How to stop worrying about past mistakes... | Buddhism In English

now bud we all know that forgiving is difficult right it is easier said than done now even in forgiving it is very easy to forgive for the mistakes that other people have done to us but it is really really difficult to forgive for our own mistakes for the mistakes that we have done in the past right and so many people we most of us worry about the things that are that has happened in the past about the things that we said in the past about how we act in the past how we lived in the

past and we get stuck in these mistakes and we waste a lot of time right but the Buddha teaches us a way to look at these mistakes and how to move on and how to move through them and how to grow through them so from this video we are going to discuss about about how can we deal with the mistakes that we have done in the past and how can we correct them and how can we deal with them so I want to share with you how the Buddha advised for the monks who have done

mistakes and how they got the advice to deal with it so the Buddha says the Buddha says for it is growth in the training of nobles to recognize a mistake for what it is deal with it properly and commit to restrain in the future so the Buddha says the first step of understanding and first step of dealing with a mistake that has done in the past is to accept it to see the mistake as it is to see the wrong thing as a wrong thing this is called acceptance now one of the most difficult things

for us to do is to accept that we have done mistakes why because there is something that hurt us in our mind right it is a really big problem and that is nothing but the ego we always think okay we are right we are correct and I will never do mistakes but the reality is we all are humans we all have imperfections we all have defilements in our minds so that we make mistakes right there's a saying that says as long as you make mistakes you are human so understand you're a human and you make

mistakes and the nature of your mind is to make wrong choices wrong things and do the mistakes for that you're okay with it right so that you understand the nature of your life that I'm a human and I make mistakes so you accept it when you accept it you don't hate yourself now the problem is not the mistake the problem is worrying about it brooding over it holding on to it and wishing that I wish I couldn't do that I wish I didn't say that no I I wish I didn't act like that so that

we waste a long long time right a valuable time that we can use to create something better for our life so that the Buddha says accept the mistake right accept that you have done the mistake remember acceptance is the first step of healing right acceptance is the first step of healing so that you don't hate yourself so that you are not in war with yourself now you open up your mind to move on so the Buddha says see the wrong thing as a wrong thing right see the mistake as a mistake and accept that you

have done it so the first step of dealing with a past mistake or wrong thing that you have done in in the past is to accept it so after accepting now what to do the Buddha says now reveal it to someone who can understand you right confess it how to do that you find some someone who can understand you right who can give you a good advice and who doesn't judge you and say it say to him that I did this mistake right this mistake was happened from me now why should you confess it now

when you confess it you're sharing what is inside you with someone that who can understand you okay there are many good things when you happen when you confess one thing is that your mind become free right because after doing a mistake if a mistake had happen one thing that keep criticizing us is our mind our self right so that understand when you confess you can free your mind right your your heart is not complaining you so that you opened up yourself right that is one good thing that happens when you confess and also you get

good advice from them how to deal with it sometimes for some problems we can we cannot deal with alone right you don't have to deal with every each and every problem alone right you can ask for help one thing that it is really really really difficult to do is to ask for helps right but if we ask it the helps will be given from the the right people right that is why the Buddha says do not go around saying your mistakes to everyone but find at least one person right we all can find at least

one person who can understand us who doesn't judge us from our mistakes and also who can give us good advice okay that is the good thing about having Noble friends around you okay so the Buddha says confess it open up yourself to someone who is very wise and who can give you advice and then the Buddha says the next step is to take right actions to not to happen it again not to make that mistake again and again so the Buddha [Music] says to be restrained in the future to to not to do that mistake

and to not to make that mistake happen again and again and and that is why they say that 100 times the same mistake is regression right if you do the the same mistake 100 times then there's no development right but 100 times different M mistakes is progression right we will do thousands and thousands of mistakes in this life but from every mistake if we take the decision to not not to happen it again right and you learn from it and you will make mistakes again and again but you learn from them understand that every difficult

situation every mistake that you make in life is a great lesson but the problem is we think that we should not be making mistakes we should not be doing wrong things and we think that we will be perfect forever but in reality we are not so that acceptance confession and taking right action to not to it happen again is the way to deal with the mistakes understand as long as you are human I will say this again as long as you are human you will make mistakes accept them confess them and then take right action

to not do it to happen again so that you can learn from your mistakes and you can grow through them keep this in your mind Nam budh