Casually Explained: Breaking The Ice

if you're like me you never get approached by girls unless they're selling cookies and beyond that unless you're really attractive famous or have a puppy it's all on you to break the ice with someone you might be thinking wow that sounds unfair what kind of double standard is this but remember don't hate the player hate the game which I do the good news is that because it's hard that means if you're good at it you really have a big step up on the people who refuse to try remember when you're approaching someone if you're just

not weird you're doing better than 95% of people but as they say easier said than done let's say you see a girl at a bar and you want to go talk to her you think uh maybe I should walk by to see if I hear anything in the conversation that might imply she's single or maybe I should get my friend to spill a drink on her friend so she'll be alone and I can swoop in ask yourself what would a not- weird person do probably go up to her and say hey I thought you were

really cute I wanted to come talk to you what's your name you probably won't catch a response the first time cuz you forgot to breathe and might be having an aneurysm this is normal just sit tight and wait for the alcohol to give you a personality so what if you're at school or work and there's someone you have a big crush on but you're worried about messing it up cuz you're still going to see them nearly every day you might be thinking I'll just play it cool hope we get put in the same group at

some point and I can scope it out or maybe I should just walk up to her and say she looks exactly like my really hot sister ask yourself what would a not weird person do that's right keep up the good work now it's not a bad idea to have a few go-to openers if you're in the same environment all the time I think pickup lines are pretty dumb cuz they're really just jokes but if I'm in the gym one of my go-tos is damn nice glutes looking thick mind giving me a spot then when they

say okay I just say thanks man and take it from there one of the keys of making a good first impression is if the other person thinks you're both similar so saying something you think the other person will relate to is a great idea if I'm in the bar on Slam poetry night for half price beer there's a lot of lingering anxiety and existential dread in the room that can only be expressed through metaphor and loose rhyme so what I like to do to show I'm on the same page is sit next to someone and

say hi I'm James what's your name oh nice to meet you hope oh man this stool sure is flimsy all we need now was a [Music] rope on the same note when I was taking engineering at University and I just wanted to make friends my go-to Icebreaker was sitting next to someone and saying hey man have you ever touched a woman's hand then they usually laugh nervously and I say don't worry me neither and give them a high five then I say I think it would feel like that but a bit softer sad times at

this point I wanted to mention that if you're a girl every guy on Earth would appreciate if you approached us first once in a while even if we aren't interested it's really flattering because it almost never happens in fact in my entire life I've been asked out by as many gay guys as I have girls which is zero so what what I'm saying is if I could get on the scoreboard in any way that would be nice now if you're going to approach someone you might be thinking H what if I get rejected that would

really hurt my ego and lower my self-esteem well that really as bad as living with the regret of not doing anything and wondering what could have been if you're as fragile as me it definitely is which is why I have a permanent arsenal of coping mechanisms on standby and I avoid difficult situations but with that said you can't expect someone or something to just fall into your lap so sometimes you have to remember that reject is just part of life and you might have to be a little bit courageous