Stop Being Nice, You Should Be Selfish

you need to be more selfish you're letting those that depend on you down by not being selfish enough are you confused well soon you won't be if you actually knew how things worked you would focus much more on yourself you would be much more selfish and that would help you accomplish all that you want to make this super clear let's get into understanding why exactly being selfish is better for not only you but for the world and then lay out the four actionable tips that will help you be more selfish in the right way with the last tip being a secret one that the founders of the largest companies in the world swear by as a key reason for their success let's get it okay so why is being selfish better for you and the world No. 1 naturally you are selfish being selfish has an unfortunate stigma attached to it we automatically think that being selfish is a bad thing well with most things in life there's some wisdom to be had from contrarian thinking being selfish is a very natural thing that is essential to your survival growth and impact to the world eating food sleeping resting learning growing these are all selfish things if you were not selfish you would be stuck you would not strive for anything it's coded into us to be selfish so it's foolish to fight against this natural drive it's wise to think past society's stigma and embrace selfishness as a core principle to the quality of your life including your positive impact to the world No. 2 being selfless too early doesn't help as much what if you were purely selfless right now you followed society's themes and you went full charitable and giving I'm sure you would be able to impact some lives your time and energy would be felt but your contribution would be limited by the capabilities assets influence that you have been able to gather so far selflessness is an admirable trait exhibiting much heart and character but reality is that if you don't exercise selfishness you won't be growing your potential impact to the world to illustrate this point let's imagine a few different scenarios first let's imagine you were raising chickens and you started with one chicken if you were selfless from the start you would give away that few eggs that came from that one chicken you would be able to help someone out one egg per day you'd have a big heart you would be identified as selfless but your impact would be one egg per day now let's think about the selfish alternative you would take that one chicken and you wouldn't give those eggs away you would rather raise chicks and those chicks would turn into chickens you would delay giving away any eggs to focus on growing your farm so that it is able to produce much more eggs to help much more people so focusing on growth and not helping anyone else but yourself eventually will get you to the point where you are able to drive larger impact the others and the world No.

3 giving when you have more to give the more you focus on yourself the more capabilities assets and influence you will have the more you'll be able to impact the world positively a healthy way to think about it is like this every time you make a selfish decision focused on your own growth in your own development it's like pouring water and spreading fertilizer onto the tree of your life and the larger your life tree grows every time you make a selfless decision a branch is cut off to be used to help someone else the more you grow your life tree the larger and more bountiful the tree's limbs and fruits will be that you can help more people in bigger ways so worry about giving when you have plenty to give for the time being focus on being selfish and building up that potential energy okay now let's get into tips and tricks on how to be more selfish the right way No. 1 change your mindset this concept comes up a lot in our channel because it is such a powerful and useful one you should think about yourself as another person that you take care of almost like an out of body experience where you have to imagine that you are viewing yourself from a third person point of view make decisions and plans for yourself as if you are making it for another person grow that person who is you feed that person protect that person from spending their potential too early build up that person's capabilities assets influence it's as if you were playing a video game and your sole focus was to keep leveling up this character so that it can defeat bigger and badder bosses same exact thinking here an interesting thing happens when you're able to utilize this perspective you start exercising your selfless muscle on yourself this way you feel less strange about making more selfish decisions because you start viewing the situation as you optimizing for this other character which is actually you hope I haven't lost you here a big shift occurs when you view yourself like another entity that needs your care and management it's a big life unlock that you'll hear about throughout this channel No. 2 have delayed selflessness do you feel guilty at the thought of being more selfish is it eating away at you okay here's the thing it's not like you are abandoning your selfless nature it's actually quite the opposite you are asking those in need to wait because you are going to come back being more powerful that you'll be able to handle more with less effort it's the concept of delayed gratification you delay the smaller reward now so that you can enjoy the larger reward later and in this case it's the world enjoying your larger potential later by suffering the short term pains now and it's usually not even suffering any short term pains because many of the short term problems will be solved in other ways it may feel like you have to swoop in and save people but the reality is you don't really have to people are very versatile things will get figured out so all in all it's better that you focus on your own self and not get distracted you all remember that study where little children were presented with a marshmallow and were given a choice eat that marshmallow now or wait a few moments and get two marshmallows yeah this is the same thing resist the marshmallow team there's a ton more marshmallows with your name on it if you just think about things in the right way chickens trees marshmallows all of these fantastic analogies I love it No.

3 focus on your capabilities and potential you'll have to be laser focused on what you want to develop what assets do you want to accumulate what capabilities do you want to grow what kind of influence do you want to nurture you have to get very intentional on the kind of development you wanna work on there are many videos in this channel that speak about identifying your goals shaping your vision being clear on what transformation you want the gist of it is become very clear what you want write it down then take the microsteps that will get you there these are all very selfish things because they will be focused on working on you and working on your wealth for example some assets that you could have as targets you want a stock portfolio that pays you dividends of $10,000 a month you want cash flowing rental properties that generate more than $20,000 of net cash flow per month you want your own business that your time is not tied to that generates more than $40,000 a month be super specific write it down put it where you see it all the time become laser focus an example for capabilities would be you want to learn how to create digital content that your community loves to enjoy on YouTube you want to learn how to refurbish old furniture so that you can resell it and also make content about it you want to learn how to buy and turn around small businesses so you can profit from them and create an online course for others to learn from you again be super specific be very intentional the more specific and clear your goals are the more automatically you will drive yourself towards them No.