Say Goodbye To Toxic People From Your Life (Steve Harvey, Joel osteen, Oprah Winfrey, Jim Rohn)

if there are a lot of negative people in your life don't look at them look at the energy that you are creating to attract them don't look at them look at yourself what are you doing to draw those people because if you are surrounded by negative people there's a part of you that's willing to tolerate that birds of a feather flock together you run around with losers you will end up a loser unconsciously unconsciously you will pick up their ways you'll pick up their habits you pick up most importantly their attitude about life if you're

around cynical negative people all the time you will become cynical and negative so you gotta watch yourself many of us are living out the lives of other people living out their conclusions living out of their consciousness i've had to do a clearing in my life of some people whose energy i realized was not supportive of who i wanted to be in the world and i recognize there are people who are not going to take responsibility for the energy so i now have to take responsibility for the energy that i allow to be brought into my

space align yourself with powerful people align yourself with people that can encourage you people that can empower you people that you can learn from people that you can grow from that's very important so if you have people around you that can contribute to your growth when i want to become a speaker i joined the national speakers association i wanted to be around the dr norman vincent peales the zig ziglars the dwayne dyers this i wanted to be around people that were doing what i wanted to do what i know is that you cannot continue to

move forward in your life to the level and level and level that you need to be if you're surrounded by energy that brings you down that sucks the life force from you so not only are you responsible for the energy that you bring what i learned you're also responsible for the energy that you surround yourself with huge huge huge huge and everybody who's watching me right now i know that you know this is true there are some energy suckers in your life just literally taking the life force out of you and you will never be

able to do and be who you're supposed to be in the world as long as you continue to buy into the energy suckers positive influence can have an incredible effect on your life but so can negative influence both will take you somewhere but only one will take you in the direction you truly wish to go it's so easy just to dismiss the things that influence our lives the man says i live here but i don't think it matters i'm around these people but i don't think it hurts i would take another look at that i've

got a good phrase for you everything matters now sure some things matter more than others but everything matters everything weighs something so you've got to keep checking to find out whether associations are tipping the scales toward the positive or toward the negative it doesn't hurt to look right ignorance is never the best policy finding out is the best policy people around us can keep nudging us off course a little at a time until finally 10 years from now we find ourselves asking how did i get here those subtle influences need to be studied carefully if

we really want our lives to turn out the way we've planned now on this major point let me give you three key questions to ask this may help you to make a better analysis of your current associations here is the first question who am i around good question make a mental study of the major people with whom you most often associate you've got to evaluate everybody who is within the circle of being able to influence you so major question who am i around next question what are they doing to me that's a major question to

ask what have they got me doing what have they got me listening to what have they got me reading where have they got me going what have they got me thinking how have they got me talking and how have they got me feeling what have they got me saying you've just got to make a serious study of how others are influencing you both negatively and positively now maybe the influence of all those around you is okay but just ask yourself it doesn't hurt to ask who am i around and what are they doing to me

now here's the final question is that okay maybe the people you associate with and their collective influence is okay but then again maybe it's not all i'm suggesting here is that you take a close and objective look everything is worth a second look especially the power of influence you want to begin to get all the toxic people out of your life see ladies and gentlemen it takes a lot of energy to reach your goal takes a lot of emotional mental and spiritual energy to reach your goal so there are two kinds of relationships nourishing relationships

and toxic relationships nourishing relationships are the relationships that inspire you they motivate you they bring the best out of you toxic relationships are relationships with people that always criticize you all they can do is find fault all they can do is just exploit your weaknesses all they can do is remind you of the mistakes that you've made in the past these people are bad for your health toxic people can run your blood pressure up one apple can spoil a whole barrel one negative energy or energy drainer can spoil your whole life i know people whose

lives have been ruined because somebody wasn't good for them see there are some people that aren't good for you got to get them out of your life see a lot of people put up with a lot of foolishness because they don't want to die by themselves make a list of who you communicate with most and ask yourself the question what kind of person am i becoming because of this relationship is it helping me to grow mentally and emotionally and spiritually am i becoming a better person because of this relationship do they bring out the best

of me do they inspire me do they encourage me to develop my greatness do they make me stretch so you got to look at the people in your life and find out what kind of person are you becoming because of that relationship perhaps you've heard the story of the little bird he had his wing over his eye and he was crying the owl said to the little bird you're crying yes said the little bird and he pulled his wing away from his eye oh i see said the owl you're crying because the big bird pecked

out your eye and the little bird said no i'm not crying because the big bird pecked out my eye i'm crying because i let him hey it's easy to let influences shape our lives to let associations determine our direction to let persuasions overwhelm us to let tides take us to let pressures make us the big question is are we letting ourselves become what we wish to become if you're a person where all your friends come to you with their problems that's because they see something in you you're more balanced and stable but you got to

remember this whole saying if you're the smartest person in your group you need a new group you've got to upgrade your friends it ain't nothing bad you just got to upgrade people in your life but if you're the smartest person in your group you need a new group you cannot be the go-to person in the group you want to begin to get all the toxic people out of your life there are a lot of bridges in our life right a lot of things in our life a lot of people in our life and sometimes it's

family sometimes it's friends sometimes the people closest to you sometimes it's strangers but there are always people in our life that leads us back to something that's not good for our life i want you to think about this for a second maybe it's not now in your life maybe it's a point in time in your life where you had a lot of bridges and sometimes that bridges you like let's be real but you had a lot of bridges in your life bridges mean connections and relationships that are leading you to a lesser you so i

want you to think about this right now i want you to think about people in your life that aren't bringing to your life and i don't mean they have to bring something credible but sometimes we have people in our life that bring nothing but drama nothing but gossip nothing but rumors nothing but low self-esteem nothing but low integrity nothing but negativity all these things and we choose to keep these bridges up in our life and i want to just tell you this it's just facts and you got to know this the longer you keep bridges

in your life that need to be burned the more you prevent your life from building the bridges that need to be built some of us on here listen it's you were created incredible but some of us on here have believed the lies we believe the lies that people have told us we believe the lies how people treat us we believe the lies what this world has given us and we live a lie our whole entire life most of us on here if you're in this place you're not living the life that god gave for you

you're living the life that other people created for you you're living the life that pain created for you you're living the life that negativity created for you you're living the life that all these things have created for you now when you look at yourself you only recognize who you are because you've kept so many bridges in your life and i get it trend is so hard trained you don't understand trent i i've been around these people so long or had this job so long let me tell you something don't let the history keep you in

the misery don't let the length of the friendship keep you in the friendship that's terrible for your life like it comes to a point i'm always not always talking about oh get rid of people get rid of people but i know when you keep toxic things in your life you're going to feel toxic if you decide you want to be rich all you got to do is start why not who going to stop you unless you tell it to the wrong person mama mama listen to me i'm gonna be rich anybody rich in this family

go in there and sit down somewhere get yourself a good job oh mama you must be right no mama could be wrong because what you have in your imagination god didn't show it to your mama i'm sorry he showed it to you listen to me if y'all don't do nothing else write everything you imagine down write it all down pray about it and watch what happens energy drainers get them out of your life see ladies and gentlemen it takes a lot of energy to reach your goal takes a lot of emotional mental and spiritual energy

to reach your goal and you can run faster with a hundred who want to go than with one around your neck i want to talk to you today about connecting with the right people your destiny is too big to get there on your own god has already arranged certain people to speak faith into you he's placed in your path people to inspire you to challenge you to help you grow and accomplish your dreams but the reason some people never reach their highest potential is because they never get away from the wrong people everyone cannot go

where god is taking you you've got to connect with people that understand your destiny people that appreciate your uniqueness people that can call forth your seeds of greatness not people that are always pushing you down telling you what you can't become never giving you their approval no matter how good you do life is too short to drag people along if you will get the wrong people out of your life then god will bring the right people into your life and some of you the only thing that's holding you back is your inner circle the people

that are closest to you they're with you but they're not really for you you're constantly having to persuade them that you're okay and convince them to get on board you're spending all your time and energy on someone that doesn't understand your destiny your time is too valuable to spend it with people that are not 100 for you it's not the quantity of friends that's important it's the quality of friends i would rather have two good friends that i know are for me a hundred percent than to have 50 friends that are only for me 80

percent there's no way i can help myself there's no i can help the people who deserve my help if i'm keeping things in my life that's making me feel helpless you have to guard your heart you have to burn every single bridge that leads your life back to the structure you have to burn every single bridge that leads your life back to negativity you have to burn every single bridge that leads your life back to low self-esteem and the more that you don't know who you are the more that you don't tap into guarding your

heart because you're letting people stump on your heart you're letting people take uh take advantage of your life the more you're doing that then you're not gonna have confidence in yourself and you're gonna believe the lies that people have told you like straight up you have believed the lies that someone else has told you you let a broken person break you you let a person that don't know how to love break you you let a person don't know what loyalty is break you am i telling that you have to have a perfect relationship or friendship

absolutely not mistakes are going to be made in this life but the same mistake shouldn't be repeated because when you repeat the same mistakes this is as a personal message too when you repeat the same mistakes over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again it is not a mistake it has become a choice someone is choosing that action over and over and over again you need to evaluate who's on your team who's speaking into your life who you're giving your time and energy to in other

words who you eating lunch with every day at the office who you talking to on the phone so much are they building you up or tearing you down are they inspiring you to go further are they telling you what you can't do no don't spend your time with people that don't make you better some of you don't realize how much that one negative influence is holding you back you don't know how much more you would accomplish how much more you would grow how much more you'd enjoy life if you just make necessary changes there are

two kinds of relationships nourishing relationships and toxic relationships nourishing relationships are the relationships that inspire you they motivate you they bring the best out of you toxic relationships are relationships with people that always criticize you all they can do is find thought all they can do is just exploit your weaknesses all they can do is remind you of the mistakes that you've made in the past these people are bad for your health toxic people can run your blood pressure up one apple can spoil a whole barrel one negative energy or energy drainer can spoil your

whole life i know people who lives have been ruined because somebody wasn't good for them see there are some people that aren't good for you they aren't good for you've got to get them out of your life everybody cannot be a loser some people have to be successful so in me in my reality i'm successful so i hate when they use that oh let's be realistic you never did this before you never did that blah blah blah come on they can't see from themselves so there's no way they can see it for you think about

that guys if these people never been successful how can they how can you really expect them to support you and want you you know to get to that next level and be successful they never saw themselves they never had it so just keep that in mind when talking to friends and family you need to make sure the people in your inner circle believe in who you are they celebrate your gifts and they're pushing you further not holding you back some of you today if you don't very kindly and politely show someone the door they're going

to keep you from becoming all god's created you to be well he said yo what if i hurt their feelings what if they keep you from your destiny what if they keep you from accomplishing your dreams and making a difference in our generation i can't think of anything worse than to come to the end of our life and realize we have not become what god's created us to be a lot of times we think i know this person is not a good influence i know they're keeping me from growing but if i make a change

i may not have any friends i may be lonely yes you may be lonely for a season but you never give up something for god that he doesn't give you something back better in return if you'll make the change god will not only give you new friends he'll give you better friends friends that you don't have to wonder are they for me or against me friends that don't try to manipulate you into who they want you to be but they celebrate you and help you become who god's created you to be [Music] [Music] [Music] you