The Absurd Mindset That Changes Everything

this video is sponsored by delete me get your personal information removed from online search results and data Brokers using the link in the description also if you enjoy this video or pursuit of Wonder content in general I think you'll also really enjoy my books the links for them are in the description as well this was Cam and his girlfriend Maria's third time moving to a different city in the last four years this time they were moving to a lively neighborhood called Montrose in Houston Texas this was also the fourth time camera changed jobs in the

prior five years or so he had worked in marketing for an electronics company than Sales Management for a software company than operations management for a Manufacturing Company he had found some traditional success but repeatedly he seemed to find himself in the same spot just unsatisfied enough with his job his trajectory his life to want something else time and time again he felt like he wasn't doing anything impressive or important enough he longed for significance status wealth purpose [Music] Maria worked remotely as a costume designer for a major video game publisher so she had the flexibility

to move basically anywhere in the country she enjoyed her job and planned on staying but like cam she also sought excitement and newness and a greater sense of something else that they could never quite pin down but felt was missing and so she was on board for another move after a couple months of looking and applying for better higher paying jobs in bigger cities cam received a job offer for a business development manager position for a subsea and Space Engineering and technology company in Houston without any hesitation he took it and he and Maria plan

their move now several weeks later they were settling into their new condo and Montrose unpacking and organizing their stuff they brought everything with them the second Monday after moving in was Camp's first day he drove into the industrial park where the business was located walked into the large building and started Anew again after work cam returned home spent some time finishing unpacking then relaxing eating and sleeping this mostly repeated for the rest of the week on that Friday Cam and Maria went out to eat at a new restaurant close to them called marmo after taking

a sip of her drink Maria looked over at Cam and asked so what's the conclusion how the first week go good Cam said just good no no like it's been good fairly typical so far mostly just getting me up to speed on stuff being introduced to people and the culture and goals and all that I've mostly been doing market research reading reports and lots of emails it's different but familiar if that makes sense I'm excited though should be a really great jumping off point for something even better in the future that's awesome babe Maria said

yeah cam responded the rest of the weekend and subsequent week rotated right by similar to the last on the following Saturday while cleaning up the kitchen Maria blurted out to cam oh my God it's endless what the dust I Feel Like We just cleaned this place and it's already filthy again where does all the dust even come from I know seriously cam responded it's an eternal fight against dirt and dust and dirt and dust always win she said with a somewhat humorous tone yeah I guess we must be Dusty Camp said in a similar tone

hey we should go for a walk around the neighborhood a little bit Maria said changing the subject yeah I'm down when do you want to go how about in like 15 minutes sure yeah sounds good I just need to get changed Camp said the two finish what they were doing left their apartment and began their walk around the neighborhood after around 15 minutes they passed by a house with an older man in the front yard he looked like he was perhaps in his 50s or 60s he was digging what appeared to be a large hole

all in a day's work the man suddenly said gesturing his head toward Cam and Maria Cam and Maria waved as they laughed with a sort of tight-lip smile and downward head nod some nice people around here huh Cam said to Maria and a bit of a humorous but sincere tone as they continued past the house yeah love that Maria responded the two walked for another 15 minutes or so and then returned home throughout the rest of the week Cam and Maria began going on walks more regularly they walked all sorts of directions and routes exploring

different pockets of the neighborhood and the city more broadly walking became one of the most enjoyable parts of their day there was no real goal besides enjoying themselves and no real destination besides back where they started a walking habit began to set in amidst their newly forming routine work eat walk clean TV sleep repeat a local activity and a few drinks in a meal at a new restaurant sprinkled in here and there simultaneously the gears of Cam's new job were also beginning to turn the newness became normalness cam liked the job but he had soon

found himself feeling mostly the same as he had at his previous jobs a quiet familiar fear that this new job wouldn't amount to anything that would profoundly satisfy that feeling of something missing that pit began to enter into the back of his mind on the following Saturday Cam and Maria walked the same relative route that they had the previous Saturday around 15 minutes in they approached the same house where the older man had been out front digging to their surprise he was still out front digging it appeared to be the same hole in the same

spot when the man noticed them he looked up all in a day's work Cam and Maria waved while laughing out of their nose with a tight-lip smile but this time their laugh was a bit hesitant and Confused hasn't made much progress huh cam quietly said to Maria as they kept walking yeah I know weird it almost looks like he's less far along Maria said he must have just not gotten a good angle cam replied hmm Maria responded the two continued walking past the subsequent houses what do you think he's taking cam asked who knows maybe

he's looking for something after around another 20 minutes or so the two finished their walk and returned home four days later on Wednesday at around 7 30 PM camo Maria went for a walk the sun had set and the streets were illuminated only by the glow of buildings driveway lights and street lights after around 25 minutes someone under his breath cam suddenly said what the hell he discreetly pointed slightly to the side and in front of where they were walking there was the same older man standing out front of the same house digging the same

hole in the same spot it's like the same size am I tripping cam continued no it definitely looks the same Maria said with a subtle laugh the man looked up all in a day's work he said gesturing his head toward them Cam and Maria didn't laugh still digging Cam said with a half smile and playful but almost concerned tone Oh yeah just getting started the man responded completely thrown off cam responded what what are you digging making a koi pond for my son he turned his head and pointed toward the house behind him Cam and

Maria followed his gaze toward the house all the windows were covered by Shades leaning up against the house Kim noticed another shovel the blade was covered in dirt as they were inspecting the house someone inside pulled one of the window shades back a younger man's face appeared in the small space between the window frame and the shade the man looked out at them holding still for a moment like he was making sure everything was okay he was hard to see backlit and shadowed by the interior of the home then the shade closed both Cam and

Maria redirected their attention back toward the old man who had now resumed digging in synchronization they both realized what they were observing the muscles on both their faces began to slightly droop that's awesome Camp said his voice containing a forced kind of enthusiasm koi fish a symbol of courage and perseverance right he continued I don't know the man said I just like him fair enough Maria added with a laugh well have a good one cam concluded yup you too Cam and Maria continued walking they were silent for a moment Maria's eyes were wide like she

was forcing them open she turned around and looked behind her ensuring they were far enough away oh my God she said that's so sad that literally makes me wanna life is so shitty dude I know Cam said his voice shaking a bit we don't know exactly what's going on though come on cam he probably has dementia or something every day he's just digging that same hole to Nowhere for nothing oh my God her eyes began to water could be like a head injury or brain damage or tumor or something cam added okay so either way

everything we know everything we think and believe everything we are it's all just limited to the clump of paste inside her head destined to shrivel up we're just memories and memories are just brain tissue oh my God I'm done there was a brief silence so what do you think his son or whoever is like refilling the hole every night yeah I guess must be Mario responded Jesus digging a hole every day just for it to be filled up as soon as you finish and then starting again every morning never achieving what you're after your effort's

never really amounting to anything God cam looked around them then he looked down at his feet moving left right left right left right [Music] the two quickly finished their walk not feeling much like continuing or doing anything else a few days later on Sunday Maria was catching up on some work at the apartment cam spent most of the afternoon cleaning organizing watching some TV and walking around the neighborhood by himself at some point out of morbid curiosity he walked by the man's house there he was digging same spot same hole the man looked up noticing

cam who had unintentionally stopped and was now staring at him all in a day's work the man said as he nodded yeah Cam said all in a day's work cam continued standing there for a moment it must have been long because the man looked up again beautiful day isn't it the man said looking up at the sky just gorgeous he seemed completely sincere then he continued digging cam forced a smile and nodded yes yeah it is he said mostly to himself then he continued walking later that night while eating dinner with Maria Cam said maybe

that guy the guy who digs in front of his house maybe he's happy as much as anyone can be at least Maria swallowed her food and looked over at cam maybe she said not so sure about it I want to imagine he's happy at least Camp said what could his imagining it's what's real that matters right yeah I guess you're right he seemed happy to me today though when I walked by oh yeah well that's a nice thought maybe he is maybe because he believes there's hope that eventually he'll finish digging and the koi pond

will be complete I wonder if somehow he could know that it wasn't could he ever be happy then can't pause for a moment Maybe one can accept that truth and maybe accepting that truth in a way conquers it it's not like he's doing anything different either way whether it ends up being finished or not in his head today he's just digging maybe it's all just in our heads what do you mean Maria interrupted maybe even if one knows that by Nightfall their task their project their life will surmount to hopeless and futile efforts endless digging

they can still look around and see that it's a beautiful day they can still be with people they love they can still be present in what they're doing they can still try maybe one simply must try to be happy hmm Maria said I like that she took another bite of her food the next day on Monday cam intently kissed Maria goodbye in the morning and left for work on his drive he observed all the houses and businesses the different architectural Styles the cars and people the patterns the colors the sensations he played one of his

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