at this point advice

sympathy a Time machine so I can go back and never introduce Sarah to my brother whatever happens next I'll try to keep you all updated your support has meant more to me than you can know it's good to be reminded that there are still good people out there even when it feels like my whole world is full of betrayal and lies final update hey Reddit it's been a week since my last update and I'm back with what I hope will be my final post on this whole mess first off I want to thank everyone for

their support and advice throughout this ordeal your words have been a Lifeline during the darkest moments of my life so where to begin a lot has happened in just 7 days and I'm still trying to process it all I guess I'll start with the biggest news I'm moving yeah that's right I took the plunge and accepted a transfer to our Seattle office it wasn't an easy decision but after everything that's gone down I knew I needed a fresh start the decision came after a particularly rough day last week I had just gotten back from another

meeting with my lawyer about Mike's assault charges when I found a letter in my mailbox it was from Sarah at almost threw it away without opening it but curiosity got the better of me inside was an ultrasound picture and a handwritten note talking about how excited she and Mike were about their baby she went on about how she hoped I could find it in my heart to be happy for them and how the baby would love to have its uncle and its life I saw red before I knew what I was doing I had grabbed

my phone unblocked Sarah and dialed her number she picked up on the second ring and I just let loose I told her exactly what I thought of her Mike and their happy little family I told her she was delusional if she thought I'd ever want anything to do with that kid and that as far as I was concerned she Mike and the baby could all go to hell it wasn't my finest moment but I felt like I'd finally said all the things I'd been holding back that's when I knew I couldn't stay in this city

anymore I called my boss that same night and told him I wanted to take the transfer to Seattle he seemed relieved to be honest I think he was worried about how all this drama might affect the company he promised to FastTrack the paperwork and by the next morning it was official I had two weeks to pack up my life and move across the country the news of my move spread quickly through my family and Social Circle my parents predictably were Furious they showed up at my apartment unannounced again violating the restraining order to try and

talk me out of it my mom was crying saying I was abandoning the family while my dad was red-faced and yelling about how I was being selfish and immature I didn't engage I just called the police and had them removed for violating the restraining order as they were being escorted out my mom shouted that I would regret this that family was everything and I was throwing it all away I just closed the door and went back to packing Mike's reaction was different he didn't try to contact me directly probably because of the pending legal issues

but he put up a long post on social media about how some people can't handle seeing others happy and how he and Sarah were Rising above the hate to focus on their new family it was clearly aimed at me trying to paint himself as the victim I'll admit it stung to see how many people liked and commented in support of him but I reminded myself that their opinion doesn't matter they don't know the truth Sarah's reaction was the most surprising after our phone call she reached out to her sister Emma who if you remember had

been keeping me in the loop about what was going on with Sarah and Mike apparently my words had hit home harder than I expected Emma told me that Sarah had broken down admitting that she knew what she and Mike had done was wrong and that she was terrified of the future my cousin Amy bless her offered to help me pack she even told me more about what's been happening with the family Amy told me that my aunt my mom's sister had a big blow up with my Mom calling her out for always favoring Mike and

pushing me away it got pretty ugly with my aunt saying that my mom and dad were reaping what they'd sewn with their years of favoritism I can't say I'm not a little satisfied to hear that someone is finally calling them out on their behavior the legal situation is still ongoing but my lawyer assures me that my move won't affect anything we're still pressing charges against Mike for violating the rest straining order and fighting the assault charges he filed against me my lawyer seems confident that the judge will see through Mike's claims especially given his history

of violating the restraining order the fact that I'm moving across the country should also help demonstrate that I'm not a threat to Mike which might help get his charges dismissed I'm not sure if I'll post any more updates after this part of starting fresh means leaving the past behind and as helpful as this community has been I think it's time for me to step away from rehashing this story I need to focus on building my new life not dwelling on the old one so I guess this is it my final update wish me luck Reddit

I've got a whole new life waiting for me in Seattle and I intend to make the most of it thank you so much for watching till the end if you really like our videos then don't forget to like share and subscribe have a good day