13 Clever Ways to DEAL With TOXIC PEOPLE | STOICISM

[Music] the stoics an ancient School of philosophy believed that true strength lies not in conquering external forces but in mastering our own emotions in today's world this wisdom is more relevant than ever have you ever felt drained by negativity after interacting with someone toxic people can disrupt our mental well-being leaving us feeling frustrated and Powerless but what if there were practical strategies to navigate these difficult Dynamics we'll go over 13 practical stoic inspired ideas in this video that will give you the ability to handle toxic people with compassion Grace and even resilience join me on

a journey to protect your emotional well-being And subscribe to the channel for more tips on developing mental resilience by the end of this video you'll be equipped with a toolbox of stoic wisdom to handle toxic people effectively so take a deep breath and let's begin number one identifying and understanding the toxic threat take a moment to picture yourself serving as a guard at the entrance to your very own personal Citadel your inner Tranquility your physical health and your emotional safety are all represented by this Citadel without a doubt awareness is the first line of defense

in the process of protecting this Fortress as well in the same way that a watchful God has to be able to notice potential dangers you need to be able to recognize the indicators that a poisonous individual is approaching you epicus a stoic philosopher who was a proponent of reason and self-control tells us in his enidan that it is not what happens to you that upsets you more importantly it is your judgment of what happens it is especially important to keep this piece of advice in mind while dealing with poisonous people it is not the case

that their negative attitudes and manipulative acts have the ability to exert force over you your emotional reaction to these activities and how you perceive them are the factors that determine the effect that they have on your s of inner peace at any given moment how to cultivate a stoic gaze that is a calm and objective method of viewing the situation is the key to success learning to recognize the characteristics of poisonous conduct is a necessary step in this process listed below are some important warning signs constant criticism a toxic individual may find nothing but fault

with you your conduct or the decisions you make on a consistent basis although this criticism may be indirect or overt it will always leave you feeling deflated and uncertain about your abilities toxic people frequently resort to deceptive strategies in order to achieve the goals they have set for themselves in an effort to exert control over your conduct they may Resort to flattery guilt trips or even threats a toxic person appears to thrive on negativity negativity is a toxic person they are continuously whining and pulling others down with their pessimism so that they can focus on

the worst aspects of the problems they are concerned with additionally in addition to these General indications there are also several types of toxic person personalities that you should be aware of the narcissist is a person who is constantly looking for approval and adoration throughout their life it is possible that they are Charming at first but in the end their interactions are one-sided leaving you feeling emotionally exhausted this individual lives on social turmoil according to the gossip they are known to propagate rumors stir up trouble and take pleasure in causing friction between other people known as

the energy vampire this individual has the ability to Drain Your vitality as the term says interactions with them leave you feeling cognitively and emotionally drained and fatigued emotionally the development of a mental map of the potential dangers that could Beall your inner Citadel can be accomplished by first gaining an awareness of the many toxic personalities and the actions that they display in the same way that a Roman stoic philosopher like Sena might devise a plan to combat an adversary on the battlefield you may make use of your newly acquired awareness to anticipate the Strategies employed

by potentially harmful individuals and devise a strategy to safeguard your emotional well-being number two fortify your walls put yourself in the shoes of Marcus Aurelius the famous stoic emperor of Rome in order to rule a wide Empire one needed to possess power knowledge and unyielding determination when it comes to strengthening the walls of your own inner Citadel often known as your emotional well-being these same attributes are vital undoubtedly the boundaries that you have established are the foundation of of this Citadel when dealing with toxic people boundaries are the obvious lines that you create in the

sand to demarcate your boundaries they determine the kinds of conduct that you will and will not approve of you should not permit poisonous people to intrude on your emotional territory in the same way that a powerful Monarch would not permit his boundaries to be violated what comes into play here is the stoic philosophy which emphasizes the import importance of reason and self-control in order to take the initial step you must first determine which activities deplete your energy or violate your sense of who you are is it the persistent pessimism shared by a friend when a

coworker engages in manipulative Behavior the intrusive counsel of a member of the family make sure that you are open and honest with yourself about the things that you will not bear the next step when you have determined these boundaries is to communicate them in a clear and concise manner tap into your inner Marcus aelius and be firm while still being fair to facilitate effective communication the following are some strategies think on how you are feeling and use eye statements rather than making accusing words such as you are always so negative you could try saying something

something like I feel drained when you constantly focus on the unpleasant things be as specific as possible take care not to leave any chance for misunderstanding rather than saying something like I need some space you should say something like I can't talk right now but I'd be happy to chat later this week keep your word but be kind at the same time there is a distinction between being assertive and being aggressive it is important to convey your point with self assurance while avoiding animosity on the other hand establishing boundaries is not a one-time experience when

it comes to enforcing your boundaries you need to be hard and consistent just like a stoic ruler who is always on guard against Barbarian invasions a wall that is unstable is simple to dismantle in the event that a toxic individual disregards your limits you should remind them in a calm manner of the line that has been established it may even be necessary for you to restrict your interaction with the person or completely withdraw from the situation keep in mind that establishing limits is not about punishing someone rather it is about protecting yourself Envy a vice

that frequently serves as a source of poisonous talk was vigorously avoided by the stoics through the establishment of boundaries you are not engaging in selfish behavior rather you are merely safeguarding your emotional well-being and establishing the space that is necessary for you to build inner peace within the context of your stoic path toward a life of Peace a strong Citadel that is characterized by boundaries that are clearly defined and well defended is an essential component number three become uninteresting to the emotional Barbarian take into consideration a ferocious emotional Barbarian who is driven by pessimism and

is looking for a dramatic conflict there are certain poisonous persons who act in this manner they rely on attention on your emotional response and their negativity thrives on that in the hopes of eliciting a response a glimmer of Fury or hurt that will fuel their fire they constantly poke and poke with insults the stoic ideals of emotional regulation and indifference to external stimuli served as the inspiration for the gray rock method which comes into its own as a strong instrument in this context Paul fredman a therapist created a technique known as the gray rock method

it is a strategy that involves being emotionally less receptive it is is not about fully shutting down rather it is about providing the emotional equivalent of a smooth gray rock a surface that is neutral and unyielding and which does not provide any handholds for the negative to cling to in order to further dissect this approach let us draw upon the sage advice of Sena a great Roman stoic philosopher senica tells us that true happiness resides in enjoying the presence without anxious dependence upon the future this is a reminder that we should starve ourselves of the

need for attention people who are toxic most of the time seek attention whether it be positive or negative with the gray rock method you are preventing them from experiencing the emotional response that they are looking for in the midst of the storm that they are attempting to generate you become uninteresting and just like a dull Rock responses that are neutral serve as your armor the gray rock method entails reacting to negative statements with statements that are neutral and true on purpose it is important to refrain from becoming involved in emotional disputes or justifications if you

have a friend that is toxic and they insult your work you can deflect their assault by saying that's interesting without giving them any more fuel to feed their negativity toxic people frequently attempt to control your emotions thus it is important to avoid getting sucked into the emotional Vortex they could resort to sarcasm guilt trips or even plain hostility in their behavior in this situation the most important thing is to disengage from their emotional Vortex maintain your composure and respond in a factual manner refusing to become involved in their drama it is important to keep in

mind that Sena teaches that the path to genuine happiness is to not amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears you should not give them the emotional power that they are seeking the gray rock method is a potent instrument but it is not a substitute for a miracle cure it's possible that some toxic personalities will initially escalate their conduct putting your emotional Rock to the test keep your cool be consistent and keep in mind that you are not to blame for the negativity that they are displaying you can turn yourself from a passive victim of their

emotional theatrics into an unmoved spectator by applying this method that is influenced by stoicism this will defend your inner calm and emotional well-being number four the broken record technique imagine being subjected to a NeverEnding onslaught of manipulation a toxic individual chipping away at your boundaries through deceptive arguments and emotional PLO being subjected to such a persistent Onslaught can be both emotionally tiring and unpleasant Don't Be Afraid however the stoic principles of unshakable reason and perseverance serve as the inspiration for the broken record technique which emerges as a potent defense when used the broken record technique

is a strategy that was developed to combat deceptive tactics it entails patiently repeating a clear declaration about your position similar to how a broken record skips on the same unshakable message this method which appears to be quite straightforward has the potential to be remarkably powerful in repelling attempts to derail you and maintaining a firm focus on your requirements the stoic philosopher epicus is a Cornerstone of stoic philosophy therefore let us explore deeper into this technique by drawing upon his wisdom the phrase freedom is the only good to describe the power of perseverance this Freedom encompasses

the ability to determine your own boundaries as well as the Liberty to say no without providing an explanation this essential principle is exemplified by the Broken Record technique you are able to display your steadfast resolution and prevent the manipulator from pulling you off course by reiterating your Viewpoint in a calm and Relentless manner defending against emotional attacks for the purpose of gaining the upper hand manipulators frequently deploy emotional strategies they could try to manipulate you by using flattery guilt trips or even Fury in an effort to get you to do what they want you are

able to avoid these emotional assaults with the assistance of the broken record technique you are able to deflect their attempts to manipulate your emotions and keep the argument based in Reason by concentrating on the factual statement of your stuff the consistent repetition of your position can be very disconcerting to a manipulator this is because repetition is considered to be a form of Defense the flow of their conversation is disrupted they are thrown off balance and the holess of their arguments is brought to light imagine a wave crashing on a rock that is very strong The

Rock does not move at all while the wave ultimately disappears contrary to popular belief the broken record technique does not involve confrontation maintaining a firm focus on your stance while enforcing your boundaries in a calm manner is something that is important keep in mind that stoicism places a strong emphasis on reason and logic as The Guiding principles for managing the problems that life presents through the utilization of this method you give yourself the ability to resist exploitation and Safeguard your inner peace with unyielding determination number five don't take the bait imagine a skilled angler who

is casting a line that is baited with negative thoughts in the hopes of catching you in a Whirlpool of all kinds of emotional drama they dangle provocations insults or guilt trips in the hopes of eliciting a reaction that will fuel their drama and feed their negativity this is the strategy that many toxic people do however the stoic philosophy provides a great defense which is indifference this is not the same thing as apathy rather it refers to the state of being emotionally detached from something the stoics especially particularly philosophers such as epicus made a distinction between

apathy and indifference in their opinion apathy was a state that characterized a lack of concern and a state of listlessness the concept of indifference on the other hand refers to a disconnection from the unpleasant feelings and judgments that distort our own reason when it comes to dealing with toxic people this distinction is really important the following is an explanation of how stoic indifference can assist you in avoiding going for the drama bait be aware of the strategy the first stage is to be aware of the strategy become familiar with the Telltale signals that a toxic

individual is attempting to lure you in what exactly is it is it a CTIC remark a veiled insult or a guilt trip that is camouflaged as a proposal by the time you have identified the strategy you have to a certain extent rendered it ineffective the bait is intended to elicit a response such as wrath annoyance or defensiveness and it is important to detach yourself from the emotional hook stoic indifference on the other hand is a choice that allows you to avoid becoming emotionally tied to the negative aspects of the situation consider the scenario in which

you are unable to take the bait that is hanging in the water you examine it with cool composure unaffected by the power it possesses to Ang you let the drama dissolve when you don't respond to their negative comments the power that they have over you is diminished due to a shortage of fuel the drama that they are attempting to build is unable to last in the absence of a response their scathing remarks remain suspended in the air eventually losing their power it is not necessary to transform into a heartless and uncaring machine the practice of

stoicism promotes the expression of good emotions on the other hand it places an emphasis on detaching from negative emotions that you are unable to control and channeling your feelings toward things that you can control you can turn yourself from a passive player in their drama into a peaceful Observer by practicing stoic indifference this allows you to demonstrate the that you are not willing to become involved in their emotional web it is your own inner Serenity that continues to exist a refuge that is unaffected by the storms that others attempt to generate number six the art

of the non-reaction imagine somebody who is a verbal Gladiator someone who is a master of insults and Barbs and who thrives on the heated back and forth of an argument there are some poisonous folks folks who call this domain their home they use words as weapons with the intention of inciting anger humiliating you and ultimately luring you into their emotional sphere presented here is a stoic strategy that is not only effective but also frequently underappreciated the art of the non-reaction when deployed in a planned manner Silence has the potential to Be an Effective weapon against

the lethal verbal assault by causing A disruption in the dynamic that they want it disarms them astonishing quiet on the other hand is not something that comes effortlessly to everyone the desire to answer to defend ourselves or to win the argument is something that we are frequently conditioned to feel for ourselves stoicism on the other hand teaches us the significance of Master dur in our reactions and a Stillness maintained at the appropriate moment indicates true control in order to have a clearer understanding of the strength of the non-reaction let us consider the writings of Marcus

aelius the well-known Roman stoic Emperor putting a stop to the toxic dance people who are toxic frequently rely on a pattern that is predictable their tone is pessimistic and they anticipate a response from you when you show anger annoyance or defensiveness toward them you are adding fuel to their fire and maintaining the toxic dance having no reaction causes this pattern to be disrupted you are denying them the emotional response that they are looking for by choosing silence just for a moment picture a tennis players swinging their racket toward a court that is completely empty their

tremendous serve Falls with a thud and everything that follows is complete silence in this perspective silence is not empty it is a form of communication that conveys meaning without words this demonstrates that you have a high level of self-control and that you are unwilling to partake in their negative behavior the message that it sends is one of strength and non-attachment to the emotional manipulation that they are engaging in in it is important to remember that Marcus aelius advised us to waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be become one the attributes

of a good stoic are exemplified by your quiet you are calm reasonable and unmoved by the provocations that come from the outside world prepare yourself for the escalation when using the non-reaction it is essential to apply a planned approach wherever possible in the beginning a toxic person may increase their efforts by hurling further verbal insults in an effort to elicit a response from the other person keep your composure and remain unmoved in your quiet it is important to keep in mind that quiet is not a sign of weakness rather it is a powerful instrument that

is utilized by those who are truly strong the non-reaction is not a solution that can be applied in every situation but it is an important weapon in your stoic Armory it has the potential to disarm poisonous people defend your inner peace and demonstrate that you have power over your own emotions when it is utilized strategically when you choose quiet you are making a powerful message in and of itself because you are choosing not to play their game number seven limit your exposure imagine that you are inside your walled Citadel where your mental health is being

painstakingly preserved by strict boundaries during the entire process however even the most sturdy walls are not able to totally protect you from dangers that come from the outside contaminated individuals just like persistent Intruders May nevertheless make an effort to penetrate your safeguards the stoic idea of controlling what you can control comes into play at this point in the discussion for you although you are unable to control the actions of toxic people you are able to manage the amount of time you spend with them one of the first lines of Defense in this method is to

reduce the amount of time you spend interacting with people who are toxic when it is possible EST establish a physical distance would you be able to completely avoid them it is possible for you to reschedule a lunch engagement or to respectfully remove yourself from something that is being discussed keep in mind that this is not about being impolite rather it is about protecting oneself in the same way that a stoic leader would not send his forces into a conflict that was not essential you should not subject yourself a negativity that is simply not necessary nevertheless

it is not always feasible to avoid something completely on occasion toxic people may be people who work with you members of your family or even close friends and acquaintances in these kinds of circumstances establishing emotional distance becomes absolutely necessary this can be accomplished by the following strategies epic teach pus a notable stoic philosopher tells us that happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one another this is a quote by epicus which highlights the importance of mental Detachment nevertheless this does not imply that there is emotional involvement you are able to comprehend the pessimism

of another individual without allowing it to color your attitude exercise mental Detachment by observing their conduct in an impartial manner without allowing yourself to become emotionally invested in it cognitive reframing persons that are toxic to you will frequently attempt to control your feelings by using negativity cognitive reframing a method that is greatly influenced by stoic Concepts can be of great assistance in this situation transform their pessimism into an objective observation by reframing it in the event that a coworker is continually complaining for instance you may reframe the situation as they appear to be having a

difficult day rather than allowing their negativity to bring you down toxic people thrive on negativity thus it is important to focus on the positive try not to give them the ability to take away your happiness make a concerted effort to concentrate on the positive aspects of your life such as the personal interests you enjoy the significant work you do and the supporting friends you have allow yourself to be emotionally protected by these beneficial factors a safe haven from the negative that they bring there is no such thing as cowardice when it comes to limiting your

exposure both physically and emotionally protecting your inner peace and practicing self-care are both important stoics have a strong belief in the importance of leading a moral life and acting rationally when you reduce the amount of time you spend interacting with negative people and situations you make room for yourself to nurture a good and flourishing inner life imagine that your Fortress Is encircled by a large moat which in addition to being a physical barrier also serves as an emotional barrier protecting your peace from the advancing negativity of poisonous people number eight build your support system just

for a moment picture yourself serving as a guard at the entrance to your inner Castle your walls have been strengthened with boundaries you have perfected the art of non-reaction and you have reduced the number of toxic people you are present with how however in order to fully defend their position even the most courageous Warrior requires a powerful fank which is a formation of trustworthy allies your support system is your stoic Phan which is an essential component in ensuring that you maintain your inner Serenity when you are engaged in the fight against negativity the stoics especially

notably philosophers such as senica placed a strong emphasis on the significance of living a life that is in harmony with nature these guiding principles are exemplified by a network of virtuous individuals who are supportive of you who inspire you and who share your fundamental beliefs in difficult times you may turn to them for support and guidance they are the people who will listen to you offer wise counsel and offer unwavering encouragement one way in which a robust support system might serve as a buffer against the negative influence of toxic individuals is as follows in the

process of dealing with toxic people it can be emotionally draining to have a safe space for sharing it is possible to create a secure environment in which to analyze your experiences and express your frustrations when you have trusted friends or family members to whom you can confide their comprehension and compassion can serve as a vital support system serving as a reminder that you are not fighting this struggle alone toxic people frequently take away from your sense of self-worth but they may also be a source of encouragement an effective support system serves as a counterforce providing

you with encouragement and reminding you of your abilities and the value you bring to the world their faith in you has the power to strengthen your determination and rekindle the fire that burns inside you particularly in situations where negativity threatens to extinguish it setting an example of virtue and positivity the stoics held the belief that it is important to surround oneself with persons who exemplify the characteristics that one wishes to cultivate a network of virtuous individuals who are supportive of one another might serve as a positive role model it is possible to learn and develop

by seeing the strength resilience and optimistic Outlook that they possess this will help you increase your own capacity to gracefully manage negative situations the process of constructing a solid network of support is one that never ends in order to accomplish this you will need to cultivate relation relationships that already exist and look for people who match your beliefs in order to cultivate this beautiful fail lanks here are some ways to do so invest in quality time set aside time to have meaningful interactions with the people who are responsible for your support you may build a

sense of connection by sharing your experiences listening to theirs and sharing your own joining Club clubs volunteer organizations or online communities that are congruent with your interests and values is a great way to bring together people who share your values and interests this place is filled with people who share your values and who can serve as a natural source of support and encouragement it is important to remember that the power of showing gratitude to those who are supporting you can never be underestimated please express your gratitude to them for the great influence they have on

your well-being as well as for their presence in your life and their unflinching support through the cultivation of a robust stoic phalance you may establish a formidable Shield that protects you from the negativity that is caused by poisonous people strength perspective and a revitalized sense of optimism are all things that you acquire when you are surrounded by positive influences always keep in mind that even the most well-guarded Fortress might benefit from a robust defense from the outside your support system which consists of your trusty companions transforms into your unyielding failan guaranteeing that your inner Serenity

continues to possess a secure and protected Sanctuary number nine prior prioritize self-care making contact with toxic individuals is analogous to being confronted with an unrelenting assault in combat the emotional energy that you have is depleted and you may end up feeling exhausted as a result when it comes to protecting yourself against negativity self-care becomes an essential component much as a stoic Warrior would make it a priority to tend to their wounds and sharpen their blade after a battle your stoic style of living should include self-care as a fundamental component include it in your daily routine

and think of it as an investment in your mental well-being make it a priority alongside other vital chores and schedule it into your schedule your emotional reserves can be replenished and your resistance to negativity can be strengthened through the the following approaches of self-care participate in activities that bring you Joy determine the activities that bring you actual delight and can help you relax exercises that are physical in nature such as running or yoga as well as artistic activities such as painting or writing could fall under this category you are able to destress recharge your emotional

batteries and return to the world with Newfound energy and perspective when you participate in these activities and immerse yourself in them the stoics engaged in Awareness practices that were analogous to meditation these practices were also known as meditation through the practice of meditation you are able to calm your mind disengage from negative thoughts and create inner peace when you make meditation a regular part of of your self-care regimen you give yourself a great tool to manage stress and negativity whether it comes from yourself or from other people who are poisonous to you seek solace in

nature the stoics placed a strong emphasis on living in agreement with the natural world the act of spending time in natural settings whether it be a walk in a park or a hike Through the Woods has a significant influence on our overall health and happiness if you want to alleviate stress enhance your mood and gain a sense of perspective that can help you fight the negativity that you experience from toxic people then you should try to immerse yourself in the natural world as a type of preventative maintenance for your emotional well-being you might think of

self-care as practicing self-care a person who is well rested and centered is in a far better position to deal with with negative emotions in the same way that a stoic Warrior would make sure their armor was sturdy and their sword was sharp you may nurture your emotional resilience by engaging in self-care techniques listen to the signals your body sends you continuous communication is taking on between you and your body observe the symptoms of exhaustion tension or emotional depletion and pay attention to them to make self-care a priority you shouldn't wait until you are utterly exhausted

before doing so incorporate healthy eating make sure you get enough sleep and take breaks throughout the day the basis for your emotional resilience is laid by these routines which may appear to be straightforward in the same way that you established boundaries with people who are poisonous to you you should also establish boundaries around the time you spend on self-c carefully denying requests that might interfere with your time to relax or setting aside certain times throughout the day to engage in activities that promote self-care are examples of ways to accomplish this always keep in mind that

putting your own well-being first is not an act of selfishness rather it is necessary for preserving your emotional resilience you can become a more powerful and well-balanced individual by implementing self-care into your stoic way of life a stoic Warrior would be prepared to meet any adversary and you approach obstacles with a better perspective and emotional fortitude much like a stoic Warrior would it is important to keep in mind that having a full emotional battery enables you to more effectively deflect negativity and radiate positivity so establishing a formidable Shield against the toxic people in your circle

of existence number 10 remember it's not about you picture yourself with a dark cloud looming over you spewing out negativity and obscuring your view of the outside world when you're working with toxic people you will frequently encounter situations like this they create a poisonous environment by projecting their own worries insecurities and issues onto those around them which results in people being affected negatively the concept of proo papia which is rooted in stoic philosophy serves as a formidable defense mechanism in this context we are encouraged to view ourselves as intelligent observers who are standing outside of

the emotional tornado through the use of the phrase proo pooa which is utilized by stoic philosophers we become impartial analyzers of the issue separating ourselves from the negative aspects of the scenario and concentrating on the rational aspects when interacting with toxic people it is essential to maintain this level of Detachment because the insults and negativity they express are rarely directed at the individual rather they are reflections of the individual's own inner issues you can navigate the toxicity of toxic people by utilizing stoic Detachment in the following ways in order to divert attention away from their

own inadequacies toxic people frequently resort to blaming others criticizing others and being negative you are able to discern this projection for What It Is by applying the proa vocabul distancing yourself from the emotional undercurrent will allow you to observe their conduct in an impartial manner much like a scientist would while investigating a phenomenon you are able to comprehend that their negativity is a product of their own internal landscape and not a reflection of you or your worth when you have the ability to detach yourself from the situation for a moment their behavior is not a

ref ction of your character rather it is a symptom of themselves and the problems they are experiencing take for example the Dark Cloud although it may throw a shadow it has nothing to do with the ground that it momentarily obscures it from view the sky above still has the sun blazing brightly epicus a major stoic philosopher tells us that it is not that we have a short time to live but that we waste a l of it this highlights the need of focusing on your stoic path the length of Our Lives is sufficient and a

considerable quantity has been bestowed upon us for the most important reasons provided that we are able to make the most of it correctly if you want to avoid wasting your valuable time and energy you should avoid getting involved with the negative energy of toxic people maintain your emotional distance make it a priority to look after your own health and keep moving forward on the stoic path that will lead you to a life filled with virtue and calm it is not the same thing as apathy to be detached while it is possible to show compassion for

their troubles it is not necessary for you to become a victim of the emotional storms that they are experiencing you can protect your inner calm and emotional well-being by practicing stoic Det ATT M which requires you to change yourself from a passive Target into a centered Observer it is important to keep in mind that the sun is still shining brilliantly above the mountains of clouds number 11 don't try to fix them the desire to mend to heal and to engage in the role of a therapist can be powerful particularly when you are confronted with a

person you care about who engages in behaviors that that are harmful to others on the other hand in the sphere of stoicism this road frequently results in frustration and a depletion of one's own emotional reserves when it comes to cultivating transformation toxic individuals like plants that are suffocated by weeds require their own willpower and work this transition cannot be compelled by any means for the following reasons stoicism places a greater emphasis on concentrating on what you are able to control which is your own reactions and interactions rather than making an effort to change a toxic

person the onus of accountability the onus of accountability for the actions of a toxic person is entirely on the individual himself or herself it is necessary for them to make the deliberate decision to address their negative emotions and look for a way to achieve virtue trying to take on this responsibility for them will only result in an unhealthy Dynamic and will hinder them from taking responsibility for the problems they are experiencing one of the fundamental principles of stoicism is the acceptance of things that are Beyond one's ability to control this includes things like the actions

of other people the circumstances of the outer world and the everchanging conditions of existence the negativity that is exhibited by a poisonous person is a perfect example of this category because you have come to terms with this fact you have liberated yourself from the fruitless effort to alter them imagine that your inner Tranquility is a Blooming Garden this is the focus of your stoic Garden the toxic people in your life with their negative attitude are like weeds that threaten to suffocate the growth that you have painstakingly cultivated you are wasting your time and effort by

attempting to uproot them in the garden of another person put your attention on things that are important to you such as establishing positive connections tending to your virtues and engaging in self-care practices the stoic philosophy on the other hand places a high importance on assisting others in achieving virtue there are if you feel compelled ways to encourage a toxic person to engage in self-reflection however it is important to keep in mind that you have limitations instead of trying to dictate the path that they should take to change you should offer materials that could potentially stimulate

their own introspection then you would try to solve their problem a book on good communication a recommendation for a therapist or even just a kind suggestion to evaluate the consequences of their actions could be included in this depending on the circumstances you can have the most significant influence on others by demonstrating stoic principles in your own life this is the most effective way to lead by example you have the ability to act as a vient Beacon a monument to the transformational power of stoic ideas through your calm attitude measured responses and unwavering emphasis on virtue

sometimes despite your best attempts a toxic person will continue to be entrenched in their negativity it is important to know when to get away from them in circumstances like these stoicism recommends establishing boundaries and if necessary withdrawing from the situation in order to safeguard one's own well-being keep in mind that you are unable to influence their trip but you have the ability to pick your own path through the process of internalizing these ideas you will convert yourself from a frustrated fixer into a stoic facilitator you are able to provide assistance without jeopardizing your own health

and you are able to develop an a garden that may flourish in spite of the weeds that may be growing in other areas number 12 When to Walk Away imagine if you are looking for safety amid the Tranquility of your stoic castle of Refuge you have developed your emotional Detachment and you have planted a healthy inner Garden you have also strengthened your walls by establishing limits nevertheless in spite of your best best efforts the negativity that comes from a toxic individual continues to remain posing a threat to your defenses the ability to recognize when it

is appropriate to withdraw from a situation is a fundamental stoic precept making the decision to leave a toxic relationship particularly one that involves close family members or co-workers can be a decision that is extremely difficult to make prioritizing your mental health on the other hand is of the utmost importance stoics have a strong belief in the importance of leading a moral life and acting rationally in direct opposition to these ideals is the practice of maintaining a relationship that undermines your sense of inner calm this is why the stoic philosophy is consistent with the practice of

removing oneself from a harmful situation keeping your stoic Sanctuary safe your inner Serenity is your sacred Sanctuary a place of Refuge that you develop through self-care mindfulness and stoic practices and someone that is poisonous with their unrelenting negativity is comparable to a persistent siege that is being laid on your Fortress it is possible to safeguard your emotional well-being and secure your Sanctuary by removing yourself from the situ situation put your attention on what really matters senca a great stoic philosopher reminds us that life is a precious commodity by saying the whole future lies in uncertainty

live immediately live immediately continuing to be in a relationship that is unhealthy is a waste of this valuable time and energy you give yourself the opportunity to invest in positive connections meaningful Pursuits and experiences that nourish your spirit and contribute to a flourishing existence when you move away from whatever is holding you back accepting that which is out of our control is a key component of stoicism and other people's behaviors are a fantastic example of this moreover stoicism promotes Detachment during this period a decision to walk away from something does not indicate weakness or defeat

rather it indicates acceptance of a circumstance that you are unable to change and a deliberate choice to detach from negative emotions you are not giving up on the individual rather you are giving up on the poisonous Dynamic that is detrimental to your body and mind moving on from a situation is not a choice that should be made flippantly take into consideration the following factors have you tried every other possible course of action do you have any experience with communication establishing limits or providing resources is there a recurring pattern of negativity or is it a specific

instance do you feel that the connection has a significant impact on your well-being it's not necessary for there to be a dramatic scene as you walk away the gradual withdrawal of contact politely declining invites or simply limiting communication are all techniques that have the potential to be beneficial keep in mind that removing yourself from a situation is a stoic Act of protecting your inner calm and a type of self-care you can live a life that is led by reason virtue and peace if you make your well-being a priority this will allow you to create room

for positive relationships and experiences to develop number 13 forgive yourself consider the following scenario you are about to embark on a lengthy journey and you are carrying a hefty bag that is full of hatred and fury toward a poisonous individual the weight of this responsibility slows you down preventing you from making progress and draining your energy within the stoic framework forgiveness is defined as the process of releasing one's emotional baggage not for the sake of the other person but for one's own sake the stoics placed a strong emphasis on the significance of accepting things that

are beyond our ability to control with the actions of other people serving as a notable example the act of harboring hate and resentment toward a person who creates a toxic environment Falls clearly inside this category remaining steadfast in these unfavorable feelings will only cause you harm contaminating your present and casting doubt on your future stoic principles equip you with the ability to forgive yourself and free yourself from the load of negativity in the following ways concentrate on your inner landscape the stoics held the belief that the actual source of power is the ability to govern

one's own ideas and actions rather than the acts of others or the events that occur in the outside world in order to recover control of your inner landscape and make room for serenity and emotional well-being you must first forgive yourself and then let go of any animosity you may continue to Harbor forgiveness in the stoic understanding does not involve condoning the behavior of the poisonous person rather it is about accepting the behavior of the toxic person acknowledging what has occurred coming to terms with the fact that it is beyond your control and making the decision

to move forward with a lighter heart are all important steps the famous stoic Emperor Marcus aelius tells us that you have power over your mind you do not have power over events that occur outside of yourself make this a reality and you will discover your strength your ability to forgive gives you the ability to reclaim this power finding a way to break the cycle of negativity resentment is a prison that one has created for oneself if you continue to hold on to it you are allowing the toxic person to continue to have a detrimental impact

on your life even though they are no longer there a break in this cycle can be achieved by forgiving yourself which will release you from the emotional shackles of the past the process of forgiving oneself does not take place overnight in order to Foster forgiveness here are some ways to do so recognize your [Music] feelings the first thing you need to do is recognize the feelings of anger hurt or resentment that you are experiencing when these feelings are repressed it just serves to slow down the healing process practicing self-compassion entails treating oneself with the same

empathy and consideration that you would provide to a friend experiencing a same situation not only are you a victim of their negativity but you are also a victim of their behavior make an effort to evaluate the event in an objective manner by shifting your perspective was The Toxic individual acting maliciously or were there other things at play that contributed to the situation transforming your point of view can help cultivate empathy and understanding which in turn can pave the road for forgiveness a gift is something that you offer to yourself and forgiveness is a gift you

may make room for emotional healing progress and a life that is more rewarding by letting go of the burden of negativity imagine that you are going on your journey your backpack lighter and your heart lighter and that you are prepared to accept the adventures that are still to come with a renewed sense of strength and Tranquility you have the ability to convert yourself from a passive victim of toxic people into a resilient Warrior of Your Inner Peace by applying these 13 methods that are inspired by stoic philosophical thought keep in mind that a life that

is devoid of negativity is a life that is worth fighting for