Communication Expert: This Destroys Your Frequency & Stops You From Connecting With Others!

we tend to try to manifest things that are external I want this job or I want this career or I want this success but the real power of words are the magic of Transforming Our inner worlds but we never think about how our sounds are shaping the universal side of people wow when you speak into someone's life you're transforming the universe inside of them a mentor to many of the world's top entrepreneurs a life architect world-renowned Arthur he's the founder of Mosaic which is one of most beautiful churches in the world MC in the building

ladies and gentlemen I think it has to begin by paying attention to what you're saying to yourself that you cannot connect to other people if you don't deal with the health of your soul it's not about simply saying the words the words are empty without the frequency words are just sounds because the moment we change the language but we still have the sounds they're just sounds that we give meaning to and those sounds are transmitted to the waves of our voice wow what is it that people are missing that would make them exceptional communicators in

every area of the life if they learned how to do this one thing around what you're saying the way to elevate your frequency is by increasing two things hey guys LS house here and thank you so much for being here I am excited about this I'm a big fan of Irwin mcmanis and this episode is going to provide practical wisdom for anyone looking to improve their ability to connect with other people and attract more fulfilling relationships in your life and the interesting thing is we tend to attract relationships that match our level of self-worth and

this is the key we need to break that pattern so we can create different relationships that unlock abundance in our life that unlock peace that unlock Joy more love more freedom and I want that for you I want you to feel free in every area of your life so if this is your first time here or you haven't yet subscribed please subscribe to our Channel below like this video share it with one friend that you want to see elevated in their life as well and if you're looking to improve the relationship that you have with

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talked about your new book The Seven frequencies of communication and we walked through kind of these each one specifically it was a powerful episode and I want be to watch that in tandem with this and what I want to do with this episode is to see we're going to talk about my core frequencies oh that's going to be fun because I took your assessment which I'll tell people how they can do this but the goal of this episode is to give people the tools on how to use their words and understand their frequencies that are

within them on how to really manifest and attract the loving relationship that they want in their life or just powerful relationships in general whether it's their soulmate a loving partner or the right Partners in their life to elevate what they want in life and so that's that's the direction I want to take with this because I feel like you have such a a wealth of experience wisdom and knowledge from what you teach what you write about but also life experience being married for what is it 40 years four decades now which we talked about this

in previous episodes as well but really marrying these frequencies to love and relationships I think will be an interesting thing you have this um on page 148 of the book again this book's really powerful I want people to get it it's called The Seven frequencies of communication the hidden language of human connection on page 148 you say that your sound waves do not simply send out your thoughts and ideas but your sound waves are an extension of you what does that mean I first started thinking about the anthropology of humans you know when you're really

young you think oh we humans are flesh and bone right we're flesh and blood and then as you be you know progress and begin think about what makes humans and you understand science you go okay this is kind of cool humans are are Earth We're physical we're fire we have an energetic heart we're wind we breathe inhale and exhale we're we're literally the elements Earth Wind Fire and Water where 80% or more water so human beings are literally the four basic elements but if you keep progressing and looking at the human since we are particles

and waves and one of the incredible things about particles is this whole dynamic of um quantum entanglement right that two particles that come together are forever affected by each other no matter how far they're separated which explains why someone who came into your life on your 10 still impact you to this day yeah how they got into you because their particles merged and formed into your particles and you forever affected by that yes and there cellular memory so choose who you bring into your solar system because those particles are going to be part of your

particles forever whether you like it or not Louis you and I are connected for all of eternity I like it and we're part of this universe together it's beautiful but we're not only particles we're also waves and when we think of our words it's almost as if we think of something that is disassociated from us it's out we're we're saying it it's releasing it's gone yeah yeah it's like spit yeah right you know you're swallowing your spit all the time but the moment you spit it out into a glass you would never drink it because

now it's not a part of you interesting yeah but your words never leave you really they are a part of who you are they're an extension of your essence so right now while we're having this conversation we're we're doing a soul share way before there was airb and be we're sharing each other's souls and I'm speaking and I'm going into your soul and you're speaking you're going into my soul and our waves are dynamically affecting each other which is an extraordinary thing and so there are all these um mechanisms of measuring wavelengths and you can

actually see how wavelengths shape different materials they can move sand on a particular kind of metal or um you know you know we can study how um sounds shape the universe but we never think about how our sounds are shaping the universe set of people wow you know there's just something profound when a friend looks at you and says says I love you and and and by the way I do and I I can say without any restraint I love you and those words they don't simply stop between you and me those words are transferred

from me to you and they connect us forever yeah and there's something really powerful in that and I I actually think it's because we're U divinely created you know and you know being a person who um is really shaped by the scriptures and how Genesis talks about everything being created by God speaking and God speaks and the ways of God's voice creates the universe and that we're created in that image and likeness and that we speak and we create universes as we speak and also the I guess the words and the sound or the tone

of our words combination it's the word and the the frequency of the word the sound uh can connect us but also you could take that and it could connect you to others through someone else right it's like if you're transmuting something into someone else speaking life into them as God did to us that person you could be the Ripple where they could speak it into others too that's right because humans understand frequencies before they understand language because when you have an infant they cannot speak English right right they do not speak Korean they do not

speak Spanish they speak frequencies interesting so when you look at that little baby and you say I love you that baby is absorbing the frequency of your words and then attributes the meaning to the words words are just sounds you see because the moment we change the language but we still have the sounds they're just sounds that we give meaning to and those sounds are transmitted to the way W of our voice we have a power that's emitted when our breath passes through our lips wow how can we start to Anchor ourselves to speak with

more positive frequency and do the words we say matter or how we say the words matter more they're both important I think that languages both Art and Science it's you know it's both poetry and Pros right and if you want to be a master Communicator be careful about how you say it but be more careful about the texture of what you said funny thing years ago I was in Germany speaking to about 5,000 people and I have this translator and I know I'm saying I'm going to say something very controversial and Germans are very stoic

you know and uh uh very Orthodox in their approach toward things and halfway through my talk I make the statement and my translator translates for me and I stop him and I said wait a minute you did not say what I just said and he said what and I said you did not say what I just said you translated what I said but you changed it he goes you don't speak German I said that's not the point did you say what I said or did you change what I said this is front of 5,000 people

and he said I um I I changed what you said ah I didn't agree with it no way and he goes but what I want to know is how could you know frequency it was frequencies wow I could tell he changed his frequency instantly yeah something about the way he looked at you or the way he like I wasn't even looking at him I'm looking at the audience just his tone literally the tone changed oh wow and he thought it was impossible for me to translate it but when you translate frequencies not just words it

changes everything the interpretation of it was different yeah interesting and even if you take this to a really basic level I don't know if you have a dog two cats you have two cats all right this doesn't work with cats cats don't have a human fragrancy the dog can feel it because they're like happy or they're like sad right well dogs don't speak English no right they just speak frequencies and so you can look at your dog and if you keep the same frequency and change the words they'll do exactly what that frequency tells them

good boy or bad boy bad boy you're the ugliest dog you're horrible but you're saying lovingly they're going be happy that's right and so we we recognize there's a connection even with other animals that's frequency driven but we think it's actually language driven and it's not yeah there's a few things that you talk about that I think are really interesting and I want to share a few of these things but you talk about words and frequency and there was a line somewhere that you said words are as close to Alchemy as we could ever come

and words are magic and I'm curious what does that mean when it comes to figuring out how to attract someone we care about we're interested in we want to build a relationship how to use words and frequency that we have with our voice to attract a quality relationship I love that question the subtitle of the book is the hidden language of human connection yes and for me the ultimate goal is connection communication is the process to connection and so if I only help people communicate better I I don't think I would find the level fulfillment

that this book is bringing to me because what I really want to see is people connect at a deep level at a deep human level at a level of intimacy and um and understanding and uh place where people are seen and see others and it's and it's really really true when you talk about intimate interpersonal relationships with a wife or a partner or someone you love deeply and the longer you're together the more you really need to learn the nuances of human communication and connection I've been married 40 years and believe me if all I

heard was what Kim said we would not have made it wow and if all she hears what I say it's not going to get us where we need to go because we're we are all saying so much more than our words but that phrase when I talk about that words are as close to Alchemy as we'll ever get is that I I I I really do pay attention to the language in our culture on manifestation on manifesting things and and I think where sometimes for me it feels a little bit off and where it could

really move into a zone of transformation is that we tend to try to manifest things that are external you know I I I I want this job or I want this career or I want this success but the real power of words are the magic of Transforming Our inner worlds that when you speak into someone's life you're transforming the universe inside of them and I think sometimes we underestimate the power of our words in the way they shape The Human Experience you know when you're five or six years old and someone tells you that you're

worthless those words shape the universe inside of you or when someone looks at you and tells you that you're special that you're loved that you're valued that explodes inside of the universe inside of you and when I begin to realize that my words have so much power that it can actually reshape the the universe inside of another human being I realize that is alchemy I I can create a a space for Hope For Joy for meaning for intention um for even as superficial as it sounds happiness because so much of what people are searching for

in the external world is is actually only found in in our internal world yes yes man that's probably yeah so you were saying that if Kim you wouldn't have made it if you were only listening to her words is that what you said that's right and so words have a frequency from my understanding absolutely and also there's a frequency that's underneath the words as well right well we have a frequency uh and language is the mechanism through which we pass or transmit those frequencies wow it's and and so when one person says I love you

can create a very different frequency than when someone else says I love you right or love you and and even when you're looking at the different frequencies that we've identified the book when a person has one particular frequency when they say the same thing it doesn't create the same resonance when someone says it with a different frequency why is that I mean why is that and how do we tap into a frequency within us that has a greater impact on ourselves when we speak but also on others when we speak I think it's because we

haven't developed the full toolbox of human connection and human communication that we end up with a primary frequency and it becomes our dominant frequency and so we end up using the frequency all the time in every situation and Le let's say if you're a commander and that's your dominant frequency and you're also a CEO of a company and so your commander frequency is absolutely bringing you incredible success you know exactly what to do you know how to be directive you are very utilitarian with your language and then you go home and you try to use

that Commander frequency in your marriage yeah or even worse than that you use that Commander frequency with your eight-year-old daughter and it's completely utilitarian it doesn't connect at a deeply um visceral level where that person feels valued and loved and accepted and one of the things I really try to do when someone has a commander frequency by the way my wife's primary frequency is Commander really and um and my son Aaron his primary frequency is Commander so I'm surrounded by two commanders I never lack for clarity about what I should do with my life do

this do this yeah yeah but you have to be to be able to hear the nuances behind the command uhuh what happens so many times is that a person is a commander and they love someone deeply but they're with you day after day week after week month after month year after year and in their mind I told you I loved you in 2016 right why do I need to say it again yeah why do I need to say it again it's so utilitarian wow for me to have to waste that language again yeah I told

you once a year every year Christmas I tell you I show you yeah I show you by paying the bills I I show you by cooking for you I I I show you that I love you why do I have to find the frequency that resonates at a deep level that let you know I mean it because it's not about simply saying the words the words are empty without the frequency what is it that people are missing that would make them exceptional communicators in every area of their life if they learned how to do this

one thing around where you're saying well in the book I talk about the way to elevate your frequency is by increasing two things empathy uhhuh and authenticity yeah and so I would say do two things learn um how to see life from another person's perspective step into someone else's not their shoes step into their soul experience how they are experiencing the world for me that's really the power of empathy yes empathy is sharing someone's soul with them and seeing the world through their experience their emotions their perspectives and and it's a beautiful thing and so

empathy is about seeing the other person but authenticity is about allowing other people to see you and so part of the journey is not just empathy it's authenticity it's helping people see you for who you really are helping them understand your deep emotional texture and context for life and when you grow in authenticity and grow in empathy your frequency moves to toward its highest level say that one more time when you grow in empathy and authenticity your frequency grows to its highest level and so a part of when you ask how do you learn how

to use what frequencies is you pay attention you listen to the room you listen to people how do you do this in a marriage after 40 years when you know you have memories and I don't know you're similarities of the same things and events happening over and over how do you continue to tap into the frequency that is needed for your partner to feel seen loved and heard and accepted as opposed to leaning into a dominant frequency where they don't feel as appreciated it's so important to see the opportunity to express unconditional love to someone

one as a gift not that you're the gift to them but you getting to express that is in a sense a gift to them and a gift to you just a small thing I don't know why maybe it's because my wife is a farm girl from North Carolina but food is Central to our life uh and when she cooks she literally waits for me to comment on everything she's cooked yeah and sometimes I just don't want to comment want to eat ity I just want to eat it and and there have been times over the

years while I will say to her can you at least give me a chance to taste it CU she how is it I don't know I taste it you know it looks great and and even if she doesn't cook it if she buys it at the store and she picked that pie she wants to know that that pie was incredible was it a good pick for me yeah and even recently having been married 40 years I don't know how many meals we've eaten together over the years I told myself it gives her Indescribable joy to

hear I love this it costs me nothing for someone who's been through a devastating breakup in a relationship or maybe they've had just kind of heartbreak after heartbreak in relationships how can someone use what you've created here and use their words and frequencies to manifest love even if they've experienced so much pain and disappointment in relationships that's a really Nuance question because what happens when you're going through pain is you're in great danger of moving toward your shadows what does that mean every frequency has a shadow frequency and just like every human being is on

a spectrum of you know their best self and their lesser self and so the the shadow of the motivator is the performer the shadow of the Challenger is the manipulator wow the shadow of of um the commander is the dictator the shadow of the professor is the diminisher the shadow of the healer is the cipher the shadow of the Seer is the perfectionist and then the shadow of the maven is the neist and so you have to realize that whatever your core frequencies are you have a natural tendency when you're in pain when you're struggling

with let's say forgiveness or bitterness or anger or despair to move into your shadow and so you begin to communicate from that shadow even though you're unaware of it is because when people ask me how do I get rid of my shadow I go no your Shadow is not out there your Shadow isn't here and the only way you can get rid of your Shadow is choosing forgiveness rather than bitterness choosing love rather than hate choosing hope rather than despair so it's the it's the material of your soul that actually changes your frequency and moves

you from Shadow to light so when someone I mean you can use me as an example I was in many relationships that I I felt they were right maybe or felt like maybe they had potential and I stayed in them for a long times tried to make them work but then they went to work out and it be a lot of pain then I'd repeat the cycle you know kind of all through my 20s and and 30s right if someone has gone through kind of breakup after breakup what is it inside of them that's missing

for them to be able to really create that harmonious match in someone else where there's more an alignment where there's more in the right I don't know the right vision for what they want to create in a relationship so they don't have to go through the same pattern of breakup and pain over and over again yes we tend to match ourselves with a person that matches our own selfworth wow man so if you have a low self-worth you're going to keep dating someone that validates that low self-worth and you're going to end up in a

toxic relationship and then you end up with a terrible breakup and it's going to reinforce your your sense of lack of self-worth your lack of worthiness that's right yeah and so that relationship is not there actually to elevate you to a higher level of selfworth it's there to validate your low belief in yourself gosh so the only way you can move into a healthy relationship and I've known you for a few years now I I I feel like you've changed I thought you were incredible when I met you I mean you were already to me

one of the most extraordinary human beings ever known but I do think that you are not the same person yeah I feel different and who you are with Marta is is not just a reflection of what an extraordinary human being she is I think it's actually an expression of how you've grown as a human being yeah to recognize your worth and worthy of more yeah 100% and at the same time you're able to have that relationship because she's a pretty self-actualized person and and she's looking for someone that matches her own sense of self yeah

does that make sense 100% yeah and so I think if you keep going back to toxic relationships you have to realize they're just a symptom of what's actually working inside of you what's going on inside of you and if you can deal with the toxicity in your own soul your self-loathing your lack of self-worth um those inner voices that told you that um you're not worthy of Love whatever it may be and when if you can deal with that inner turmoil you can actually be ready for a better better relationship it's so interesting because when

I was in these experiences of pain and breakup and doubts you know should I be in this relationship should I not be in this relationship in the past uh and you know months of being single in between relationships and just like ah what's going on with my life I wasn't thinking consciously like am I worthy but looking back I see how unworthy I was unconsciously I guess and how I attracting relationships because I I guess I didn't really believe I was I wanted something beautiful and great but I didn't think I was either ready or

deserving of it right at that moment right think about if you're living in your shadows why would you ever choose to date someone living in their light yeah because their light would simply reveal your shadows so if you're living in your shadows you look for someone living in their Shadows right to match you that's right wow it's more safe it is and it does doesn't expose you right and hopefully your Shadow is not as dark as them so you're you know you're a little more like yeah yeah but that's why ends up moving toward a

toxic relationship because yeah you ever realize the person that you love so much at the ends sees you in such a Negative view they they see the worst of you yeah and they let you know everything that's wrong with you I've heard that many times yeah and everything they're saying to you are the very things you believed about yourself before you started dating them yes true and now they're validating what you were already telling yourself about yourself and that's why you have to have the conversation with you before you can have a different conversation with

someone else absolutely it's almost like I needed to I don't know if kill is the right word but I needed to mend and heal the old version of me to alchemize into someone new internally whether that's letting go of an old version or alchemizing and healing the old version to the new however I want to talk about it but it was like I we had to step into a new identity yes and either heal the old identity into an upgraded version letting it go whatever it might be I needed to do that in order to

attract a relationship where I felt peaceful because I never felt peace and I think a lot of people listening or watching who have been struggling in relationships they feel like anxiety in their relationship so how can we learn to I guess the first part of that question how can we learn to Anchor ourselves to be more empowered to both speak with power with the word the actual words but then speak with frequency energy and marry the two like how can we start to believe we are either deserving or confident or wise enough to be able

to marry the two at the highest level of frequency in relationship but also in all relationships to begin with you need to pay attention to the frequency with which you speak to yourself yeah pay attention to what you're saying to you because if you're not kind to yourself you will not be kind to others you don't express empathy to toward yourself you will not express empathy toward others when you see someone who's an angry person towards others what do you see in them a person who hates thems yeah interesting yeah they're they don't know the

world so they can't be angry with the world they're angry with themselves yeah so true and what do they need to trans form that they actually need to forgive themselves cuz they've been what blaming or shaming or feeling guilty about something or maybe they did something that they can't get pasted and they can't forgive themselves for and or maybe something happened to them when they were young that wasn't their fault but they took the blame for it and so they they don't realize that instead of choosing to be a victim you see there's some people

who choose to become victims but some people just choose become violent right and their way of avoiding being a victim is to become violent and they become violent in their words their emotions it doesn't always have to be physical and and so I think it has to begin by paying attention to what you're saying to yourself and that you cannot connect to other people if you don't deal with the health of your soul right you have to find a way to get rid of the toxic emotions that destroy you like bitterness and anger and jealousy

um what whatever they may be in your life you're not going to live your life connecting to people that are deeply human human level if you can't even connect to yourself and and it's it's one of the things I think for me is really freeing is that I'm not free because I found Perfection and I'm not free because I even live up to all my ideals I I I'm free because I don't expect myself to be perfect interesting yeah and I've I've just learned to forgive myself for my inadequacy when did you get to that

that place like how old were you or what season of Life wow I mean I was in a psychiatric Chair by the time I was 10 years old in in and out of a hospital for months and I had not learn that then and I think in high school I was still trying to figure out how to create value so that I could be loved and you'd try through Sports and all these other different mechanisms Sports yeah I think I was in in college and I was a philosophy student and I still um I I

was really struggling with is there any meaning to life and does my existence have any value do I matter and and and for me it was a part of a of a of a faith journey and and and you know everyone has to find you know their way to find meaning in life but for me it was unexpected I was not on a faith Journey not consciously or even unconsciously I don't think yeah you know I was just trying to make sense of my life and to find a reason to get up in the morning

and I struggle with depression I I struggle with self-loathing and and the idea that God existed and that he saw me and that I had infinite value was something that was really meaningful for me I I say to people look if this I if God didn't exist I would have to have created him just to survive right right you know uh just to find um a reason to wake up in the morning to go my life actually matters and and in that was this whole concept of Grace that I'd never understood and it was you're

just absolutely accepted and so you don't have to earn your worth you just start from your worth and then you just live yes and it transformed me where you know I just I just just believed it I just accepted the fact that I had value that I mattered that I was completely loved and then life was like a bonus game wow I don't have to live my life to prove my worth I don't have to live my life to earn being loved I don't have to live my life to to prove I I have value

and that I have a right to exist I just accept it yeah and then life just becomes this beautiful adventure fun it just becomes fun and I sometimes I feel guilty in fact I I posted a story today and and someone's upset well you know because I was too happy and they said you're not being sensitive to all the unhappiness in the world yeah the suffering and and and I'm like I just don't want to apologize that I wake up in the morning and I'm so excited about being alive so true every I mean it

doesn't mean there's not challenges or adversities that I that I face from time to time even before you were here today I was going through some challenges with business stuff and some frustrations but I wake up and I walk outside and I just put my arms up to say thank you God for this beautiful day and everything you've given me I'm so grateful and blessed I'm just like man it's like such a gift yeah and I think about this stat that 150,000 people die every day in the world but we're not one of them today

today we're not one of them and that alone is a gift like uh that's a reason to find Joy even if things aren't going well even if you're going through a horrible breakup even if you're not happy with the government even if someone cheated on you lied to you stole from you hurt you abandon abandoned you abused you what a gift to be alive yeah you know it's not enjoyable I'm not saying I like stay in that space But still man what a gift an opportunity and should we feel guilty like you said should you

feel guilty to be grateful like the things that we get at this day to be alive yeah I I think it's um it's an interesting tension everyone wants to have a common experience but the only common experience we can have is misery why is that because we all experience pain so that's the one thing we all have in common but we need to elevate and go yes we all experience pain but we can all experience joy we can all experience fulfillment it just takes more intention every negative emotion comes easily every positive emotion takes work

if God created us to be good why does every negative emotion come easily and being good or experiencing Joy takes work yeah because we think that God's um intention is to make everything easy and and I don't think that that's even on God's agenda uh goodness should not be easy why there's nothing in life that's worth anything that's easy you're you're the face and voice of the school of greatness is there any aspect of greatness that comes easy depends on someone's definition you know just some for some people's definition of greatness it might be you

know being alive and living a decent life right it's like just being here is greatness it depends on someone's definition but for my definition I don't think there is I think you've got to be willing to overcome yourself constantly and that's hard work you've got to be willing to make better decisions every day than the tempt The Temptations that might seem easy all right you're getting married to the most amazing human being of the world but the relationship isn't easy no takes intention takes effort takes Focus there nothing worth anything in life that is easy

it took my whole life to be able to get to this point you know to to get to a beautiful relationship a whole life of sadness and suffering and effort and work like and and healing and growth to get to a place where I feel peace like you have to fight for peace yeah even peace despair is easy hope takes intention hate is Easy Love Takes intention war is easy peace takes intention every ideal expression of being human is hard we have to fight for it we have to long for it and the best version

of you doesn't come easy yeah it's something you have to fight for in the last 40 I guess 40 plus years since you you found this faith for yourself yeah where you started to find an ability to forgive yourself not hate yourself not look at yourself poorly um what has been the biggest challenge you faced since finding love forgiveness and Grace I think for me my biggest challenge is has been this need to live a life that other people think I should live it's living a life of obligation rather than a life of intention no

matter how much you accomplish in life there's someone who's always strangely unhappy with your life have you noticed that and and typically some someone who's close to you somehow yeah and I I I've I've always wanted to um to please the people in the in in in my life I I wanted to earn their respect to earn their love and and one of the things I had to just figure out in my life is you cannot live your life of you know live a life of obligation you can't live for other people you can't live

for their opinions you can't live for their approval you just have to know your own intention and live your life with that purpose and let the chips fall where they may how do you how does someone listening or watching plan to have a beautiful romantic relationship without trying to live up to the obligation of their partner and what they want from that relationship how can you do both want to live life on my terms but also I want to make sure my partner's happy too I it's not really about living life quote on your terms

it's living life with a clear intention for who you are there's someone who will love who you're Bec coming not just who you are and I want to yeah I I I want to encourage people to not to find the person who loves you for who you are but loves you for who you're becoming because when they love you for who you're becoming they can see the depth of who you are yes they can see your motive they can see your intention they can see your desire and and so when you fall short of it

they're not disappointed in you because they didn't see you as perfect they saw you as progressing they're the ones that actually pull you up and say no no this mess up this isn't who you are this is a hiccup it's not who you are get back up yeah and that's what you want you want that person who's who loves who you're becoming and they've refused to give up on your becoming interesting not just who you've become yeah that's why a lot of marriages don't work when someone's already famous or rich or successful they love who

you've become They Don't Love who you're becoming interesting but when you marry and your both in the struggle together you see who you're becoming that that's the great Advantage I have I married Kim when I was 25 years old I I my average income for about 10 years was around $88,000 a year we slept on the floor because I couldn't afford a bed and we were so happy and she wasn't always happy with the situation we were in right but she could see that I was becoming someone and I could see she was becoming someone

and we were so happy to get to become together yeah and do you still feel like you it sounds like that's been a challenge for you is is like living up to the obligations and trying to gain the respect of others around you do you feel like you've broken free of that lately or where you at in your life right now it's interesting because for me lisis it was because um when I became a person of faith I never wanted to do anything that would discredit Jesus so we I was maybe trying to talk around

that just a little bit you know when I saying not living a life of obligation I I was just always so concerned that I would make a choice or do something that I would dis dis dishonor or or discredit who Jesus is because my faith in him is so deep and and so profound in that but I know that I I'm not adequate to express him well or maybe perfectly and so I was I always live with that concern how do I live up to this Perfection that I can never live up to yeah because

I'm Not Jesus yeah of course you know but people expect you to be right and so there's always like this tension and then frankly I I I have this I don't know this tool of skills or gifts or abilities I'm just really good at like starting companies I'm I'm a really good entrepreneur I'm actually really good of creating wealth and I always held myself back because I didn't want people to think my faith was insincere because suddenly I had success or suddenly I had this so so much of my work work in in the business

world I had to do secretly and privately quietly as a partner yeah yeah yeah because I didn't want to hurt my reputation and what people thought about my faith but now I'm 66 and I'm like I just want to enjoy my life and I want to have the Maximum Impact I'm going to write books and start companies and create massive impact and let people decide who they want whatever they want because I I've lived in that constraint of obligation you know wow far more than I should have right do you feel like this is a

new thing in the last couple years then for you I I think in the last decade I've been moving more and more in that direction and it has you know propelled me into the business space far more and propelled me into Worlds that I just love being in and I I actually love being in a world with people who are are scientists I love being in the world people are atheists I love being in a world where people you know are are really significantly impactful business bus people I I have a lot of friends that

you know like you who are the best in the world at what you do I enjoy investing in the top 1% of achievers in the world and that's actually where I make my greatest contribution it's kind of weird because my skill set is thinking it's it's a strange skill set yes but when I'm in a room I can help even the best people in the world think at a higher level and I had to just sort of accept at some point oh that's kind of like the gift I was given and and it took me

a long time to accept that because it feels like a strange thing to say sure that you know that what I can do is I can help you see yeah things that you can't see yeah that's powerful what is it that you think God has been trying to say to you that you've been resisting for the next level of your life the next level of abundance Freedom Peace Love Harmony is there something that the is but but it's just hitting me that it it feels like um uh I have to keep going back to the

same chair with God because I I it was probably 30 years ago I was invited to this um leadership event with a handful of people around the world and they were all pastors and they gave all all of us these assessments and they all came the same came out exactly the same and I came out completely different all these other pastors or all these other pastors they were like world leaders yes and um you know emerging and I went off to this little bridge in the mountains North Carolina and I laid on the bridge and

I said God why would you ask me to do this if I'm not shaped the right way and and I and in my own time of reflection what I heard was if I wanted it done the same way I would have called the same kind of people I think what I'm hearing again in my life is a buckle up I'm going to do the unexpected in you and through you and you just need to be ready for the unexpected wow and so it's strange I know I'm supposed to be retiring right you know I'm I'm

I'm 66 I should be you know Landing the plane I think I'm just taking off for the first time and I'm more excited about my future than I've ever been in my entire life I feel so free to be me so free to be fully alive and every time I do something like that it sets a lot of people free when I became a fashion designer you can know how many people around the world told me I didn't know I had permission to be a fashion designer when I went you know and decided to be

an artist and work in other spaces and film whatever I had people all over the world saying the fact that you had the courage to do that gave me the courage to do that and every time I take on some ridiculous Endeavor and do something new I know I'm actually breaking down barriers for other people not just for me and that for me is so exciting yeah because the future needs the best version of all of us it needs this Fearless you know just insanely committed to create something beautiful and extraordinary version of each one

of us and and that's why I love your theme the school of greatness because we can all measure greatness differently but what I do know is the world needs the best version of you and that that's how you make the world better 100% wow so you feel like you're going back to this chair 30 years ago you need to keep revisiting that and know that and accept the fact that you are different you are unique than the others and to set yourself free is that kind of what you're hearing him say or it it is

it's you know you don't have to be like anyone's ever been there are no rules that you have to follow there there you know I'm I I want you to go down a path where there are no steps and it's okay just be you and trust me and I and that's what I would say to people you know God did not create you to be like everyone else he created you as a unique beautiful extraordinary human being and that path it should be a path that has never been a walked before what do you think

people need to hear from God who are watching and listening about their love in their life and what's possible for them to experience love to receive love and to give love yeah I I think it's just you matter if if you if you just for one moment embrace the possibility that in the midst of this infinitely expansive universe that there is a God who designed it all and that he actually sees you and and I always tell people you you know the worst thing in life is the wrong kind of love affair where you love

someone but they don't love you back when people say oh well God is love I go that's only partially good news because if God is loved but he doesn't love you it's not great news what makes us really profound is that you're one of what eight billion people on this planet and God sees you intimately specifically and created you for a relationship with him that is a relationship of love and acceptance and that and for me that is extraordinary and that God imagines the extraordinary potential inside of you that God isn't looking for us to

come to him so we can all conform he's actually looking for us to come to him so he can unlock us and unleash us wow then what do you think is the main thing that is blocking people from their abundance in life right now well I mean the first word comes in my mind is fear and because we're designed humans whether we believe in God or not are designed as Faith creatures no other animal perceives the future we're the singular species on this planet that perceives the future so what that does is it creates this

Dynamic space or this tension yes because we perceive the future so now we have to imagine it either negatively or positively and so when we talk about perceiving the future positively that's faith but when we perceive the future negatively that's fear and the moment you perceive the future through fear you're paralyzed and so I think what people need more than anything else is to realize that um fear is the emotion that lets you know your designed for the future so I I turn every negative emotion into a positive fuel in fact that's one of the

things that I worked on so much in my shift is how to take negative emotions negative material and turn it into positive material positive Fuel and so I look at fear whenever I'm afraid I go oh this is my brain tells me telling me the future has a possibility that's too big for me right now so I need to just step into it courageously we grow to size uhhuh and our future isn't designed to be as small as we are right now we grow to size when you step into a bigger future you grow to

it yes and and so I just tell people look don't let fear paralyze you let fear inform you that this is the direction you should go you should be leaning into that that's right courageously yeah how does someone have faith though in a future they can't see that is not here yet right if you can't see it you don't need Faith so you only need faith for a future you can't see that's the very definition of Faith but here's the difference when you see the future static something that exists that you have to step into

that's how you can get paralyzed the future is dynamic do you know where the future comes from past I don't know your mind the future comes from within you you're not stepping into the future you're creating the future humans have this interesting capacity silkworms create silk bees create honey beavers create dams but humans create Futures wow every moment of Our Lives we're creating Futures every choice we make is creating a future if you realized the question isn't can you create the future the question is what kind of future will you create yes when you're informed

by fear you create a a cocoon that tries to protect you from the Future IT traps you in the past and which is interesting because Solomon says there's nothing new Under the Sun which is completely wrong it's completely right when you're trapped in your fear there's nothing new into the Sun but when you're free now you get to create the new so what's interesting in the same book the Bible where Solomon says there's nothing new Under the Sun is the quote in Isaiah where God says behold I'm doing a new thing but will you even

see it and so I go all of us have a choice to to make we can either live like Solomon where life is meaningless and there's nothing new Under the Sun or we can live in a relationship to the creator of the universe where we get to create with him because all things are becoming new which for me Easy Choice that's beautiful yeah so much good stuff here but I know you got to catch a plane here so I want to be mindful of this um I want people to get the book Seven frequencies of

communication the hidden language of human connection and again we're speaking about uh in this book people are got to learn about what their core frequency is they can actually take an assessment that we spent two years developing and they can go to our website and uh get a a code and take the assessment and they will give you your top three communication frequencies yes because I I want people to see in a sense that Triad so they don't see themselves as a singular frequency now they may not have developed and really accessed those other frequencies

well but that's what this process is for to help them grow yes and so you'll learn what your frequency is you we'll have the link up to the assessment as well in the show notes um you can learn what your frequencies are what the shadow side is for you and also how to overcome that and step into the more uh light version of your frequency and also how to tap into the different frequencies so you can really the more you can master all of them the more you can impact people around you understand them and

have the empathy like you said and be more authentic like you said what it was needed to have a greater impact and connection with someone absolutely so you'll learn that through this process very powerful again you'll find out which one you are motivator Challenger Commander healer Professor Seer and what Irwin is the maven should be Maverick you know is it kind of similar like a Maverick or no is it like no no it's a little a little different little different okay cool not that you're a Maverick yeah right exactly uh so make sure you guys

get a copy of the book get a few for your friends as well Irwin mcmanis dcom is where you can get a lot of the other stuff and that'll be linked up to the book and everything else um if you're in LA go to uh the church it's an amazing Church M check it out and um if you want to have more inspiration Community Connection you can check that out on Sundays or you can watch a live stream also wherever you are in the world where do people go to watch that live stream uh I

think they just go to our Mosaic app and they get live stream anywhere in the world okay cool and there's churches also in different locations yeah and we're going to be in New York in November we're going there once a month and we also have a campus in London in Mexico City and then in Kito Ador so okay very cool but also the main uh there's a live stream also the main church here in all over the place so check that out that'll be linked up as well Mosaic um how else can we be of

service to you Erin oh um wow what a great question leis you are a a um a genuinely wonderful human being and a great friend appreciate it and I'm just I'm just so grateful to get to have this conversation I I really believe we can have a a revolution of human connection and communication when we look at all the division and vital language during the election and the campaigns we realize that most of the models we have for communication are so negative yeah and that I I I I just think the greatest thing we can

do right now is help people learn how to hear each other and connect at a deep human level so that's what you're doing here getting the word out of the book and and helping people connect here that's the greatest thing you can do from here and awesome we had another interview we did I think it was like a year and a half ago maybe where we we talked about each one of these when I first was designing it and so you guys we'll have that linked up as well you guys can check that out and

um you talk about your three truths and your definition of greatness there so I'll have people go listen and watch there to get that answer but I'm curious um if uh if you could go 10 years in the future you you say you're 66 now if you can go 10 years in the future and your six 76 year old self was sitting in front of you and he could give you one piece of advice on what you need to do From This Moment until the next 10 years if you could see into the future what

you're able to do what is the message that your 76 year old self would tell you well the first thing comes to my mind is um this interesting phrase we were in Malawi we're about to go meet the president of the country had this um young malawian named blessings and he was panicking he was really nervous and we were going to that room with the president cuz my wife had been working there for almost 10 years building schools and helping the country and I looked at this guy and I said um you belong in the

room and he looked at me and I said when you walk in the room you need to remember you belong in the room and it's it's a phrase I had to learn for myself because every time your life gets bigger you feel like you're a complete poser you're an impostor and the little voice in your head says you don't belong in this room interesting and so I think my 76 year old friend would say to me Irwin um new rooms are opening and every time you walk in just remember you belong in the room oh

may I got chills that's beautiful you belong appreciate you thanks brother love you too thank you very much you thank you so much for being here I hope you got some value from this episode as much as I did if you did please please do me a favor and click the like button right now if you like this it's going to help share it out into the YouTube world even more for us please click that like button and leave a comment below on your biggest takeaway or if you have any questions that you want me

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I've been searching for or um this gives language